For the women: Would a PROOF pic offend you?

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

This one really goes towards women because I am sure guys would have no problems sending pics to a woman.

If you were talking to a guy who seemed really nice. Say you talked for about, oh, two weeks, on a daily basis. You described yourself to him and was truthful. Then one day he asks, nicely, if you could provide a proof pic that you are who you say you are. Not a face pic. But a pic of you holding a sign with their name on it.

Would this offend you, despite the fact that you were truthful? I've had many bad encounters in the past with people literally not being who they say they were and me finding out. Even when a woman sends pics, I have had the occurrence of finding those same pics on Google.

So if I meet someone and we hit it off, I always politely ask for a proof pic just to see if they are A. Really a woman and B. They look like how they describe themselves as. I NEVER ask for a face pic.

Would this offend you if someone asked?

 

[jasonmason]

This one really goes towards women because I am sure guys would have no problems sending pics to a woman.

If you were talking to a guy who seemed really nice. Say you talked for about, oh, two weeks, on a daily basis. You described yourself to him and was truthful. Then one day he asks, nicely, if you could provide a proof pic that you are who you say you are. Not a face pic. But a pic of you holding a sign with their name on it.

Would this offend you, despite the fact that you were truthful? I've had many bad encounters in the past with people literally not being who they say they were and me finding out. Even when a woman sends pics, I have had the occurrence of finding those same pics on Google.

So if I meet someone and we hit it off, I always politely ask for a proof pic just to see if they are A. Really a woman and B. They look like how they describe themselves as. I NEVER ask for a face pic.

Would this offend you if someone asked?

I am a guy and would be offended by this.

 

[DarkPleasures]

One day he asks, nicely, if you could provide a proof pic that you are who you say you are. Not a face pic. But a pic of you holding a sign with their name on it.

Would this offend you?

Been there, done that. Being a real woman, I've had no problem holding up a sign with, perhaps, my online user name (or someone else's - like if I was saying hi to them) on it and the date or whatever. No big deal to me.

 

[BadBoyfriend]

Just had this happen BBWTAL. And was turned down. I simply asked for a picture of her hand and the response was "I don't exchange pics." Especially with someone who has just recently signed on to Lit, I'm a little suspicious. Guys know there are lots of guys on here posing... and women should understand that as well. A sign with a hand or a newspaper to assure us you're really a woman doesn't seem a lot to ask - it's not going up on the internet. It's not something unflattering. Now, establishing an etiquette for this... that seems like something for more experienced Litsters than I.

 

[rbone04]

I look at it this way... I wouldn't take offense if they asked, cause I'd at least know they were serious about wanting to get to know me and possibly see me. I wouldn't ask for proof, because they're not going to send me a bogus pic if they intend on meeting up in person. I'd just assume go on pretending it's them if we're never going to meet in the first place... which we obviously aren't if it's not them. They'd just be using our online "encounters" as spank material, just like most everyone else on the internet.

 

[Cipher]

Been there, done that. Being a real woman, I've had no problem holding up a sign with, perhaps, my online user name (or someone else's - like if I was saying hi to them) on it and the date or whatever. No bog deal to me.

Yep. I'm with Dark Pleasures on this!

I have no issue showing who i really am. Hell, don't like me or what you see? Fine by me! Atleast i'm not leading anyone on. And seriously, being found out as a fraud would be embarrassing! & Not to mention LAME! Messing with people's minds on who they think you are or what you want them to believe you look like..is shady. So not my style.

 

[slutpower]

I don't like being asked for a face pic, but mainly as people ask after chatting for about 5 minutes. But I don't intend meeting with anyone on here (sorry!) and therefore dislike the idea of putting a picture of myself on the internet. I've had very bad experiences in the past with this.

It does seem strange as I'm quite open to sex really and showing myself off, but the internet is a no-go area for me.

Saying that, I'm never offended, I just won't do it. I will be offended if the person persists.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I asked CayleeBug71 what she looked like and she showed me a pic of Wifey from Wifey's World. Then when I caught him/her on it, he/she laughed it off, knowing he/she got caught.

I'd rather the person say "I'd rather not" then be a liar and use a picture of another woman.

 

[BadBoyfriend]

Interesting - "she" has been pretty active for a while

 

[JulieBethH]

I don't like being asked for a face pic, but mainly as people ask after chatting for about 5 minutes. But I don't intend meeting with anyone on here (sorry!) and therefore dislike the idea of putting a picture of myself on the internet. I've had very bad experiences in the past with this.

It does seem strange as I'm quite open to sex really and showing myself off, but the internet is a no-go area for me.

