Friendship vs. Romance
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This is sooooo true!
A common mentality among myself and my friends is that relationships come and go but friendships last forever....you may get dumped but your friends will always be there to support you.
That's why I always make sure I keep in touch with my friends even though I have a girlfriend....and it's the first rule I always lay down in a relationship.
A common mentality among myself and my friends is that relationships come and go but friendships last forever....you may get dumped but your friends will always be there to support you.
That's why I always make sure I keep in touch with my friends even though I have a girlfriend....and it's the first rule I always lay down in a relationship.
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It's so interesting that females are the ones who are supposed to be loyal, and yet we're the first ones to ignore our friends because of our new loves. Perhaps if we were more like males (in this one thing only) we wouldn't be so crushed when our male-female relationships end. At least then our friendships would still be strong rather than having to try and mend them while getting over the (insert adjectives) male that has just hurt us.
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Re: Well for some Lavy
That is true....
I have a friend who went through a particularly harrowing breakup.....me and my friends helped him through it, and one day he said to us that he values us the most and we made a promise to never let relationships get in the way of our friendships.
A year later he's found a new girlfriend and has totally deserted us for her. He even blew one of my friends off recently, even though he hasn't seen him for about four months, to meet her!
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That is true....
I have a friend who went through a particularly harrowing breakup.....me and my friends helped him through it, and one day he said to us that he values us the most and we made a promise to never let relationships get in the way of our friendships.
A year later he's found a new girlfriend and has totally deserted us for her. He even blew one of my friends off recently, even though he hasn't seen him for about four months, to meet her!
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]lavender said:
That is shameless!
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True friendship...
...is forged not made.
It means you know everything there is to know about a person - wall to wall carpeting so to speak.
Whereas romance is what it implies - a casual, shallow thing that hasn't yet developed into anything else. It hasn't had the time.
But a good point Lavender. Do women mistake romance for friendship for love. Do they fall into romance, thinking it's love , too easily? Is that why women are often disappointed at the men they have chosen?
Yes lots of points in your post that are thought provoking.
...is forged not made.
It means you know everything there is to know about a person - wall to wall carpeting so to speak.
Whereas romance is what it implies - a casual, shallow thing that hasn't yet developed into anything else. It hasn't had the time.
But a good point Lavender. Do women mistake romance for friendship for love. Do they fall into romance, thinking it's love , too easily? Is that why women are often disappointed at the men they have chosen?
Yes lots of points in your post that are thought provoking.
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It wasn't me?
I had the opposite thing happen when Mr. Mischka and I started getting serious - all of my male friends dropped me. Before we started dating, almost all of my friends were male, to the point where when we went out as a group, I was always begging them to "set me up" with female friends. Then when it looked serious with Mr. Mischka, almost all of my male friends dried up and I had to do some serious female friend searching. I don't know if the guys were silently interested in me and they realized their chance was now nil, or whether they didn't want to crowd to the new male. Either way, now I have more female friends than male friends, which is a first for me.
I had the opposite thing happen when Mr. Mischka and I started getting serious - all of my male friends dropped me. Before we started dating, almost all of my friends were male, to the point where when we went out as a group, I was always begging them to "set me up" with female friends. Then when it looked serious with Mr. Mischka, almost all of my male friends dried up and I had to do some serious female friend searching. I don't know if the guys were silently interested in me and they realized their chance was now nil, or whether they didn't want to crowd to the new male. Either way, now I have more female friends than male friends, which is a first for me.
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Wierd...
I have very few female friends that I would classify as really close.
I've always find guys to be more dependable and more reasonable when we are discussing problems and such.
And illogical females annoy the hell outta me
I have very few female friends that I would classify as really close.
I've always find guys to be more dependable and more reasonable when we are discussing problems and such.
And illogical females annoy the hell outta me
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Re: Wierd...
Because you're literally thinking with the wrong side of your brain. It's been "proven" by neuropsychologists that when dealing with a problem males use the left side of their brains and females use the right. And guess where most of the "logic" centers are?
Ask For More said:I have very few female friends that I would classify as really close.
I've always find guys to be more dependable and more reasonable when we are discussing problems and such.
And illogical females annoy the hell outta me
Because you're literally thinking with the wrong side of your brain. It's been "proven" by neuropsychologists that when dealing with a problem males use the left side of their brains and females use the right. And guess where most of the "logic" centers are?
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Re: Re: Wierd...
Is that for real?
Wow....
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Is that for real?
Wow....
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Re: Re: Wierd...
Back to the topic at hand, I think we are lumping all women in the same category. Insecure women over-involve themselves in one man to compensate for something they lack in themselves. Happy women are just as reasonable and logical as males (ok, I'd argue moreso
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Actually, women have a stronger and more durable corpus callosum than men. So women use both hemispheres of the brain moreso than men. Which is why men tend to be extremes (hence more male geniuses) while women survive strokes better, are not as prone to senility, and are the more stable element of society.morninggirl5 said:
Back to the topic at hand, I think we are lumping all women in the same category. Insecure women over-involve themselves in one man to compensate for something they lack in themselves. Happy women are just as reasonable and logical as males (ok, I'd argue moreso
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Re: Re: Re: Wierd...
Yes, it's for real. And in case you missed it the logic centers are in the left side of the brain. I learned all of this in a course on Exceptional Children last summer. The professors were a husband and wife and afterwards, male-female interactions, and especially learning styles(what I was supposed to be learning about) made a LOT more sense.
Ask For More said:Is that for real?
Wow....
Yes, it's for real. And in case you missed it the logic centers are in the left side of the brain. I learned all of this in a course on Exceptional Children last summer. The professors were a husband and wife and afterwards, male-female interactions, and especially learning styles(what I was supposed to be learning about) made a LOT more sense.
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Re: Re: Re: Wierd...
Mischka said:Happy women are just as reasonable and logical as males (ok, I'd argue moreso
Yeah right!
I know lots of illogical men.
But i know many many many more illogical females who even admit it as well
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Mischka
That statement is a total contradiction since the illogical female brain would of course postulate that the female is always correct, when in fact this is not true
That statement is a total contradiction since the illogical female brain would of course postulate that the female is always correct, when in fact this is not true
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lavender said:Hey you smart types, get off this damned threads.
I was sure it would bring out the dollie-brigade.
Stop being so illogical
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Ah, misstep in logic yet again. I never said you were wrong, merely that we must take into account your lesser abilities to logically analyze females and males' capacity for logic. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, so you never know...
And sorry for interrupting your thread, Lavy. Should I giggle or something to make up for it?
Ah, misstep in logic yet again. I never said you were wrong, merely that we must take into account your lesser abilities to logically analyze females and males' capacity for logic. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, so you never know...
And sorry for interrupting your thread, Lavy. Should I giggle or something to make up for it?
