For women not into cuckolding…

[Yarglenurp]

Assuming this is the “you sleep with other men, I only sleep with you” kind of cuckolding, there are a lot of women out there who seem completely against cuckolding. For those of you who were offered the option or given hints, and then declined… why? Is it a moral issue, a social ostracization fear, just a total lack of interest, or something else?

 

[Yarglenurp]

This can be an erotic theme to be played out in depth in a role play.

I presume you came up to this conclusion from how readers vote in the story section on Lit, correct?
Most readers probably think and vote with their IRL minds and erotica writers write with their fantastical minds.
I doubt many "real people" IRL are into cuckolding at all. It's only popular in fantasy.

Well, percentage-wise… sure. I’m 100% sure that most frtishes don’t get much play, including cuckolding. But I’m talking about that small population of men for whom it does come in as a fantasy, and they propose it, and their gf/wife says “nah.”

 

[SPARTAN047]

I myself wouldn't really do this, or cuckqueaning. It's a really hot fantasy but I wouldn't want to jeopardize my relationships.

It can be roleplayed and is so hot.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I myself wouldn't really do this, or cuckqueaning. It's a really hot fantasy but I wouldn't want to jeopardize my relationships.

It can be roleplayed and is so hot.

Yeah, I think that’s the limit for a lot of people. When I was younger, I thought of it as a “people secretly do this a lot” type of thing. Now I think it’s like a “wishing to be a professional gamer” type of thing… the success stories get the attention, but you don’t hear of the flame-outs.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yeah, I think that’s the limit for a lot of people. When I was younger, I thought of it as a “people secretly do this a lot” type of thing. Now I think it’s like a “wishing to be a professional gamer” type of thing… the success stories get the attention, but you don’t hear of the flame-outs.

Excellent comparison. I like it very much.

I wanted to be a pro gamer too and then found I was useless.

You see the porn and the OnlyFans sluts who seem to have a happy cuckold or cuckquean relationship, but you don't hear of the possible fights when the hot husband or hot wife go too far or break the rules.

And you don't hear about the success stories which go sour. I found a very sexy mature couple with excellent cuckolding videos (they were past middle age, the black bull might'Ve been a little younger, but damn if they could talk dirty!) called Yogahotwife. Apparently they divorced not so long ago and she said she'd never do this again.

 

[Bigtitsbitch1000x]

Mama BTB has been happily cuckolded by her hot wife, for 40 blissful years.

Bitch with bitch... N bitches' bitches.

https://youtu.be/egMWlD3fLJ8?si=NL1_pPTonFvvNgOS

https://youtu.be/TMiAQPABgHA?si=J_RMyf3d86glqkGN

( O )( O )

 

[hardbiker82]

Assuming this is the “you sleep with other men, I only sleep with you” kind of cuckolding, there are a lot of women out there who seem completely against cuckolding. For those of you who were offered the option or given hints, and then declined… why? Is it a moral issue, a social ostracization fear, just a total lack of interest, or something else?

So, like others here; I've never been into cuckolding, even when the one I was with wanted to sleep with other guys. She wanted to explore and I had no problem with that at the time. But I would never be a cuckolder (as it were). And there were times of sharing, but the idea of cuckolding just turns me off and don't read many stories that have it.

 

[SevMax2]

I've never understood the desire to keep the man faithful or even celibate while the woman has all of the fun, but if that's what they like, it's not my place to judge. As long as both sides give wholehearted consent, so be it. Just leave me out of it.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I've never understood the desire to keep the man faithful or even celibate while the woman has all of the fun, but if that's what they like, it's not my place to judge. As long as both sides give wholehearted consent, so be it. Just leave me out of it.

I think this is very much about what the man wants, so I don’t think you have to worry about it. If you’re not into it, you’d be at about as much risk of involvement in it as a hyena is at risk of winning best climber at a cat show.