Saying that, I'm never offended, I just won't do it. I will be offended if the person persists.

I was about to respond but slutpower has captured it nicely. I used to share pictures but I had several very risque pictures shared with my boss by an internet 'partner' who got pissed off when I didn't want to meet them. I had no idea they knew where I worked. I won't put myself at risk again. I'm not offended, in fact flattered, but it's a no go.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I had a guy on here throw a fit with me because I would not give him a photo of myself. He said he had been duped by a few people here who claimed they were women but later turned out to be only men. So he wanted to verify that I am a woman. And he pressed and pressed me for a photo, so much so that it became the primary topic of a series of PM's.

I said to him, well I'm sorry that's been your experience but that has nothing to do with me and it's not my problem. I don't give out pics of myself on the internet. There's probably nothing wrong with guys for asking but I'm kind of sick of it being pretty much standard after a little conversation has transpired. I'm not going to meet anyone in person from this website so, what's the point? Mostly pictures are chased by guys who want them for spank bank material. Go look at AmPics threads or porn and don't bother me, you know ? A guy who really likes me here may ask for a photo but will never pressure me for one as "proof" or whatever. That is likely to be the ONLY type of guy who will ever get to see what I look like.

 

[GrrlFriday]

I don't give out photos for my personal safety. It is incredibly tiring and frustrating to speak honestly about one's intimate desires with someone and then to be asked for a 'proof picture'.

 

[Faye_Whitaker]

This one really goes towards women because I am sure guys would have no problems sending pics to a woman.

If you were talking to a guy who seemed really nice. Say you talked for about, oh, two weeks, on a daily basis. You described yourself to him and was truthful. Then one day he asks, nicely, if you could provide a proof pic that you are who you say you are. Not a face pic. But a pic of you holding a sign with their name on it.

Would this offend you, despite the fact that you were truthful? I've had many bad encounters in the past with people literally not being who they say they were and me finding out. Even when a woman sends pics, I have had the occurrence of finding those same pics on Google.

So if I meet someone and we hit it off, I always politely ask for a proof pic just to see if they are A. Really a woman and B. They look like how they describe themselves as. I NEVER ask for a face pic.

Would this offend you if someone asked?

I wouldn't be necessarily offended if someone asked - it would depend on the situation - but if I don't want to show myself to you, that's kind of my choice, so if someone couldn't take no for an answer, yes, I'd be offended.

 

[luvu4ever]

If I happened to hit it off with someone, who was of like mind and was interesting to talk to, I would not be offended at your suggestion. Honestly sounds better than automaticly asking for more personal pics first. If you are telling the truth, there would be nothing to hide.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I had a guy on here throw a fit with me because I would not give him a photo of myself. He said he had been duped by a few people here who claimed they were women but later turned out to be only men. So he wanted to verify that I am a woman. And he pressed and pressed me for a photo, so much so that it became the primary topic of a series of PM's.

I said to him, well I'm sorry that's been your experience but that has nothing to do with me and it's not my problem. I don't give out pics of myself on the internet. There's probably nothing wrong with guys for asking but I'm kind of sick of it being pretty much standard after a little conversation has transpired. I'm not going to meet anyone in person from this website so, what's the point? Mostly pictures are chased by guys who want them for spank bank material. Go look at AmPics threads or porn and don't bother me, you know ? A guy who really likes me here may ask for a photo but will never pressure me for one as "proof" or whatever. That is likely to be the ONLY type of guy who will ever get to see what I look like.

It's wrong it turns into "Please show me a pic of yourself." If a woman ever said "I don't feel comfortable," I will hope she truly isn't comfortable and still keep talking to her. But in the back of my mind I would have my doubts.

I'd never EVER ask for a face pic simply because I would be afraid of showing mine. But I have asked for simple "hold a sign" in front of your chest (clothed if comfortable) or in front of your legs. You can usually tell if it's a woman just by looking at their hands.

And keep in mind, I'm talking about knowing someone and talking to them for weeks, or even months. Not just one day.

 

[CurvAppeal]

i am not one to give out my pictures to many people, my body is sacred...and i wouldn't ever show who i am to just ANYONE. but...i wouldn't describe myself to just ANYONE either...im selective on who i let into my life.

 

[klippert]

I try to avoid getting into chats (PM's) with people that don't take the time to fill-in a profile...maybe add a picture.
I know....anyone can make it up... lit, affords people a secrete life. If someone wants a sexy horny chat...ill play along.
I have been PM''ing with some on for a while. they have full profile filled in. Have post some pictures... I'm not intending on some dream meeting. so I trust this person is whom they say they are.
I have NOT requested any proof, or exchanged emails. don't find it necessary. If they wanted to...I believe they would have asked.
I also believe... a give away it could be a guys posing... how quickly they want to exchange emails...trade pix..

