For Lit. vets...

[JaymesBlond007]

Recently, as some of you may have noticed, I've been accused of falsely representing myself in one of my threads. I'm not really sure how I've been handling the situation, but I feel I might be coming across a little too aggresive in the whole situation.

My thread is for the Literotica Vets. out there.

As people of obvious alternate points of view, do you ever get tired of defending yourselves? When does the point come when you stop? I hate to beat a mute point, but then I refuse to allow someone to drag my name through the mud.

I ask for your advice so I don't embarass myself. (If I already have not done so.)

 

[JaymesBlond007]

COME ON!

Everyone's always so eager to throw in their two cents. What's wrong with my question!?

 

[modest mouse]

Regarding your second post, you waited 7 minutes at a slow time of day, relax a bit and put down the coffee.

As someone who isnt totally new but not a 'vet', I was accused of being an old Lit memeber when i first started posting. I have no idea what you are referrring to specifically in your post, so I cannot comment on it. My reaction was to say 'fuck it' and just be myself, people take it how they want.

 

[Mellon Collie]

Ok, not a vet but I do have two cents

As people of obvious alternate points of view, do you ever get tired of defending yourselves? When does the point come when you stop? I hate to beat a mute point, but then I refuse to allow someone to drag my name through the mud.

Of course people become tired of defending themselves or their point of view.

I know I certainly get tired of defending my ideas about Anarchism and the evils of Capitalism in a classroom full of perfect little consumers. I suppose knowing whether or not to just quit depends on how deeply you feel about whatever it is you are arguing for, sometimes it's just not worth the effort.

Especially when you are dealing with idiots.

 

[lobito]

why are you asking me? I've never HAD to defend myself. I honestly don't recall reading anything where you had to defend yourself, but I'm not always reading ALL the threads either.

We ALL makes asses of ourselves at one point in our lives, so no big deal.

Oh and Mouse, I love. hehehe

 

[SexyChele]

Hmmm...Jaymes, I think your second post answers your first. A "little" aggressive? Could be ~

If you post something to the board, you can't expect people to jump on it right away. It takes time for people to respond. Give them a chance.

Plus, I really don't know what you are talking about. Haven't seen the thread, and not sure if I care to. But there have been times I've found myself arguing a point until it became ridiculous. For me, once I state my opinion, it's out there. If some one disagrees or questions what I'm saying, I'll try to clarify or answer. However, when it gets to the point where you realize that you are not going to change their mind and they are not going to change yours, it is time to throw in the towel and move on.

I've found very little here to really take all that seriously anyway. After all, how many here truly know who you are? And if some one doesn't truly know who you are, do you really care?

But then, as I said, I really don't know what post or thread you are referring to. So, with a grain of salt, as they say...

 

[sexy-girl]

time

(im not a lit vet either but) i agree with what MM said ... just let it pass keep being yourself on the board and dont worry to much about what people think ... if your a nice person (im sure you are) that will shine through and people will see that


everyone has blips or little arguements on here and its best to just let them pass as quickly as possible and get back to being your normal self




(by the way i have no idea what happened)

 

[Guru]

 

[Ragingbull]

I always thought this was a place to say and do as you please. My rules have always been that you are who you say you are, nothing more of less, and anything goes. People don't like what you say tough shit. Move on and find someone who wants to play.

Mellon, you sure are cute.

Bull

 

[JaymesBlond007]

To Lobito and SexyChele

Read my thread about "Extreme Moral Decisions" Beginning on page 3, post 1. You will get an unwanted description of my problem.

And yes I, am jumping the gun. I automatically assume, since someone posted something, then everyone reads it. Therefore an urgency to clear my name.

 

[Mellon Collie]

Mellon, you sure are cute.

Bull

Why thank you.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Better than being a dumbass, Guru!

I don't try to "defend" myself here. The people in this little piece of the cyber world who matter to me, know me. Therefore, I don't spend a lot of time explaining to the general population who and what I am. I figure at some point of another every person who posts here will have some else who takes exception to something they said.

Shit happens. Then you deal with it. I've seen some posters who go off on multi-paragraphical rants about how they are not whatever it was the other person said they were. Then you have the posters who just plain don't care what people think about them and don't respond to flames/attacks of any sort.

Me? I don't get flamed for the most part. I don't have a lot to say here publicly. Most of my business is done on a more personal level (take that as you will )

I suppose it all depends on personality.

Above all else, RELAX. You are here to have fun, right? When it stops being fun and it starts being a chore.....you know it's time to re-evaluate. Real life is too stressful in itself....don't add un-needed strife to your cyber life.

