Found a label. Now is there a lady interested?

[jay49in25]

Update: I think we'll settle on the word controller. Since it is a little bit vanilla compared to other requests, maybe there is a lady who would like to give it a shot after we get to know one another? Shoot me a DM.

Over the past several months or year I've wanted to explore a bit with an online woman, but I'm not sure how to categorize what I'm looking for.

I have the desire to pick outfits for her to wear after she shows me some options, same with underwear. I want to ask for daily pics to show me these things. I also have desire for guiding her masturbation, and spontaneously asking for a pic. I wouldn't mind telling her she's a good girl.
I'm not sure I'd be any good at giving her other tasks, or degrading her, or getting into bondage or pain.

So you see where I wonder if there is a label for what I'm looking for. I've seen the term "soft dom" in some posts so maybe that's it or not it all?

 

[SirSparky]

I think the label you are looking for would be 'soft Dom'. Like you i want to do all those things you suggested for a submissive woman, but for me, I woukd also give her daily tasks to build structure in her life and to make her a better version of herself. I would also administer punishments of some description. Not always sexual but domestic too. She woukd give up decision making amd allow me to mske the decisions for her so she doesn't have to worry or stress.

 

[summerose]

I would explore before trying to put a label on it. If you call that "Dom" be it soft or hard I think people would expect quite a lot that you don't seem particularly keen on. Sounds pretty vanilla with some preferences for control in a couple areas.

 

[Darkweather]

Interesting question. I have been fortunate enough to have the pleasure of doing this with a submissive woman, but as part of a more extensive D/s relationship, so it seems to be a subset of this. Dominant would not seem correct in this context and Master/slave would not be right either as you have no desire to assign tasks.

A Controller would seem the most accurate description I can think of.

 

[jay49in25]

I think we'll put a label on it and go from there.