 

[SevMax2]

I think this is very much about what the man wants, so I don’t think you have to worry about it. If you’re not into it, you’d be at about as much risk of involvement in it as a hyena is at risk of winning best climber at a cat show.

That's a given. I mostly wanted to say that I'm fine with others being into it, just not into it myself.

 

[SevMax2]

I'm a lot less judgmental about it than I used to be.

 

[svengali_decL]

I think this is very much about what the man wants, so I don’t think you have to worry about it. If you’re not into it, you’d be at about as much risk of involvement in it as a hyena is at risk of winning best climber at a cat show.

If I may, I believe, except to those who want to be 'humiliated'- that in a caring and stable relationship, it is about giving the other permission to exceed the normal bounds of society imposed restrictions.
Just like swinging, in the ,any levels of that- it is the joy of sharing the excitement and freedom to act out what is immeasurably a fantasy to all.

I've known ladies go out and just hunt and pack for compliments from strangers, then come home and fuck their spouses stupid/ delerious (or other way round) and have satisfied all parties, as no crimes were committed...

 

[policywank]

Women are conditioned to be very cautious with how our sexual activity is perceived by men and society in general. Being regarded as a slut comes not only with social stigma, but also potentially more dangerous outcomes, including violence. And most men would not be able to adapt to the cuckold life even if they say otherwise, so the chances of having a stable hotwife/cuckold relationship are not great.

So, most of us are conditioned to not even see it as a possibility and those of us who are intrigued by the prospect are unlikely to admit it openly. Even acknowledging our interest in this lifestyle can have consequences which can't be undone. It can work, but getting to a stabilized place is a bit of a long shot and it requires a very specific head space. It is more likely to come about because of other events that lead to this place. I can't really imagine a wife saying to her husband "hey I'd like to be a hotwife", because if he is opposed to it she has altered their relationship just by raising it.

 

[bilash]

most men would not be able to adapt to the cuckold life even if they say otherwise, so the chances of having a stable hotwife/cuckold relationship are not great.

I used to think otherwise but after reading this article (

Slut Wife - One Woman's Guide, How to lead your marriage and cuckold your man.​

) of yours a few times, I understand I overlooked many points that I didn't consider from a woman's perspective. Like, in the past I used to think being in a female led relationship isn't necessary for cuckolding lifestyle as each couple define how they live the lifestyle. But, FLR does have its benefits which can make the bonds between cuck and wife more strong.

If you have time, please write more educational articles on the lifestyle. People new to this can learn many things from it.

 

[policywank]

I used to think otherwise but after reading this article (

Slut Wife - One Woman's Guide, How to lead your marriage and cuckold your man.​

) of yours a few times, I understand I overlooked many points that I didn't consider from a woman's perspective. Like, in the past I used to think being in a female led relationship isn't necessary for cuckolding lifestyle as each couple define how they live the lifestyle. But, FLR does have its benefits which can make the bonds between cuck and wife more strong.

If you have time, please write more educational articles on the lifestyle. People new to this can learn many things from it.

Like I said in that article a female led relationship is not a prerequisite for cuckolding, but it does help because it provides the wife with greater ability to set the tone for the relationship. Whether your cuckold is enthusiastic or unsure he will tend to try to drive things to be the way he wants them. But he is also likely to be the one that has the hardest time adapting so it is better that he be led and taught how to best serve his wife's needs.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Most women I assume want to be married to a man, not a cuck who gets off on being humiliated.

 

[whenagain]

Most women I assume want to be married to a man, not a cuck who gets off on being humiliated.

I feel like that’s a bit reductive?

 

[Yarglenurp]

I feel like that’s a bit reductive?

Well, to be fair, it’s her honest opinion (which I disagree with).

I think it does hint at kind of a strange double-standard. There is definitely a lot of women who reinforce a particular brand of masculinity at the cost of many others.

 

[whenagain]

Well, to be fair, it’s her honest opinion (which I disagree with).

