Forbidden Fruit Is So Appealing. Why?????

[Jeff726]

Here's my dilemna ladies, gentlemen, and bobtoads (just kidding we love ya man, lol).

Throughout all my life, I have always been most attracted in both physical and emotional ways to women I could not have for whatever reasons I could think of, such as them already having someone, age difference, long distance, and so on. And right now, I am experiencing that again. I have feelings for a close friend of mine, but problem A) long distance, and B) she's taken. This friend of mine has been there for me especially in the past 7 or so weeks since my dad passed on, and I know it's not exactly the way you should start feeling for a person, but GUH! (eh wrong expression I suppose hehe) it's just natural for me, as I am someone who develops attraction somewhat easily, especially when someone helps me through a difficult situation.

Her and I have a very good friendship, and if nothing more came of it, I wouldn't regret a minute of knowing her, as she is a wonderful friend and you can always feel safe in some way knowing you have friends there for you. But my goodness this person has a spirit that lies beneath her outer beauty, a wonderful one at that.

So what I am asking you, the Literotica faithful, is why do you think "forbidden fruit" is so damn appealing, and do you think it is wrong to desire someone if they're already with someone or you can't have them because of any other reason? I surely don't, it's just how you act on feelings that is right or wrong. (my humble opinion)


Ciao!


-Jeff
hehe I'm posting on Literotica while listening to "Erotomania" by Dream Theater. how ironic!

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Forbidden fruit......

always tastes better'n yer everyday run of the mill fruit.

 

[KillerMuffin]

For the same reason the playing hard to get tactic works so well. For the same reason guys/girls have little interest in that nice girl/boy who makes herself available to easily. For the same reason some people rave about incest. For the same reason I always got the hots for officers when I was navy. Because we can't have them.

It's true. We want what we can't have, because we aren't allowed to have it we build up this desire and fantasy about it, how it is the greatest thing since sliced bread and how life will be better if we could just have it.

The grass is always greener syndrome.

 

[Never Again]

Personally, I do not discriminate against fruits. All fruit is desirable in my view - oranges even.

 

[Nicole]

Well Jeff you know my situation, so I'm not really the person to be asking this question of.

You know I have to admit that there are times when I do feel guilty, but the person that takes that guilt away isn't him, but his wife. The friendship that I hold with her is one of the reasons that I don't always worry about the guilt side of things. Altough as stated I do feel it.

Jeff you are a lovely person and I know what your saying. You have an addictive personality, we all know that and love you for it. Just remember that this person looks upon you as a friend, and they will let you know if they want to take it further.

Forbidden fruit is a part of life, a part that we may not like but it's always going to be there. It's also a part of life that many of us would never see ourselves in, UNTIL it happens.

Jeff all the best babe, let us know how you go, if not here you have my Mail Addy.

Good Luck

 

[Bobtoad777]

sniffles

Jeff you really care about me, I know I am long distance but please you shouldn't have those types of feelings for me, I don't swing that way sorry man. just kidding


Seriously I know what you are talking about about loving those who are 'unattainable, Sept 3rd I just watched the girl I loved get married with out ever even having a date with her. Yet even so time and time again I find my self going yfor that which I cannot have. its a cruel creul world out there. and it only gets better.

 

[Wizard]

sniffles

Jeff you really care about me, I know I am long distance but please you shouldn't have those types of feelings for me, I don't swing that way sorry man. just kidding


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[SimplySouthern]

Just my opinion:

When something seems "unobtainable" you always want it that much more. To me, often, it is the thrill of the hunt that makes something seem so desirable. When I get what I wanted so badly, I find that I overlooked some of the things about it that aren't so great.

Basically, what I am saying is that you need to determine if you want this person only because you think she can't be had? Perhaps it's the "savior" syndrome? If she helped you so much in the past maybe you feel attracted to her for the way she made you feel?

My suggestion is to stand back and examine your feelings for her and your motives. If you find they are pure and you really do like her and want her in your life, your next step is to judge what can be gained by what will be lost. Will your friendship end if you tell her how you feel? You also need to think about the relationship she is in now. Is it serious? marriage? children? All considerations in this game.

If you need me, Baby Boy, you know how to find me.

 

[Jeff726]

Thanks for all the good advice ladies and gents. It means alot to know people care about me and would try and help me with my little quandry.

I had a talk with the person last night, and it went very well. We both discussed how I was feeling and how I'm certain it might just be a feeling that arose from her caring so much about me in my rough time. And right now I am especially vulnerable, and even though I do think she is a wonderful wonderful woman who her man is lucky as hell to be with, I realize that to pursue my feelings would be the wrong thing to do. I would much rather have her as a friend than nothing at all. I plan to go visit her eventually and have a good time, and her boyfriend I think she said would be glad to meet another of her friends.

So all in all, not a loss for me but a very important gain. When my time is right, it will happen for me. I mean I am only 20 after all.

Thanks again people for the advice it surely has helped, especially you SS. You're a real doll ya know that? hehehe Love ya babe!


Jeff
find all you need in your mind, if you take the time

 

[SimplySouthern]

Thanks again people for the advice it surely has helped, especially you SS. You're a real doll ya know that? hehehe Love ya babe!

You got it baby boy. Anytime! Lucky woman she is...a lucky woman