foreplay research

[wildsweetone]

surely there's men around who like more than visuals for foreplay, or am i wrong?

ok, after visuals, what's the next best foreplay for you guys?

 

[its Leslie]

I am not likely a good candidate (cause most guys ain't like me)

But for me giving the woman a full body massage with oils, then eating her out till she cums then giving her a bubble bath for 30 minutes really pleases me.

Now if she is willing, and lets me have the pleasure of 20 minutes thrusting my cock into her so I can cum too, I am happy.

Hmmm well that was admittedly more me doing for the other I suppose.

For me I love to just lay there as my wife casually fondles my gear, could enjoy that for a couple of hours.

Laying there with a lass in a sexy white nighty makes a difference (lingerie is a great enhancement). A nude woman can not compete with a well undressed one.

A smile is worth everything. The man knowing you "want" to be there will do more than anything else to please him.

Lingerie and a smile are admittedly visual things though. But never hesitate to tell him his cock is so big. Moan unnecessarily as if he is the most incredible fuck helps a lot. Yes they audio signals will be obviously fake sounding to us. You won't find many telling you to shut up though.

Perfume is grand. Wearing a specific scent that we associate with "you are about to lose the load you currently have in your balls" will always make a man happy.
Men being idiots about odour (we sniff our armpits for reasons I still can't figure out myself). Its nice when you are clean smelling, but sweaty and lust odours dont bother us either.

Comfortable men enjoy watching their woman laugh during sex. Laughter means you are happy. And if you are happy cause you have your man stuffing his cock between your legs, well hmm it always pleases me at least to hear my wifes laughter at any rate.

Men are about eating fucking and playing agressively. We dont need you to play our sports. But the way to a man's heart is a healthy meal and then the nighty you reserve for "ready to come fuck me honey". We are simple creatures. We respond to simple tricks.

 

[Whispersecret]

Bless you, Leslie. I adore getting information about the male psyche! I like to think knowing stuff like this helps me write better male characters and slant my fiction toward male readers.

 

[The_old_man]

In my case, the feel of soft skin. As in thhe case of "its Leslie" I love carressing my wife's full body. This will also get her off multipal times as she is sensitive all over.

 

[Quint]

Wow, Leslie! That was pretty powerful. I delight in the level of communication hunny and I have, but he has to think of the words before he can share them with me, which usually lags the conversation considerably. Can't beat a good writer for the lovely details I so crave!

 

[wildsweetone]

gentlemen, thank you both.

you're telling me exactly what i wanted to know most. congratulations on having the courage to answer. *hugs*

i hope more are encouraged to share their thoughts and feelings on foreplay.

 

[c.fey]

I am not likely a good candidate (cause most guys ain't like me)

But for me giving the woman a full body massage with oils, then eating her out till she cums then giving her a bubble bath for 30 minutes really pleases me.

Now if she is willing, and lets me have the pleasure of 20 minutes thrusting my cock into her so I can cum too, I am happy.

Hmmm well that was admittedly more me doing for the other I suppose.

For me I love to just lay there as my wife casually fondles my gear, could enjoy that for a couple of hours.

Laying there with a lass in a sexy white nighty makes a difference (lingerie is a great enhancement). A nude woman can not compete with a well undressed one.

A smile is worth everything. The man knowing you "want" to be there will do more than anything else to please him.

Lingerie and a smile are admittedly visual things though. But never hesitate to tell him his cock is so big. Moan unnecessarily as if he is the most incredible fuck helps a lot. Yes they audio signals will be obviously fake sounding to us. You won't find many telling you to shut up though.

Perfume is grand. Wearing a specific scent that we associate with "you are about to lose the load you currently have in your balls" will always make a man happy.
Men being idiots about odour (we sniff our armpits for reasons I still can't figure out myself). Its nice when you are clean smelling, but sweaty and lust odours dont bother us either.

Comfortable men enjoy watching their woman laugh during sex. Laughter means you are happy. And if you are happy cause you have your man stuffing his cock between your legs, well hmm it always pleases me at least to hear my wifes laughter at any rate.

Men are about eating fucking and playing agressively. We dont need you to play our sports. But the way to a man's heart is a healthy meal and then the nighty you reserve for "ready to come fuck me honey". We are simple creatures. We respond to simple tricks.

Can I come spend a few hours with you? Make it a week?
~ fey

 

[MysteryWriter]

I admit

I just spent a rather interesting lost weekend so foreplay is a lot harder for me to describe today. The foreplay began on Friday at lunch just after a five hour drive to meet her half way. She was as tired and excited as me.