 

[whynotjustsayit]

It's wrong it turns into "Please show me a pic of yourself." If a woman ever said "I don't feel comfortable," I will hope she truly isn't comfortable and still keep talking to her. But in the back of my mind I would have my doubts.

There's a way to get around this. Just ask for her a voice sample. A message where she says or reads something to you. It's pretty reliable information, the sound of one's voice, as to discerning gender, I would say. In most cases, I doubt you would be left uncertain.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I also believe... a give away it could be a guys posing... how quickly they want to exchange emails...trade pix..

Hahaha!!!!!!!!! Boy, are you right about that. That's another tell. Men tend to take certain tracks in conversation..... but women do as well. If one is socially savvy and experienced enough, I don't think it's that easy to be fooled as to someone's gender online.

 

[BiTodd]

They certainly know I am a slut. No doubts there.

 

[Alanija]

This one really goes towards women because I am sure guys would have no problems sending pics to a woman.

If you were talking to a guy who seemed really nice. Say you talked for about, oh, two weeks, on a daily basis. You described yourself to him and was truthful. Then one day he asks, nicely, if you could provide a proof pic that you are who you say you are. Not a face pic. But a pic of you holding a sign with their name on it.

Would this offend you, despite the fact that you were truthful? I've had many bad encounters in the past with people literally not being who they say they were and me finding out. Even when a woman sends pics, I have had the occurrence of finding those same pics on Google.

So if I meet someone and we hit it off, I always politely ask for a proof pic just to see if they are A. Really a woman and B. They look like how they describe themselves as. I NEVER ask for a face pic.

Would this offend you if someone asked?

Honestly, what would insult me is the fact that he wants me to PROVE anything. If we've talked for 2 weeks then obviously there should be at least SOME amount of trust between us. All those people who ask someone else to prove something seriously overstep the natural boundaries and meddle into someone else life. Now, if someone was to ask that nicely, I would consider an actual pic exchange (with the face an all) sometime later - possibly. Why the heck should he know my body if he'll never see my face? I'm not here for finding sex partners so I really don't care if others want to get their rocks off on my body. I prefer things with more substance...

 

[Alanija]

I have a question of my own to everyone... I get that you might have been hurt in the past by someone not turning out to be who they are, but does that mean you're going to need proof from everyone else afterwards to see they're what they say they are? What difference does it make if two weeks later you won't really speak with the person anymore? That is how it often happens here on Lit. For those that you really connect with... shouldn't you trust them enough and be smart enough to make your own judgements instead of needing other people to reassure you?

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I have a question of my own to everyone... I get that you might have been hurt in the past by someone not turning out to be who they are, but does that mean you're going to need proof from everyone else afterwards to see they're what they say they are? What difference does it make if two weeks later you won't really speak with the person anymore? That is how it often happens here on Lit. For those that you really connect with... shouldn't you trust them enough and be smart enough to make your own judgements instead of needing other people to reassure you?

Yeah you have a point. I know now that I shouldn't let past experiences affect how I go about meeting new people in the future.

I guess I keep the past in my mind to much and should simply let go and enjoy anything that comes my way without questioning it.

 

[DarkPleasures]

I asked CayleeBug71 what she looked like and she showed me a pic of Wifey from Wifey's World. Then when I caught him/her on it, he/she laughed it off, knowing he/she got caught.

Interesting - "she" has been pretty active for a while

A while back there was a name (HeyItsDani) who claimed to be a young girl from Colorado. "She" had a shit-load of pics posted in Am Pics. Then one day someone decided to use Tineye to run a check and found out all of "her" pics were found all over the net on many porn sites. The regs in that board called "her" on it and "she's" never been back now. Was a rather active (posted quite a bit in this board too) person before being outted.

 

[Youremine]

I don't like being asked for a face pic, but mainly as people ask after chatting for about 5 minutes. But I don't intend meeting with anyone on here (sorry!) and therefore dislike the idea of putting a picture of myself on the internet. I've had very bad experiences in the past with this.

It does seem strange as I'm quite open to sex really and showing myself off, but the internet is a no-go area for me.

Saying that, I'm never offended, I just won't do it. I will be offended if the person persists.

I agree, I wouldn't be offended. Because I have had some bad experiences in the past with pictures that I posted online I would decline. I would also however be offended if they continue to ask for pix even after I told them no.