Fuck buddies.

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

A couple of years back I had a fuck-buddy relationship that worked really well. If neither of us was in a relationship, we'd meet-up once a month for a nice meal, a night out, and loads of sex. When she or I began a relationship, we stopped. She was an exceptional girl in that respect: that she could separate one thing from the other.

I'd be interested in hearing other opinions on the fuck-buddy idea. For me, it was the ideal relationship, at that time. How did it work for you? Does this thing work, or is it considered differently, in the US than over here in the UK? I'm quite sure this has been covered before, but I would like to hear the thoughts of the current readership.

And no, I didn't post this in the personals thread accidentally! No I'm not, and yes I am!

Wolf

 

[kcbigkid]

It can work if both parties

Under stand that its a here and now situation. Sometimes Married folks get involved in them when their homelife gets barren. I really think that if two mature people know and understand what they want, then it can work. But finding that right Fuckbuddy is hard.

You really don't want to find that person at work and sometimes its better playing by the 50 mile rule.

Discreet but fun can work for both parties.

 

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

thanks k-d

we were two singles. throw marriage in the mix and yes, you have a complication!

if married people get themselves into such sit's, then....

i'm looking for single gals, oops folks!

wolf

 

[English Lady]

drats...foiled again


*walks away muttering*



you're not up for a threesome are ya wolf?


good luck in your search hun!

 

[kcbigkid]

threesomes are great fun especially for the lady. As its all about her pleasure.

 

[Denae]

fuck buddies

Years ago when I was in college I had a fuck buddy-sex was great! He was lousy boyfriend material which I was able to watch from the sidelines. We were fuck buddies for a couple of years, until he told me he was engaged. A couple of years after they were married, we ran into each other and the sparks were still there. I didn't sleep with him though because I respect marriage and drew the line.

I would love to have a fuck buddy now. I was celibate for 7 years until last August. I had a devastating life experience, but there was a nice young man who was my rock & one thing led to another (over and over for a few months). We started spending some time together again, without sex in the picture-but I think it's a matter of time. I won't go 7 years without sex again, I can tell you that.

 

[HandsomeHunk]

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Hmmmm a fuck buddy....yes I have experienced that a few times in my life.. I have a neighbor lady who has has a "Buddy" for the last nine years...thay can't stand each other but it doesn't get in the way of their sex..I don't understand it...

Yes..I think I'd like a "Fuck Buddy".....

 

[77Cobra]

Fuck buddy

Years ago I had a couple.One worked out great we were good friends even after I got married,one of the best female friends I ever had.The other was a nightmare from hell.Turned into a fatal attraction for her.She would not leave me alone,came to my house at 3: in the morning beating on the bedroom window yelling I know you are in there come on I need fucked etc. Man am I glad that one is over.

 

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

drats...foiled again


*walks away muttering*



you're not up for a threesome are ya wolf?


good luck in your search hun!

You didn't recognise Mr wolf when you posted this did you, you little minx!

I'm loading a new tape in the cam and heading north!!

wolf

 

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

threesomes are great fun especially for the lady. As its all about her pleasure.

I hear that kcbigkid! And some guys enjoy watching their women get some!

Didn't someone once say, "Two heads are better than one"?

Eureka! I finally understand that!

wolf

 

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

Re: fuck buddies

Years ago when I was in college I had a fuck buddy-sex was great! He was lousy boyfriend material which I was able to watch from the sidelines. We were fuck buddies for a couple of years, until he told me he was engaged. A couple of years after they were married, we ran into each other and the sparks were still there. I didn't sleep with him though because I respect marriage and drew the line.

I would love to have a fuck buddy now. I was celibate for 7 years until last August. I had a devastating life experience, but there was a nice young man who was my rock & one thing led to another (over and over for a few months). We started spending some time together again, without sex in the picture-but I think it's a matter of time. I won't go 7 years without sex again, I can tell you that.

Denae,

Thanks for posting. You were intimate for two years before he told you he was engaged? Okaaay....

Isn't it weird how you can see your life unfolding, or unravelling sometimes, in the third-person? But you followed your conscience and did the right thing. Hey, you feel good about that, okay?

You do highlight an important thing I didn't mention: openness and honesty. We both knew the rules before we got involved. We broke-off a couple of times, but got back when we both were single.

I don't know about being celebate. We guys can knock-one-out in the bathroom and be good-to-go thirty seconds later!

But I think the "buddy" part of the fuck-buddy relationship can be just as important sometimes. (Apologies for the crude and vulgar attempt at levity! Didn't want to end on a downer!)

wolf

 

[English Lady]

I did recognise you Mr wolf....and that was just the response I wanted to elicit from you

 

[Luv4play]

I had a couple fuck buddies when I was younger - then learned that a couple strong orgasms and MOST women fall in love. Again - most. Not all - but I think they're hard to find. The fuck buddies I had were agreed upfront - just fuckbuddies - then emotions came into play. I guess I wasn't mean enough after the orgasms.

