Frustrated

[Mysteryman5500]

This thred is more for maried couples but im open to any answers. I'm maried and I like most men laughted about the lack of sex after mariage jokes. But have noticed the reality of it. When my wife and I have sex it is great!!!! But the quantity of sex always seams to be lacking to me. Is my sex drive just that much more than my wifes or is work, kid Etc. getting in the way. Is there anything that I can try too increase her interest? Women do you have this problume??

 

[wildflowerblooms]

mine is the opposite....i always want it and he is tired from work or kids arent going to sleep like they should......wish i could get it more...lol.....but its good when i get it....we actually have it lots but not enough for me......id like it a couple times a day if i could....but i guess few times a week is allright....

 

[Mysteryman5500]

Thanks

I know Exactly what you meen. I feel like I want it constantly but she never seams ready or willing. There is always something else more important work, kids, laundry " we can do it later!" but by later she is tired or isn't in the mood any more!

 

[cherrylips_au]

Don't we all want it more often ? lol

I can't offer a solution I think most couples go through that. My partner and I went from a really frequent sexlife (a couple of times a day) slowly decreased as our lifestyles got busier. Then we had children and it slowed again. We still kiss cuddle and hold hands in public, even flirt with each other so we both show interest but we try to be realistic about how much time we have for ourselves. We try to have sex a few times a week but that doesn't always happen.
If both partners are showing interest still then I think you can work things out. Maybe try to make a regular night where you plan for sometime together even if it doesn't end in having sex you might find it helps.

 

[MissTaken]

When I was married, my husb would periodically make the same complaint.

My suggestion to him, when we were seriously talking and trying to work it out was,

"If you help me with some of the laundry and kid care, it could free up some of my time so we could be together."

So, YOu might try freeing up some of her time by helping out.


Good Luck.




PS: As he is my ex husband, the logical conclusion is that he decided not to be helpful! It would be a correct assumption lol

 

[Mysteryman5500]

Thank you!

Thank you for the replys. I will give your sugestions a try and see if it is a help!