For Those Hurt By Snakes

[lickerish]

I've been reading about what's been going on w/ the whole 'snake' business, and it brought to mind an article I cut from a newspaper a few years ago when my ex abused me for the last time. I don't have a scanner, so I am going to re-type it all for you to read.

A woman had asked Ann Landers to re-print a story about 'the girl and the snake' because she was a therapist and often used the story with her patients who refused to learn from self-destructive relationships.

'A young girl was trudging along a mountain path, trying to reach her grandmother's house. It was bitter cold, and the wind cut like a knife. When she was within sight of her destination, she heard a rustle at her feet. Looking down, she saw a snake. Before she could move, the snake spoke to her. He said "I am about to die. It is too cold for me up here, and I am freezing. There is no food in these mountains and I am starving. Please put me under your coat and take me with you."

"No," replied the girl. "I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake. If I pick you up, you will bite me, and your bite is poisonous."

"No, no," said the snake. "If you help me you will be my best friend. I will treat you differently."

The little girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over. She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and had to admit it was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen. Suddenly, she said, " I believe you. I will save you. All living things deserve to be treated with kindness."

The little girl reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and proceeded towards her grandmother's house. Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side. The snake had bitten her.

"How could you do this to me?" she cried. "You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!"

"You knew what I was when you picked me up." hissed the snake as he slithered away.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone here has a destructive behavior (or naive in my case).. all I know is that this story helped me open my eyes and become the stronger woman I am today. Maybe this story won't mean as much to you as it did to me, but I still feel like sharing. If anyone ever needs an ear or a 'virtual shoulder to cry on', I will be here.

Lickerish

 

[Cheyenne]

But what if the story was changed so that the snake looked and acted like a kitten? And he only turned into a snake once he was inside the warm jacket?

Do you forever avoid touching another kitten?

 

[lickerish]

No, not forever...

Cheyenne,

You can interpret the story in many ways.. I see it as the snake pretended to be different, to be 'the good one' and in the end.. he showed his true colors.

For me, I was not able to trust anyone (no if's, and's, or but's) for a long time after my ex did what he did to me and our kids. Eventually, I learned to trust. It is still hard, but I've come along ways from that place, and I can't help but think my experience helped shape me to truly recognize 'the snake-y ones'. I may not alway be able to pick out the bad ones, but I can definately spot the obvious ones better.

Everyone comes away from an experience having learned different things.. the question is, can you use what YOU'VE learned to your advantage? The snake in your story may have started a kitten and turned snake, and you may not feel like trusting anyone for quite a while, but I 99% guarantee you can turn the experience around to help yourself and others in the future.

Besides, look how many great guys came out of the woodwork and came to your side to support you (and the other women)... compared to the one snake.. thats damn good odds that you won't be hurt by EVERY kitten you meet.

 

[PurpleHaze]

Re: No, not forever...

Besides, look how many great guys came out of the woodwork

"woodwork"

Women you got a problem in the way you think. Fuck, how many woman have fucked guys around to no end. It works both ways and guys have no greater proportion than women in doing it.

Cheyenne, you should have sent Merlin an e-mail letter rather than moaning about this all over the board. Get a little class will you.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: No, not forever...

Besides, look how many great guys came out of the woodwork

"woodwork"

You must have misunderstood and responded by mistake- she said "great guys" come out of the woodwork.

 

[Guest]

Snakes you say?

There are no snakes in Ireland because I drove them out.

Purple Haze didn't misunderstand anything. Looks like he is the only one with balls enough to say what others are thinking.

 

[lickerish]

I have no problems with the way I think.

I was fucked over by a fucked up male, therefore I explained my situ from my viewpoint.

I never said that women weren't capable of hurting men, did I. Being a little defensive there? That story could be taken both ways.. it's not gender specific. I'm not sexist and the situation isn't limited to women getting hurt by men.

Anyways, Cheyenne is one of the classiest ladies on the board.. sending him an email obviously hasn't done a damn thang. He has hurt many and the public needs to have their eyes open to someone like that to avoid others being hurt. It's unfortunate, but I would rather be on guard than be naive again.

