For all Cali P.I.'s I need a little help

[Kymberley]

Some of you know that I have not seen my hubby since I left him 7 years ago.

Well yesterday, I was in Illinois for my Great Aunt's funeral and decided I was finally no longer scared of him and went to his mother's house which was just a few miles from the cemetary.

His mom was not home, but his big brother, who was the only one in the family that I liked, pulled up and it was great to see him.

He defended me and the boys against his brother when we were being stalked and threatened.

He told me that my hubby is remarried and living in California. The kicker is, he has not ever divorced me. This is the second time he has married since I left, and after being married for more than 10 years, he is entitled to draw from my social security.

If I can find him and/or the marriage certificate for him and his latest wife, I can get a ruling that will block all attempts by him to do this, as well as finally get a divorce giving him no rights to the boys or anything I have accquired since the seperation.

California does not post public records online and I don't know the county this latest marriage was in. Who can I call, where can I write, any ideas on how to possibly track him or this license
down?


Thanks for any help!

 

[Shylady]

Kym I don't have any answers for you. Just want to wish you luck. (((HUG)) I admire you you are a tough lady. Much tougher than I have ever had to be.

 

[Cheyenne]

I think you actually need legal advice, first. A lawyer could tell you what is possible and what is not with someone who has remarried without divorcing you first.

 

[*bratcat*]

Kym

 

[Kymberley]

I think you actually need legal advice, first. A lawyer could tell you what is possible and what is not with someone who has remarried without divorcing you first.

I know after talking to the attorney that he can draw on my social security when he gets older. We have been married long enough to qualify him. However, if I can prove another marriage, bigamy, then I get the divorce on those grounds and can file to block him from my ss.

The lawyer tells me that either way, finding him is the best way to either divorce him if he has not done it, or get divorced because he is remarried.

 

[Kymberley]

Thanks Shy, I just want this to all finally be over.



And *bratty* check your PMs and now we just have to figure out a referral fee payment arrangement.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I know after talking to the attorney that he can draw on my social security when he gets older. We have been married long enough to qualify him. However, if I can prove another marriage, bigamy, then I get the divorce on those grounds and can file to block him from my ss.

The lawyer tells me that either way, finding him is the best way to either divorce him if he has not done it, or get divorced because he is remarried.

I am not so sure about that; my ex-wife (legally divorced) who is on SS disability, can draw from my benefits, although it will not affect my SS benefits when I retire or I go on disability - it only improves her benefits now. Retirement benefits may be different though.

I don't thinkg you will have problems getting in contact with someone in California that can provide you with the records, however, also have them look for divorce records; I think it may be possible for someone to divorce you without you knowing by filing an uncontested divorce if they contend that they cannot find you. Best to play it safe.

 

[Kymberley]

Thank you

His brother is almost positive that he did not divorce me. He remembers his mother arguing this point with the hubby.

And he already got married once before. It was anulled because they lied on the marriage license and then the stolen check bounced.

 

[sexy-girl]

it sounds like your lucky to get rid of this guy anyway ... lisa hired a PI once because of a stalking matter ... they found the guy and followed him and stuff ... they are very good at finding people because they can often use tricks the police cant

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Kymberley you may want to check into this... I don't know about where you live but where I do, IF there is no contact at all between a married couple for 7 years exactly not a day less, the marrage is oficaly nulified.

 

[GuyJD]

Maybe I can hook you up with my divorce lawyer, Kym.

 

[Kymberley]

Update

Well as I had suspected, his mother couldn't wait to tell him I had been by, gave him my number.

He called. I am the third wife in a string of five. The newest wife also knows I am the legal wife but is okay with it since now he has found God and is a better person.

They are surviving on welfare, even though he is 42 and capable of working, which means all you Californians are supporting him this time, not me.

I have given him the ultimatium for the divorce and he has agreed to it but will not pay a dime to get it done.

I am looking into the bigomy charges to see how I can protect my social security and keep him from ever filing against mine.

And I am still fucking pissed that this son-of-a-bitch is alive.

Thanks for all the input.

Have a nice day.

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Update

 

[Kymberley]

Not yet *bratty* and I am still fuming.

He left me a message today asking me if I was interested in trying to make this marriage work.

Fuck him.

I asked him yesterday why he keeps saying he was sorry?

Sorry for what? That is what I want to hear him say. What part of all of this is he sorry for?

That son-of-a-bitch said this. (All a quote)

"Everytime I look at my hand and see that scar from the knife, it brings back flashes of the horror on your face as my hand was around your throat and I was thrusting the knife at you. I can't get the fear in your eyes out of my head. I can't believe I did that. I pray to God all the time that you will forgive me and when I saw your hair sticking out of the wall with the blade of the knife buried in it, all I thought about was that I just about killed you.


My remark to him


"Fuck you! I don't want you to remember the look on my face. I could care less about the scar you live with on your hand. I want you to remember the face of my 6 year old son when he heard his mommy screaming for help and saw his daddy try to kill her with that knife. I want you to remember the terror on our son's face when you turned around that night and saw him standing there watching you. "


"Other than that, I don't give a damn about what scars, horrors, apologies or any of your other bullshit that you want to be forgiven for."


I won't forgive him ever, I will just attempt to forget him.


Sorry, end of rant now.