From Fantasy to Reality: Breaking the Barrier

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I hope I'm putting this in the right place. I normally hang out at the Playground but I knew this shouldn't be put there. I've recently met a man who will be bringing lots of my fantasies to reality. He's a Dom with experience and I'm a sub with hardly any experience. The thought of having my fantasies fulfilled and growing as a sub excite me a lot. I love the newly discovered lifestyle. I wish I knew of it decades ago. What I didn't expect is being nervous about everything. Be careful what you wish for? The two of us seem to really click together. We're to meet in RL soon just to confirm that. So, any advice you have will be helpful. I'd love to hear from other subs who have experience.
 
I don't have any great deal of experience, but do have a few experiences of moving OL to RL The only advice I would give is don't expect too much. I'm not trying to put a dampner on it for you, but it doesn't always turn out to be what you hoped for, despite a great online/phone rapport. Good luck though.
 
Hi. You sound a little like me. I always had fantasies about BDSM but am in a vanilla marriage complete with young kids. I met a man on a wifesharing site (something my husband is very into) I found out after IMing and emailing with him that he is an experienced Dom. After just knowing him a short time he was telling me stories about past subs and what he was in to. I was so excited, yet terrified!! I talked to my husband about it and he said that he trusted my instincts and to go for it but proceed with care.

This guy and I chatted for hours every day for months beofore actually meeting in real life. He encouraged me to talk about my fantasies and in turn he taught me about D/s relationships. He encouraged me to seek out information and readings on it. For me reality was even better than the fantasy and the phone sex etc. That was 2 years ago. I am now his collared sub. He has been extremely patient with me and has taken his time bringing fantasy to reality for me.

I still get nervous and a little scared before everytime I go to see him (it is a long distance relationship) but it is more of a nervous excitement than fear.
 
I don't have a heck of a lot of advice, other than to make sure to keep the lines of communication open. I mostly wanted to offer you a congratulations on your new relationship, and say good luck with your first meeting.
 
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