For those who lost their virginity late...

[Artemesia]

I'm starting this thread for those of us that lost their virginity later than most people OR who haven't lost it yet. To get it all started - I'll just confess that I lost mine at age 36. I know, I know, unheard of in this day and age.

Thing is - I consider myself a very sexual person - I just didn't want to play any games, get hurt, get rejected, etc. etc. So I waited til now to take it to the next level.

So I want to know what you out there think...

And I know there are a lot of you out there that Haven't lost your virginity and worry a lot about it. So this thread is for you, too.

 

[cg_allstar]

I'll 'fess up

I've spent a lot of time on third, but haven't gone home yet. Trying to wait for marriage. But at 27 it's getting harder on the little guy.

 

[sueanninct]

I've also spent some time on third base. I've only had two guys offer sex to me, but neither wanted to take any responsibility that goes with it. In my book, he has to because I am not ready at this time in my life to have a baby. If I was in love with a guy, and I thought we could handle it if I did get pregnant, then I wouldn't have any problems having sex with him. I'm not necessarily waiting for marriage, just a serious relationship. In this day and age, you MUST take it seriously.

 

[bknight2602]

I've also spent some time on third base. I've only had two guys offer sex to me, but neither wanted to take any responsibility that goes with it. In my book, he has to because I am not ready at this time in my life to have a baby. If I was in love with a guy, and I thought we could handle it if I did get pregnant, then I wouldn't have any problems having sex with him. I'm not necessarily waiting for marriage, just a serious relationship. In this day and age, you MUST take it seriously.

If you want to experience the feeling and don't want any connections or reprecussions, then find some sort of birth control. To say that you potential partners aren't willing to face the responsibilty and you are? Does not sound that way to me.

 

[Artemesia]

Re: I'll 'fess up

I've spent a lot of time on third, but haven't gone home yet. Trying to wait for marriage. But at 27 it's getting harder on the little guy.

I totally understand. Sometimes I just want to scream.

 

[Artemesia]

Responsibility is not the biggest part of it for me at this point.
There is tons of birth control out there to try. For me it's an issue of trust - I tend to get my emotions tied up into it and that ruins the "just for fun" aspect of sex. I, too, would like a serious relationship - but with someone who has an appetite for sex and likes to explore.

At this point in my life, I feel like I've missed out on some opportunities to let my hair down and I ofter wonder who's going to want to be with someone who has so little actual experience. Believe me, I've done enough that I know what I want, I just haven't done it all.

 

[sueanninct]

If you want to experience the feeling and don't want any connections or reprecussions, then find some sort of birth control. To say that you potential partners aren't willing to face the responsibilty and you are? Does not sound that way to me.

I was willing to use birth control, he wasn't. He also did not want to get tested, even though he admitted to having unprotected sex. I don't think I was being too strict. I think they were just looking for sex with no strings attached. I wouldn't mind a few strings. But there is a part of me that would like to have a night of wild, uninhibited sex. I just haven't gotten the courage to seek it, yet.

 

[Artemesia]

I was willing to use birth control, he wasn't. He also did not want to get tested, even though he admitted to having unprotected sex. I don't think I was being too strict. I think they were just looking for sex with no strings attached. I wouldn't mind a few strings. But there is a part of me that would like to have a night of wild, uninhibited sex. I just haven't gotten the courage to seek it, yet.

I still haven't found that courage yet, either. For now, I'm just a sex-fiend on the inside, when no one is looking.

 

[bknight2602]

I still haven't found that courage yet, either. For now, I'm just a sex-fiend on the inside, when no one is looking.

sueanninct
Artemesia
I understand but if you want to then do it, protect yourselves though and have a wild night

 

[Huggles]

sueanninct
Artemesia
I understand but if you want to then do it, protect yourselves though and have a wild night

Yes, if you really feel that condoms are not "safe" enough, there is a product on the market called the "Female Condom" or "Femidom".

It's a hideous thing to look at, but it allows you to have the control, not the man. It's basically a condom in reverse, that you put inside yourself.

It is also bigger than a condom, and covers more on the outside, which gives you better protection.

Mind you, if the guy doesn't want to wear a condom, then he is most likely the wrong kind of guy.

A "good" guy would not think twice about both your and his protection.