St. Patrick/PurpleHaze troll--> fucking jerk troll, just shut up. u aren't worth anything.

[Edited by lickerish on 01-08-2001 at 11:05 AM]

 

[Purple Haze]

Re: Re: Re: No, not forever...

Besides, look how many great guys came out of the woodwork

"woodwork"

You must have misunderstood and responded by mistake- she said "great guys" come out of the woodwork.

Take a closer look, Cheyenne. You've been fooled by a snake again.

By the way, I am a great guy. You may have misunderstood and responded by mistake.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

 

[lickerish]

oops

nevermind (god my head hurts). i get it now. i thought that was OOC for Purple Haze. sorry

[Edited by lickerish on 01-08-2001 at 11:07 AM]

 

[Cheyenne]

No, I wasn't fooled. I know the difference between the snake PurpleHaze and the real Purple Haze- a single space in the name. That's exactly the kind of thing that Merlin does. I knew it was him but tried to respond as politely as I could. Same for St. Patrick.

For the record, ALL of the women involved sent him repeated emails with no response from him whatsoever. (Actually, one didn't. One just dropped him herself when he slipped and did something she didn't care for.) Of course, that was before we all figured out he was a snake and we weren't the ones at fault for him disappearing. Each of us thought WE had done something to make him disappear. We didn't. That is just the way he operates, making you think that you did.

By the way, the count of women he has done this to is up to five that we know about. The worst treatment is still to Enchantress, the rest of us never met him in RL. Thank God for small favors.

 

[Cheyenne]

Anyways, Cheyenne is one of the classiest ladies on the board.. sending him an email obviously hasn't done a damn thang. He has hurt many and the public needs to have their eyes open to someone like that to avoid others being hurt. It's unfortunate, but I would rather be on guard than be naive again.

Thank you, Lickerish. Sending Merlin email didn't work because he WANTED all of us to think it had been something we said or did that caused him to disappear from friendships, and in Enchantress' case, something much deeper than just a friendship. He never ever thought each of us women would find the rest and compare notes about him-email copies, chat records, pictures. But we did, and he is screwed and he knows it. We didn't put all of what we discovered on the board. It wasn't necessary. All that we wanted to do was warn "the public" as to what Merlin was up to, and that has been accomplished.

 

[Expertise]

Its really none of my business but what caused you guys (gals) to seek each other out or compare notes whatever. I get the impression that yo had even before Cheyennes original warning.

 

[Cheyenne]

I'll answer that Expertise, it is a fair question. Read my posts in the thread "Are looks important" and you'll see the evolution of me thinking I had done something wrong, or I was ugly, to the point where I understood that it was Merlin's problem all along. Enchantress saw my early posts on this thread and contacted me through email to say her gut told her it was Merlin I was talking about. And she was correct.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=19915&pagenumber=2

At that stage, I posted my "talk me out of revenge" thread. By the time I found out about the 4th woman (through email contact) with the same basic story about Merlin, I got mad. Really mad. The result was the Magic Merlin is the Snake thread.

If I had not posted enough information in the first thread mentioned above for Enchantress to recognize Merlin and contact me, he would still be here on the bb, doing the same things as before. I don't feel any guilt at all for naming him.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

The way I heard it....

It was about a scorpion and a frog. The scorpion's line, after he bit the frog was, " It's my nature. I couldn't help myself.

The problem, as I see it, is not trusting a snake. Its trusting someone who happens to be a snake in the clothing of a fuzzy caterpiller. Now, that's a problem that your story doesn't cover. Just the same, it's a pretty good story.

blue

 

[Expertise]

Thanks Cheyenne, for taking care of my curiosity.

I don't think you should feel sorry or apologetic for naming names. Turnabout is fair play.

If he had a defence or wanted to refute your claims he has the opportunity to do so here.

Thanks again.

 

[Cheyenne]

You're welcome, Expertise.

I'm glad you asked this earlier today. Gave me a chance to clarify for anyone who was wondering the same thing.

If you've seen Merlin's thread, you know his defense seems to be to just deny reality. What was that phrase I saw on the board earlier today? Something like "what color is the sky in the world you live in?" That would apply in this case. I wonder what color the sky is in Merlin's world.