I think it does hint at kind of a strange double-standard of some women reinforcing a particular brand of masculinity, at the cost of many others.

Well articulated.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Women are conditioned to be very cautious with how our sexual activity is perceived by men and society in general. Being regarded as a slut comes not only with social stigma, but also potentially more dangerous outcomes, including violence. And most men would not be able to adapt to the cuckold life even if they say otherwise, so the chances of having a stable hotwife/cuckold relationship are not great.

So, most of us are conditioned to not even see it as a possibility and those of us who are intrigued by the prospect are unlikely to admit it openly. Even acknowledging our interest in this lifestyle can have consequences which can't be undone. It can work, but getting to a stabilized place is a bit of a long shot and it requires a very specific head space. It is more likely to come about because of other events that lead to this place. I can't really imagine a wife saying to her husband "hey I'd like to be a hotwife", because if he is opposed to it she has altered their relationship just by raising it.

True, but my hypothetical is the one in which the man is proposing this to his wife/gf. Still, your reasoning holds. He could be “testing” her, or even if it’s an honest offer, she doesn’t want to take the risk that he can’t handle the reality very well.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I feel like that’s a bit reductive?

I'd invite her to weigh in further, because I'm wondering if she excludes humiliation-seeking males from the sunset of males who she regards as "men."

I get that some women have a visceral negative reaction to them being paired with an adult male who has any desire to share her, but that's an individual matter. It's a big world and as I've heard since I was a boy, "It takes all kinds."

I would not exclude from the group of women adult females who have no interest in monogamy or hypergamy, both of which appear to be pursuits of most females.

 

[policywank]

True, but my hypothetical is the one in which the man is proposing this to his wife/gf. Still, your reasoning holds. He could be “testing” her, or even if it’s an honest offer, she doesn’t want to take the risk that he can’t handle the reality very well.

Yes, in your hypothetical the initiative is coming from a different place which might allow her to be more willing to acknowledge interest. But as you say the risk that he can't handle it are notable. And the considerations of how we will be seen by society are still there.

 

[policywank]

Most women I assume want to be married to a man, not a cuck who gets off on being humiliated.

I feel like that’s a bit reductive?

Well, to be fair, it’s her honest opinion (which I disagree with).

I think it does hint at kind of a strange double-standard. There is definitely a lot of women who reinforce a particular brand of masculinity at the cost of many others.

Lucy may be right, but it would be reductive to imply that "most" is equivalent to "all".

By way of analogy most women are heterosexual. But there is a vibrant and active minority who are not and who's preferences are equally valid.

And among women who do prefer to be in a more traditional relationship I think there primary focus is their preference for monogamy, not a derisive view of "cuck" and "humiliation".

 

[NancyPan]

Relationships and marriages evolve. I know my wife chose me believing that I was a “traditional” male. Over time, my desires to serve her and submit became stronger in me and I took the risk to reveal them to her. She took the risk to be honest with me that she preferred my oral service over PIV sex with me due to both my tendency for PE and my size. Although she has never chosen to cuckold me, she has seen the power of erotic humiliation and orgasm control and we have agreed to the FLR lifestyle we have now lived for years.

My point is this: Some women may not necessarily seek out or consciously choose a submissive man or one who desires humiliation. In fact, from outward appearances, I believe I am rather typical in that I dress and appear quite masculine (I am over six feet, muscular frame, was an athlete, and still in good shape). It’s not as though a woman necessarily seeks a man she can cuckold or dominate or humiliate; rather it is more likely that their relationship evolved there over time. Ours did after over twenty years of marriage, and we are both happier.

I am not cuckolded. But, if that is what she wanted, I would submit. She has the pussy, she makes the rules.

 

[UtilityCurve]

And the considerations of how we will be seen by society are still there.

Do you believe this is changing, however slowly? Seems like there's an article/story about ENM or polyamory every other day. (I know, I know--what am I reading?!)