I think women are wired different than men with separating sex from emotions.

Jake

 

[Denae]

Re: Re: fuck buddies

Denae,

Thanks for posting. You were intimate for two years before he told you he was engaged? Okaaay....

Isn't it weird how you can see your life unfolding, or unravelling sometimes, in the third-person? But you followed your conscience and did the right thing. Hey, you feel good about that, okay?

You do highlight an important thing I didn't mention: openness and honesty. We both knew the rules before we got involved. We broke-off a couple of times, but got back when we both were single.

I don't know about being celebate. We guys can knock-one-out in the bathroom and be good-to-go thirty seconds later!

But I think the "buddy" part of the fuck-buddy relationship can be just as important sometimes. (Apologies for the crude and vulgar attempt at levity! Didn't want to end on a downer!)

wolf

I didn't think you were crude/vulgar at all. .

I guess I didn't explain myself very well. He & I screwed around off & on for a couple of years-only when we were both in a dry spell so to speak. When we were sophomores we stopped because we both were getting serious about school. Then at the beginning of junior year I called him and he mentioned he was engaged...and we didn't hook up at all. Hell no I wouldn't have messed with him for 2 years if he'd been serious or exclusive with anyone, much less engaged. I don't do that to people--believe me when you've caught your boyfriend red-handed with his hand in the cookie jar-you won't do it to anyone else (at least I won't).

I totally agree with you about the buddy part being just as important. That's part of the reason that I'm careful with my friend right now. He was my rock in a rough time & I don't want to lose that part of him ever-I'm more concerned with him wanting more from me.

 

[jimmylijn]

I had a fuck buddy years ago when I was in my eary 30's. It worked out great for both of us. I ended up falling in love with her, but that's another story.

 

[Windpoet72]

Fuck buddies are a great thing, right up until some one gets a little to attached, it's not supossed to happen but it does and in my opinion it's like a game of Russian Roulette, sex is power ful thing and the wrong combination of things at the rong time and well...BANG.
I'm not saying don't do it just becarful... there are a lot of people in the world that are a little... yeah you know.

 

[Vay]

I could use a Fuck Buddy! LOL! I've done it before long ago. It's not hard when both parties understand the deal. When there's too much attachment, that's when problems arise.

So, any ladies looking for an IL fuddy?

 

[Headbanger21]

20/m from michigan seeks the (practically) impossible

of course, looking for a fuckbuddy, not expecting anything. like someone else (i forget who) mentioned a few posts ago, most women arent wired like that. a one night stand..maybe, but geniune fuck-buddy status is very difficult to find. try telling a woman that you like her but just want to fuck her. no matter how you say it...lol lets just say it doesn't come out right.

 

[Missingmeds]

I am glad that I am one of women that is wired that way. I would like a steady fuckbuddy but here they are impossible to find.

 

[WolfenJ]

Fuckbuddies

To be honest, I've been looking for a new fuckbuddyette (is this correct? ) for a while......

When you can both be comfortable that your looking for the same thing.... the sex is great!!!

 

[Secret Kate]

It's when you aren't looking that you tend to find someone - wether for FB or for a relationship I think!

I wasn't looking, but happened across a great FB. He and I are both married - and in the type of marriage that you want out of but you don't. We both have kids that it would tear apart too much - I know I've tried to get out but stayed because I couldn't bear to see the pain the kids were in when I was trying to leave. Anyway....

Back to the fun of FBs! It is hard to keep the emotion out of it sometimes, but when you find the right match of friend and sex it's incredible!!!

 

[iahtexan]

Hello everyone, I have not had a fuck buddy but would entertain any and all offers from the ladies...

 

[Vay]

It's when you aren't looking that you tend to find someone - wether for FB or for a relationship I think!

Very true!

 

[FriscoMale2004]

it would be really great to see if there a re any interested parties in the Dallas area.

 

[wolf_hunting_vixen]

Thank you to all the guys who posted. Guys being a generic term!

I guess the dilemma lies in the fact that: you have to fancy the FB (or maybe not!) but can easily let go, for whatever reason. My situation was that the pretty, big-breasted black girl had exactly my mentality. We tried the relationship deal, but when we both realised it wouldn't work, we downshifted into FB mode.

Anyway, having served notice on my predilection for pretty, big-breasted black girls, I'll again say ta to the people that posted.

Not-unrelatedly, I'll politely request, for anyone interested, that you redirect your attention to my Boston/New England thread.

wolf