Foreplay began with holding hands in a crowded restaurant. Looking at each other with that ‘God I am glad we decided to do this.’ look, It was small talk to hide the nerves and to try to convince ourselves that the meeting wasn’t just about sex. It really wasn’t, but sex was definitely in first place at that moment.

The foreplay moved on to, where we would spend the weekend. It was hard breaking the news to her that we wouldn’t be camping in the cold. I had picked up a germ, so we would be spending out lost weekend inside a hotel instead, Then it was finding the proper sleazy motel. If you are going to be wicked, you need the right atmosphere.

We held hands as we rode in her car looking for a suitable passion pit. Couldn’t be a dangerous one, but it had to be suitably run down. Mostly it had to be filled with others in the same pursuit. Since our meeting was held in a college town it wasn’t hard to find just the right place.

As we stood at the counter of the almost empty lobby she ran her finger over my cock while the clerks attention was on the telephone call. I had a raging hardon in just a second. I was forced to step back from the counter to accommodate it and to hide her action from the other, soon to be guests.

Once in the room, it was deep passionate kisses that seemed to suck the air from the room. The room got sauna hot within seconds. Clothes began to move about some to even fall off. Rough hands moved over soft skin for what seemed to be hours.

The shower was her idea but I was pretty quick to agree. Hot water soap and lots of unnecessary washing seemed to turn us both into mindless nerve endings. The feel of her breasts being used as sponges to scrub my back was unbelievably erotic. I suppose the feel of my cock moving over the soap slippery tummy had the same effect on her. (Did you ever notice how much hot water there is in a motel). It could be that it was my cock sliding up and down between the cheeks of her ass.

In bed under a pile of blankets, since we were still damp, I ran my hands over her back. I licked and kissed her breast. We played oral games together for what seemed like forever. We spent well over an hour exchanging erotic touches before ‘anything’ happened.

Oh you were asking about foreplay. You know I don’t have any idea what that is. I admit, I did spend a lot of time looking at her naked body. I guess it was visual.

Now ask me about afterplay....

 

[wildsweetone]

oh MW

an interesting lost weekend indeed. your perspective on foreplay is all encompassing. thank you so much for sharing, and yes please, feel free to add your afterplay.

 

[Quint]

I remember one thing I did for hunny a while back. He'd had a really rough week (poor computer engineer!) and so I decided he needed to be loved on.

I told him that he was in for a treat that night; I'd learned from too much miscommunication that if I didn't tell him, he'd as likely as not choose that night to go watch a movie, and I'd be sitting in the room, waiting and pissed. So he came in to the darkened room, and was promptly blindfolded.

I sat him down on the bed and hit "play" on our CD player. Zeppelin's "Since I Been Lovin You" came on. I began to strip for him, but he was blindfolded the entire time. There was no way he could NOT know I was stripping, as anyone who's heard this song can attest to. Every so often I would sway up to him and let my breasts brush against him, or move my head past his face so he could smell the patchouli oil I'd anointed myself with. Eventually I progressed to a slow, taunting lap dance, but by the time I finished with him, he'd had more than his fair share of foreplay, sans visual.

 

[macdanife2000]

foreplay

Although it's visual, sort of, one of the things my wife does while we're driving to work is let me know that she's got sexy lingerie underneath her usual business suit by letting the hem ride up to reveal stocking tops.

I can hardly think straight the rest of the day. In meetings, with clients my mind continually visualises her fantastic body out of the business suit and standing, sitting or laying in front of me in sexy lingerie.

Needless to say I walk around all day in a state of arousal, by the time we meet up to leave, (we work for the same company but on different floors and rarely see each other), I'm about ready to burst.

She gets excited as well she says, knowing I think about her all day.

We also have a rule that we have to wait until we get home. Gives new meaning to rush hour traffic let me tell you.

 

[Hitchhiker]

Got in late on this one but Leslie saved me a lot of typo's well done mate.

Shameless plug here. Have a look at my story (in the wrong section) "Ann and the looking Glass" this will let sweetone know how it should go.

Its that tingling antisipation the longer the better. The simple way to analogise it for any way is stalking a big cat taming her until you can tickle her tummy with a feather until she purr's.

 

[Ray Dario]

Hell, ah'm a real man! Foreplay is growling, "Take it off baby"!

Just kidding.

