Friends In Chats

[Finger8]

I must confess I enjoy spending time in the chat rooms. There is something quite thrilling about the immediacy of taking advantage of the inspired mood. That being said, the experience can be hit or miss. I've engaged in some fun over the past few years, but there are other times, when it has been lacklustre, though I suspect this is normal for most.

I often follow clues in the chat, but I've also randomly initiated if the profile peeks my interest. I consider myself polite, but pervy for the most part. Anyways, I am asking primarily the females that use chat, what inspires you to respond? Is it a clever one-liner? A simple introduction? Some profiles are crystal clear in what the expectations are, others, not so much.

If anything, perhaps this thread can connect those of us that do use chat quite frequently and I certainly would be delighted in seeing if some of you that respond, I might just find in a chat room in the near future.

I welcome input from all. This thread can be used also to reveal what worked, what didn't etc.

 

[yellowvalley]

Immediate turn offs: One word as the first message. Hi isn't enough. Asking for pics as a first message- Nah. Sending links to pics as a first message: Nah. Just starting a roleplay or whatever before have a conversation: let me get to know at least a few things about you first- at least find out if we have compatible sexual interest or not. "are you interested in a chat tonight?" is vague and frustrating for me- what kind of chat are you looking for, subject matter, etc. should be included. I will respond to this one to see if we ARE compatible but then I have to ask questions instead of getting an idea of you right away. It feels like pulling teeth a little bit.

I will respond to: Intro that includes why you messaged me besides seeing I was online- I filled out my profile so tell me what links us in interests. Or: just tell me about what you are looking for. Hi, I'm so and so, I am looking for a chat about this and/or that, would that be something you would be interested in? Or HI, I'm so and so, I messaged you because of this reason, are you open for conversation?

Bonus: anything that makes me chuckle right away, but not something so cheesy I roll my eyes or so sexually aggressive that you are making me go woah hold up a sec. This is such a fine line, though- I think this comes from natural charm so for some it's impossible to do.

Really, it's all so individual it's ridiculous. Just be yourself as you will shine through eventually anyway, but let me actually see you so I know if we click enough to chat without wasting my time.

This is all just me and how I feel. I'm sure others feel different.

 

[Finger8]

Immediate turn offs: One word as the first message. Hi isn't enough. Asking for pics as a first message- Nah. Sending links to pics as a first message: Nah. Just starting a roleplay or whatever before have a conversation: let me get to know at least a few things about you first- at least find out if we have compatible sexual interest or not. "are you interested in a chat tonight?" is vague and frustrating for me- what kind of chat are you looking for, subject matter, etc. should be included. I will respond to this one to see if we ARE compatible but then I have to ask questions instead of getting an idea of you right away. It feels like pulling teeth a little bit.

I will respond to: Intro that includes why you messaged me besides seeing I was online- I filled out my profile so tell me what links us in interests. Or: just tell me about what you are looking for. Hi, I'm so and so, I am looking for a chat about this and/or that, would that be something you would be interested in? Or HI, I'm so and so, I messaged you because of this reason, are you open for conversation?

Bonus: anything that makes me chuckle right away, but not something so cheesy I roll my eyes or so sexually aggressive that you are making me go woah hold up a sec. This is such a fine line, though- I think this comes from natural charm so for some it's impossible to do.

Really, it's all so individual it's ridiculous. Just be yourself as you will shine through eventually anyway, but let me actually see you so I know if we click enough to chat without wasting my time.

This is all just me and how I feel. I'm sure others feel different.

I'm not a big fan of "hey" or "hi" either. At least give a little indication of something. I often mention what room I might have spotted them in (although I know sometimes people tend to be in multiple rooms) but at least it might give a clue as to what the interest/theme one might be looking to explore.

You truly are spot on. It is quite individual. And truthfully some chats just gel, while others seem forced or you can just tell that both parties are on different wavelengths. Thanks for the providing some input. Much appreciated.