for the guys (a question)

[xssve]

Probably a turn on for cucks, turn off for everybody else - the dynamics of a threesome are pretty complicated, there is typically a primary dyad and an "appendage", emotionally, the third in a menage is not the subject of significant emotional investment which could lead to jealousy etc., on the part of the primary partner - doesn't mean nobody cares about their feelings, but it's sort of protocol that the third remain somewhat neutral as an emotional object - hard to describe, really, it's often a subtle thing, and a good third can be hard to find as it requires attachment without commitment, if a manner of speaking, more like an FWB.

 

[jeninflorida]

Probably a turn on for cucks, turn off for everybody else - the dynamics of a threesome are pretty complicated, there is typically a primary dyad and an "appendage", emotionally, the third in a menage is not the subject of significant emotional investment which could lead to jealousy etc., on the part of the primary partner - doesn't mean nobody cares about their feelings, but it's sort of protocol that the third remain somewhat neutral as an emotional object - hard to describe, really, it's often a subtle thing, and a good third can be hard to find as it requires attachment without commitment, if a manner of speaking, more like an FWB.

but if a guy is skilled and has the confidence, he can sit back and watch, then take the others place when the first guy is finished.

I agree that 3-somes are complicated. men get too excited and jump all over the place

 

[jeninflorida]

For my wife, turn off. Not interested. The idea of her with another man is not attractive and gets my alpha male very angry. That pussy belongs to ME.

But back in college I dated a girl who I seriously wanted to see pinned between two cocks (one of them mine, preferably.) I even wrote a story about it (Gina and Brandon.) I wanted to share her all over the place, but I've never had that urge with other women I've cared about.

well mr alpha male, what if your wife is bi or bi curious....could you share her with a hottie?

 

[xssve]

but if a guy is skilled and has the confidence, he can sit back and watch, then take the others place when the first guy is finished.

I agree that 3-somes are complicated. men get too excited and jump all over the place

Well, with men involved, competition is always an issue, we're show off's by nature and that is reinforced by enculturation - doesn't mean men can't set all that aside and watch their woman enjoy themselves, without even necessarily getting into a cuck dynamic, which often involves humiliation fantasies, etc. on the part of one or more partners.

We're not talking about cuck but the story idea has some cuck overtones, though in this case, I think a porn analogy might be closer - most guys enjoy porn, i.e., voyeurism, and watching your wife make it with a hung stud is voyeuristic, live, interactive porn so to speak, so that could be a turn on, and there is often a touch of Shaktism, i.e., worship of the female principle (as opposed to worship of a particular female).

In fact I suspect these things may be significantly present even in a cuck dynamic, the cuck may merely endure the humiliation aspect because it's expected or something, when that really isn't the primary source of emotional gratification.

There are any number of reasons ways such a scenario could work, there is Shaktisim as I mentioned, sexuality is as much and aspect of feminine nature as is masculine, often purer - i.e., again, with men, there is often a competitive aspect to it, the actual sex might even be secondary to status considerations, trophy wives, etc., and that can lead to dissatisfaction, something very gratifying about sexuality stripped of all these externalities, in it's raw, primal form.

This has an "unfinished business" aspect to it, she's had the hots for this guy for some time, she finally gets a chance to do it, and he's all "go for it", i.e., there is an element of closure for her which he is encouraging her in - in this case, simply watching her squirm in anticipation and desire is gratifying, it's emotional voyeurism on one level, with a certain amount of mutual respect and trust without which it couldn't otherwise end well.

 

[jeninflorida]

I'm thinking that a lot of men have the mfm fantasy, but would never admit it. lets face it, guys love porn, so why not have the wife act in it

Well, with men involved, competition is always an issue, we're show off's by nature and that is reinforced by enculturation - doesn't mean men can't set all that aside and watch their woman enjoy themselves, without even necessarily getting into a cuck dynamic, which often involves humiliation fantasies, etc. on the part of one or more partners.

We're not talking about cuck but the story idea has some cuck overtones, though in this case, I think a porn analogy might be closer - most guys enjoy porn, i.e., voyeurism, and watching your wife make it with a hung stud is voyeuristic, live, interactive porn so to speak, so that could be a turn on, and there is often a touch of Shaktism, i.e., worship of the female principle (as opposed to worship of a particular female).

In fact I suspect these things may be significantly present even in a cuck dynamic, the cuck may merely endure the humiliation aspect because it's expected or something, when that really isn't the primary source of emotional gratification.

There are any number of reasons ways such a scenario could work, there is Shaktisim as I mentioned, sexuality is as much and aspect of feminine nature as is masculine, often purer - i.e., again, with men, there is often a competitive aspect to it, the actual sex might even be secondary to status considerations, trophy wives, etc., and that can lead to dissatisfaction, something very gratifying about sexuality stripped of all these externalities, in it's raw, primal form.

This has an "unfinished business" aspect to it, she's had the hots for this guy for some time, she finally gets a chance to do it, and he's all "go for it", i.e., there is an element of closure for her which he is encouraging her in - in this case, simply watching her squirm in anticipation and desire is gratifying, it's emotional voyeurism on one level, with a certain amount of mutual respect and trust without which it couldn't otherwise end well.