Actually I am a visual person, but I also love the scent of a woman, the taste of her, and the feel of her skin. Just being with a woman is foreplay. Listening to her talk, watching her chest rise and fall as she breaths, smelling her natural scent, not perfume which stinks, touching her soft skin.

This can happen over supper, while watching TV, or while laying on the bed.

I can't describe how it goes exactly because for me, it is different each time. But it can go on for hours and it is always pleasurable.

Ray

 

[TheEarl]

For me touch is the most important thing. I actually prefer just sitting with my girlfriend and just stroking her with my hands, partly just to feel her and partly to see how turned on she gets after a while.

Best foreplay I can think of is to be blindfolded and have earplugs in while playing with my girl. Then your other senses dominate over the useless sight and hearing, making touch, taste and smell so much more sensitive.

But then again all men are different and I'm probably more different than others.

The Earl

 

[wildsweetone]

thank goodness we are all unique.

i noticed that its Leslie commented on perfume, Ray also... anybody else got two cents worth on scent please?

hitchhiker, i promise i will read your Anne and the Looking Glass *making yellow sticky*.

thank you to those who have contributed so far, if you haven't yet, please feel comfortable about sharing your thoughts.

 

[Quint]

Patchouli oil. Incense of the same scent or sandalwood is excellent too, but nothing better than drifting your finger across his face, letting him know what you're wearing, and then having him search for the other places where the aroma has been dabbed. o)

 

[Impetus]

I am a mental-foreplay-er. For me, in both giving and recieving, the best foreplay is the kind that takes place in the hours or days before any touching or fondling actually takes place. Unexpectedly clean the house, plan a romantic dinner, or even something as simple as cuddling. Having a partner in the right mental place does wonders for my sexual mood, and having me in the right mental place does the same.

When I get closer to the actual acts, the theory remains the same, the best foreplay is the foreplay that gets one of us inside the others head. Being close, talking while we play, letting each other know how we are feeling and what feels the best. I really get off on knowing that a parnter is well-pleased. I guess that's why I like vocal women so much. Instant sexual bio-feedback. If you hit a spot, they let you know it. Now *that* is good foreplay.

-I

 

[Hitchhiker]

This thread has really bought the Casanovas out to air their views, isn't it refreshing guys to see that some of us are so addicted to a womans pleasure that ours come second place.

So now look out for a new thread. And they say its a mans world!
Sex is designed for woman.

 

[wildsweetone]

oh hitchhiker thank you for your comments.

the men who have replied to my thread are simply relaxed enough to be themselves. i'm glad they've felt comfortable enough with their sexuality and with knowing that this is a completely non-judgmental thread.

i've learnt a lot from what i've read so far, thank you everyone for your postings.

sex is not designed for women alone, it's designed for everyone. and we each have our preferences, our likes and dislikes, our needs and wants. i think the key is communication. whether we speak or whether we write or draw, the medium we use for communication is effective if it feels right for each of us and if it works.

knowing different levels of what men prefer or react positively to will help my writing to be more realistic. if something as simple as a sexy white nighty after a homecooked meal can hook a reader deeply into the story, then that's what i'll try. there's nothing more fulfilling to me than knowing i've had a positive influence on another person.

so thank you all for your thoughts, and know that you've helped me at the very least.

 

[sweetnpetite]

ok, last one.

It's been fun.

Ya gotta admit, that most of these are still pretty good topics. And not in any manner exhausted.

 

[Lord DragonsWing]

surely there's men around who like more than visuals for foreplay, or am i wrong?

ok, after visuals, what's the next best foreplay for you guys?

Wow!!!!!!!! Good question. I love foreplay. It's one of the most important parts to me. The touching, rubbing, kiissing and caressing. Definitely.

I can't say I'm into the visual part. Let me fix a nice candle light dinner, cuddle by the fireplace or on the floor and watch a movie, that's an excellent evening to me.

Body massages are a given for foreplay. It's not the visual part, but the touch. Dark rooms with candles glowing add to the ambience.

Okay, time for a cold shower. lol

 

[doormouse]

Foreplay... hmmmm

Wassat?

All the guys I've been with have been whambangthankyouma'am kinda guys, be it cyber or real.

I guess that's why I can't write romance, I've never had it.

 

[carsonshepherd]

Awwww.... wasn't the Earl cute back then?

 

[TheEarl]

Awwww.... wasn't the Earl cute back then?

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed.

And I'm cute now dammit!

The Earl

 

[Guest]

Ahhhhhhhh! I definitely enjoyed reading this thread. <big smiles>