For you submissives, is "vanilla" submission enough, or do you need an added kink?

[Beandip478]

I have accepted that I am a submissive. While I have no desire to wear women's clothes, my most intense fantasies involve the right female sitting on my face, with me licking and sniffing her asshole, and her gently but firmly pegging me, opening me up more and more, being the lovingly dominant one.
However, in my case, unless there is an incest them, it just doesn't give me the arousal I'm looking for. For the longest time she would always be my sister. Lately I've gone back to the even earlier mother figure from when I first discovered these tendencies--big ass, big breasts, physically larger, taller and stronger than me.
What about the rest of you submissives? Is the act of submission enough for you, or do you need it to be in a certain context like incest or something else?

 

[PaxNurgle]

I'm really not into incest. The act of submission is usually enough for me. While kink is nice, and would be my ideal relationship, most of the women I date are very vanilla and aren't into kink at all. So in a way, my being "Vanilla" is catering to exactly what they wish from a lover, so in a sense, that is "submissive" in it's own way.

 

[misstrust]

For me vanilla is enough. Not every person I have been with is into the kicker things in life. When I'm in a vanilla relationship and the need gets to the point it can no longer be ignored. I will schedule some alone private time and do some solo acts. Granted they will be just for me... but if I use my resources I can manage to get what I need alone. I will say it's much more fun with a partner.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I have to say. People on lit crack me up with the terminology y’all use. Only on lit have I heard vanilla submission, E banging, onety “ whatever that even means “
What do y’all mean by “ vanilla submission “?

 

[FantasySharer1]

My submissive fantasies surround being submissive to my wife and her older brother. In an incest context, I just want to be their cuckold.

Recently it's evolved into having her dad be with her as well but the focus is really her brother who is very close to me. The dad thing is more a fantasy, but the brother thing is something I'd embrace immediately if it happened.

I shared a little on a different thread.
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/cucking-and-watching.1545185/post-95857202

 

[xdresssissytoes]

It greatly depends on the desires of who I'm submitting to. I love being dressed slutty or kinky. I consider just dressing for sex "vanilla." Anything else usually involves someone' s certain kinky desire.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I have to say. People on lit crack me up with the terminology y’all use. Only on lit have I heard vanilla submission, E banging, onety “ whatever that even means “
What do y’all mean by “ vanilla submission “?

It is interesting. I guess vanilla submission would be a relationship where oneperson is Dominate but not involving kink?

 

[PaxNurgle]

This is how I would interpret it. It's basically a female-led relationship- She makes all the decisions, is the boss both in the home and in the relationship dynamic, but there's no whips, paddles, cuffs, or other kink or fetish activity involved at all.

 

[Goldenfinger]

This is how I would interpret it. It's basically a female-led relationship- She makes all the decisions, is the boss both in the home and in the relationship dynamic, but there's no whips, paddles, cuffs, or other kink or fetish activity involved at all.

So now we have a definition so here’s my answer.

In the beginning yes, but now no. I didn't add the kink she did. My wife would go to vanilla if I wanted to but would miss the kink.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I need her or him to hurt me mentally and physically. Take my humanity and leave me atrue bimbo thing

 

[staciedix]

One can refuse ?
Lol, it takes you deeper and deeper and it’s uncontrollable

 

[traill]

For me it's about the submission in itself, and I don't need a specific context. I do crave some forms of harder submission and to really be used and abused but it's not dependant on a context such as incest, etc. Incest, feminization, etc are contexts that don't really interest me to be honest. For me it has more to do with how a Dom/me can make me feel submissive, humiliated, degraded, etc than a context. Some people just seem to inherently be able to push my buttons properly, and others just don't work for me at all.

If it's with a man though, context becomes more important. I find myself unable to submit or be attracted to a man that is younger than me, so older gentlemen only, but that's more a "type" than a context I guess.

 

[sweettalk4u]

For me it's about the submission in itself, and I don't need a specific context. I do crave some forms of harder submission and to really be used and abused but it's not dependant on a context such as incest, etc. Incest, feminization, etc are contexts that don't really interest me to be honest. For me it has more to do with how a Dom/me can make me feel submissive, humiliated, degraded, etc than a context. Some people just seem to inherently be able to push my buttons properly, and others just don't work for me at all.

If it's with a man though, context becomes more important. I find myself unable to submit or be attracted to a man that is younger than me, so older gentlemen only, but that's more a "type" than a context I guess.

Yes it’s not about the kinks per se but the journey, exploring and learning.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

For me being sub is so satisfying.

 

[dalhart]

Yeah, just the submission is good for me. My kinks are really orthogonal to any relationship dynamic. Like, I have a think for huge muscles, but I'm a switch and can imagine domming a muscular guy or being more of a servant.

 

[staciedix]

The humiliation is thrilling

 

[Dearelliot]

No..I need so much more..Humiliation, knowing that she intends on using a riding crop and I have no choice but to bend over. When she smiles and tells me the nasty things she is going to do to me and I am not allowed to say anything except thank you Miss.

 

[staciedix]

No..I need so much more..Humiliation, knowing that she intends on using a riding crop and I have no choice but to bend over. When she smiles and tells me the nasty things she is going to do to me and I am not allowed to say anything except thank you Miss.

I can do without the riding crop

 

[Dearelliot]

I can do without the riding crop

Even if she is just holding it, it sets the stage for me!

 

[_krista_]

Added Kink for sure

 

[emme8]

I used to think that true submission doesn't require any kinks. You are getting your pleasure sole from the dominate regardless of the kink. And maybe in some pure form that is the case. I used to try to.
But now I also know that I need the kinks

 

[tristantrotsky]

For me being sub is so satisfying.

One cock in your mouth is vanilla.
Being spit-roast by two well-hung friends... is that still vanilla?
Having three guys cum in your mouth, then swallowing the cocktail of cum, is that vanilla?

 

[_krista_]

One cock in your mouth is vanilla.
Being spit-roast by two well-hung friends... is that still vanilla?
Having three guys cum in your mouth, then swallowing the cocktail of cum, is that vanilla?

I've always wondered about definitions myself.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I would, all things considered, prefer a kinky dominant type to submit to as well. It's more fun! (Hopefully for Her as well.) But if not, then...oh well.

 

[StoneDiva]

I submit to her desire for a monogamous vanilla relationship. I desire more and have confessed all of my kinky fantasies, and she occasionally teases me with comments that give me hope for fulfillment of some, but always backtracks and informs me that I will be monogamous for the rest of my life. She has treated me to a few wonderful spankings however. I have accepted that the ultimate form of submission is heading her desires, no matter what.