 

[Alaric2]

Happens

The old boyfriend scenario happened to a couple I knew. She teased her boyfriend with stories about the past boyfriend because of the body/endowment thing because it turned him on. Then, the old boyfriend called her when he was back in town and teasing really ramped up. The boyfriend made the mistake of asking her if she wanted to sleep with him again. She was somewhat coy but the silence indicated "yes." She DID go to bed with the old boyfriend but the teasing was so intense that the current boyfriend jacked off outside the bedroom door listening to the whispering and bedsprings. In a matter of weeks, she managed to manipulate a threesome and eventually encouraged the current boyfriend to enjoy the old boyfriend on a one to one of his own.

 

[sirhugs]

The old boyfriend scenario happened to a couple I knew. She teased her boyfriend with stories about the past boyfriend because of the body/endowment thing because it turned him on. Then, the old boyfriend called her when he was back in town and teasing really ramped up. The boyfriend made the mistake of asking her if she wanted to sleep with him again. She was somewhat coy but the silence indicated "yes." She DID go to bed with the old boyfriend but the teasing was so intense that the current boyfriend jacked off outside the bedroom door listening to the whispering and bedsprings. In a matter of weeks, she managed to manipulate a threesome and eventually encouraged the current boyfriend to enjoy the old boyfriend on a one to one of his own.

would make a nice story

 

[roomfor1more]

We did a threesome with a former boyfriend of my wife. They did some petting and oral though never had intercourse, according to her. It was a one-off situation that went well but I do not know if I would agree to do it again with a former boyfriend.

 

[xssve]

I'm thinking that a lot of men have the mfm fantasy, but would never admit it. lets face it, guys love porn, so why not have the wife act in it

Oh it's hot, no question, I'd do it with the right guy, and there's quid pro quo to to consider...

I've been reading Arno Karlens Threesomes, which is a anthropoligical/psychological study of Threesomes, so it's sort got my mind working an the psychological dynamics of the thing.

One common theme is male bonding, you see that in a lot of stories, i.e., sharing your wife with your best friend - even incest themes are largely driven by alienation and the need to emotionally bond, IMO, it is often a somewhat impersonal world we live in.

Anyway, statistically, women are more likely to cheat on you with your best friend, familiarity breeds. I think I'd be more comfortable with somebody I knew, rather than a complete stranger (to me).

Karlen hasn't gotten into that yet, his informants are mostly swingers, I think the ad hoc scenario, such as you suggest, offers more opportunity to explore intimacy issues.

In my experience, a lot of couples have gotten past the jealousy thing, etc. comfortable with each other, and just want a little excitement after a while, live out a few fantasies.

 

[xssve]

Anyway, I've always been the stunt cock in threesomes, never the primary, so I sort of have to guess at what might possibly be going through my head.

I know in cuck, the primary sort of becomes the appendage, the Bull acts as temporary primary, which is a different dynamic, of which there are probably variations, like I said, I don't have much experience with that, mostly just horny couples looking for something besides the same 'ol same 'ol.

 

[jeninflorida]

I can see where some threesomes or affairs might start. The wife feels neglected and wants attention. Or her life is safe and a bad boy comes into her life and the danger gets her aroused. Question is can the marriage survive?

My goal is to create something that doesn’t turn bi-male, or into humiliation.

Over the years I’ve received emails from guys that are unable to perform, wish that I cold email the men back to see if the male wonder drugs have helped with the male erection problems. This damn recession (oh a new idea)

Oh it's hot, no question, I'd do it with the right guy, and there's quid pro quo to to consider...

I've been reading Arno Karlens Threesomes, which is a anthropoligical/psychological study of Threesomes, so it's sort got my mind working an the psychological dynamics of the thing.

One common theme is male bonding, you see that in a lot of stories, i.e., sharing your wife with your best friend - even incest themes are largely driven by alienation and the need to emotionally bond, IMO, it is often a somewhat impersonal world we live in.

Anyway, statistically, women are more likely to cheat on you with your best friend, familiarity breeds. I think I'd be more comfortable with somebody I knew, rather than a complete stranger (to me).

Karlen hasn't gotten into that yet, his informants are mostly swingers, I think the ad hoc scenario, such as you suggest, offers more opportunity to explore intimacy issues.

In my experience, a lot of couples have gotten past the jealousy thing, etc. comfortable with each other, and just want a little excitement after a while, live out a few fantasies.

 

[BBW Fan]

This was an interesting question and it doesn't have an easy answer.

As far as the ex-lover, no way. My wife's ex-lovers were not good for her. And that's not just me being egotistical, she'll admit that they were no good.

I do fantasize about mfm threesomes (and of course mff threesomes). But it would have to be with someone we both knew and would feel comfortable around. Also, we would have to know that there was no expectation of commitment. The sexual experience would be just for fun.

I think a strong marriage can survive it if all involved understand the groundrules and do not try for anything more.