Friends relationship problem.

[DormantEvil]

Hi everyone. I'm trying to help a friend with a problem I think most guys will have come across in their dating/long term relationship lives.

What happens when your partner, girlfriend, whatever becomes disconnected in a relationship?

They say its due to work related stress, so they just don't feel as clingy and interested, like their energy is depleted. But on the occasions they mess around with foreplay, she enjoys oral and occasionally gives back. But she always stops shy of intercourse. Usually they have sex and keep things nice and safe, however the last couple of times they did have sex there was no protection, and they didn't pull out. Now, she seemed thrilled at the time because it was new to her and they had only done it this time, and once later on. But is it possible her stress and lack of wanting penetrative intercourse is due to baby worry?

Even if she has tested negative, and is on her period like clock-work again, perhaps she's worried they will do it again, and this time they won't be so lucky.

They have recently had a fight, and the sex side which is a variable is not the cause. It was jealously about a close ex-best friend (he and this friend are pretty pissed at each other) hanging out with her since her partner who is trying to fix the relationship was working more full hours.

Could this be him going off at his friend as much as he was at her...or is there a good chance her disconnection is because she may be messing around with the ex?

Thoughts, comments...I'm just not the best with psychology.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Hi everyone. I'm trying to help a friend with a problem I think most guys will have come across in their dating/long term relationship lives.

What happens when your partner, girlfriend, whatever becomes disconnected in a relationship?

They say its due to work related stress, so they just don't feel as clingy and interested, like their energy is depleted. But on the occasions they mess around with foreplay, she enjoys oral and occasionally gives back. But she always stops shy of intercourse. Usually they have sex and keep things nice and safe, however the last couple of times they did have sex there was no protection, and they didn't pull out. Now, she seemed thrilled at the time because it was new to her and they had only done it this time, and once later on. But is it possible her stress and lack of wanting penetrative intercourse is due to baby worry?

Even if she has tested negative, and is on her period like clock-work again, perhaps she's worried they will do it again, and this time they won't be so lucky.

They have recently had a fight, and the sex side which is a variable is not the cause. It was jealously about a close ex-best friend (he and this friend are pretty pissed at each other) hanging out with her since her partner who is trying to fix the relationship was working more full hours.

Could this be him going off at his friend as much as he was at her...or is there a good chance her disconnection is because she may be messing around with the ex?

Thoughts, comments...I'm just not the best with psychology.

Does this woman not know what birth control is? Sounds like it is time for those two to go their separate ways before she ends up having a kid that neither of them want.

 

[DormantEvil]

I recommended they put aside the personal 'pleasure' aspect of unprotected sex and begin using protection. At least until a more permanent solution such as the pill can be arranged.
And hopefully this should help with the 'worry' if she is indeed stressing over possible pregnancies.

I think there is more behind it, however it would be great if it was something as simple as baby worry. Not saying its a simple worry, its just that it has an answer that is easier to do.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

I recommended they put aside the personal 'pleasure' aspect of unprotected sex and begin using protection. At least until a more permanent solution such as the pill can be arranged.
And hopefully this should help with the 'worry' if she is indeed stressing over possible pregnancies.

I think there is more behind it, however it would be great if it was something as simple as baby worry. Not saying its a simple worry, its just that it has an answer that is easier to do.

I understand what you are saying, but your friend has no bigger problem than unprotected sex. No offense, but he sounds like he is young, dumb and full of cum. He needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for his sperm.

If she gets pregnant, and neither one of them are ready to have a kid, the problems they have now are going to be a picnic compared to what lies in their future.

When a couple has a kid before they are ready to settle down and be parents, usually the relationship breaks up and she is stuck with a baby that eats 10 times a day and craps 20. And while her friends are out partying, she is stuck at home changing crap-filled diapers.

An unwanted pregnancy is no picnic for the unlucky father either. When he wants to buy something for himself, after he pays his rent, food and child support, he's going to find that he has nothing left. And that can be the case for the next 20 years.

And it doesn't stop there! After the kid grows up and the support payments stop, he's going to have a kid who thinks its father is a piece of shit because he wasn't there while the kid was growing up.

If this guy is really a friend of yours, tell him to pack his shit and get out of that relationship before he fucks up his life.