Good Luck

 

[JaymesBlond007]

Originally posted by SimplySouthern
Shit happens. Then you deal with it. I've seen some posters who go off on multi-paragraphical rants about how they are not whatever it was the other person said they were.

....Oops....

 

[SimplySouthern]

I didn't say that was a bad thing.

It's just not me.

I don't write more than 20 words per post.

 

[Guru]

 

[SexyChele]

Okay, I've read the thread in question - all of it.

Jaymes, I don't know how else to say this, so I'm just going to come right out with it:

Sometimes you come across as extremely intense. One post you seem like a really nice guy. Then, just a few hours later, it's like a bomb going off. Quite frankly, I'd be hesitant to post to any thread you are on, because I'd be concerned you'd bite my head off if I happen to say what you perceived to be the wrong thing.

When you post anything out to these board, not everyone is going to clap you on the back and say "good thinking, fella!" Some are going to disagree, others question you outright. Hey, it happens.

You came down very hard on Lexie - much harder than I felt necessary, yet you didn't feel the need to apologize to her. Yet, you felt an apology is due you from YB. In the same vein, your first response was classy and okay. Then you followed it up 4 hours later with this explosive, cussing attitude that made me rethink how classy your first response was. Sometimes, it is best to put something out once and forget about it.

Sorry for being so blunt, but you did ask.

Please - don't bite my head off, depending on your mood ~

 

[SimplySouthern]

21 words... but who's counting!

Smartass!

You're counting the number 20 as a word? It wasn't written out.

I think you cheat!

 

[Guru]

 

[lavender]

Re: Ok, not a vet but I do have two cents

 

[Cath!]

Mellon...you are one smart cookie...

sometimes it's just not worth the effort.

thumbs up to that comment, baby! only I would amend it just a tad...

It is never worth the effort.

 

[JaymesBlond007]

Sorry for the late reply....

SC I don't believe you could be any more on the money about my volatile personality. And although I often get passionate in conversation, I try to make it a point not to attack anyone on a personal level.

I hold much respect for Lexie. She has been kind enough to answer the majority, if not all of my threads. The moment in conversation was getting the best if me, and after re-reading our exchange of posts, you are faultless in your opinion toward my behavior. She has done nothing but welcome me here at Lit. and I let my emotions get in the way of that.

*breath......*

But I believe, when you publicly accuse someone of fabrication, you had better follow through with your charge. What does it say about your character when you denounce somebody and then refuse to answer their response? To go and run from the fight that you have just started. That is what made me so angry. I did jump off the deep end, but I was pushed to the edge of the pool....

I wish you could see me. I honestly do. You would realize why I have such a frightening personality. I've tried to post a couple of pics of me as AV's or in threads, but for some reason they won't load. I'm not what one would call "physically intimidating". I'm more of the "pretty boy" type. So I've had to develope an agressive style of speaking in order to be taken seriously, and I'm guilty of sometimes going over the edge, often when I'm being taken advantage of. I can be the nicest person you've ever met, or tha meanest SOB you'll ever want to know. It just depends on how much respect you extend me. And that takes me back to Lexie, thank you for pointing that out to me.

I can't expect anyone at Lit. to find what I have to say a philosophical breakthrough. I can't conceive a lot of the things I see here as well. But I'm not going to jump out a call someone a liar. I realize I'm no intellectual genius but the one thing I try to remember, is that you all have feelings. For all intents and purposes YB was trying to protect his family here at Lit., but could have used much more resolve in doing so.

I'm not going to bite your head off. And I'll try to check my hostility in the future. Thanks Sexy.....Ms.Chele.

 

[Cath!]

Re: Sorry for the late reply....

I did jump off the deep end, but I was pushed to the edge of the pool....

*tossing you a lifejacket*

all I can offer you from my wisdom as one of the most trolled people here is support and encouragement to continue to post your opinions. Some will love ya, some will hate ya...don't worry about who is who in the zoo. And the MOST important rule...(one that I am still working on)...do not let anyone know what button to push, cause it will be used over and over again.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Sorry for the late reply....

But I believe, when you publicly accuse someone of fabrication, you had better follow through with your charge. What does it say about your character when you denounce somebody and then refuse to answer their response? To go and run from the fight that you have just started. That is what made me so angry. I did jump off the deep end, but I was pushed to the edge of the pool....

It takes two people to have a fight. Forgive me if I LMAO here at your righteous indignation. Hon, if you continue to hang out here at Lit you will be more than pushed to the edge of the pool, you will be bodily throwed in!!

As Cath said, grab the life jacket, swim to shore and get back at it.

Cassidy