forget someone

[Dribble]

from the famous movie Kung Fu Panda

Po: Maybe I should just quit and go back to making noodles.

Oogway: Quit, don't quit? Noodles, don't noodles? You are too concerned about what was and what will be. There is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the "present."

You are missing today if you focus on the past. I get it. I've done it. I'd rather live today now.

 

[redwingsgirl]

I need to successfully remove thoughts of a past partner from my head. I've felt close at times but he's still on my brain.

Okay to elaborate more, we were seeing each other for some months and he broke things off. It left me a little confused and upset because it was very sudden.
Eventually he came back around and apologized. Ironically I had met someone and felt things were going to work out (they didn't end up working out). At the time I thought we should leave things as they were.
When things with guy #2 didn't work out, I thought a second chance was worth a shot but when I got around to seeing if he was on the same page, I found out that he had started seeing someone quite soon after we made up.
Now he's always on my mind. It's not even so much an emotional attachment that I'm missing... I liked his company and the physical closeness and it's those thoughts and memories that keep popping up. It usually happens when I'm alone.
Advice?

Oh Pisces girl. I'm a Pisces too. We don't forget anyone who leaves an impression on our heart. And yeah, you can fill the space with someone else but the ghost will linger. Sorry I'm not more helpful... I'm actually in the boat with you.

 

[supershy_J9]

You won't forget...

I think that a woman's heart is boundless. I have been with the same man for 18 years and *still* have occasion to remember old loves.

Maybe you are not looking so much to completely forget in as much as you want the hurt to go away, and those constant reminders you see to stop triggering memories?

Unfortunately, in my experience, there's no magic pill. Like many others have mentioned here, distraction is helpful. Spend time with friends (even when you'd rather not leave the house), take time for yourself (a new haircut, shopping, pamper *you*), and when you're ready, take the plunge on meeting someone new.

Someday you will meet someone who will make the hurt seem like a distant memory, but you'll never completely forget...and some day you'll remember fondly, and it will make you smile.