Flirting 101

[lasoleta]

Ok Lits, I find myself in an awkward position. I don’t think I’m an effective flirter. Having spent most of my life being quite shy, I have not mastered the fine art of flirting. I need tips. Ladies, what do you find works well for you? Guys, what’s a turn on for you in the flirting department?


I’m ready to take notes.

 

[Jacque Ash]

Smile a lot.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

I have the opposite problem, folks think I'm flirting all the damn time, when I'm just clownin' around. Sheesh!

 

[Simply Me]

I'm the worlds worst flirter. I really suck at it. It takes me a while to become comfortable enough with someone to even attempt it.

 

[Bluereign]

Step 1: Find something good about the intended victim...err target.

Step 2: Start Slow build up. Start with non sexual inneundo's and just cut and dry compliments and see how they respond.

Step 3: escalate. Start with normal sounding compliments laced with a hint of sexual inneundo. Check response again.

Step 4: continue until you get slapped, sued , or lucky.

Good luck.

 

[Jacque Ash]

With me, flirting comes easily. It's difficult to describe in words. It's a state of mind and a natural reaction to someone who seems interesting to me. Yes, do find something interesting about the intended "target" and talk about it then go from there. Feel out the person and go with the flow. You can come on strong or be subtle about it. Everyone is different.

Whatever you do, don't make the conversation all about you. Find out all you can about the person and ask questions all the while smiling at them. Be funny, chicks dig that.

I think you should know by then if they're interested in you or not. If anything, have fun flirting. It's all a numbers game. You'll eventually meet someone who is on the same level as you.

Good luck.

 

[Rubyfruit]

i flirt in a non-sexual, non-threatening way all the time. it's part of my job, really. people just want to be related to. so, relate to them.

 

[GeorgeWBush]

Learn about the person by reading what they write and be nice.

If someone says something about them they don't like answer with something nice to her and something against the other person.

but just be nice.

I can't give away all my secrets.

 

[kobalt.9]

Ok Lits, I find myself in an awkward position. I don’t think I’m an effective flirter. Having spent most of my life being quite shy, I have not mastered the fine art of flirting. I need tips. Ladies, what do you find works well for you? Guys, what’s a turn on for you in the flirting department?


I’m ready to take notes.

Here are a few lines that have always worked...
1) hey baby, what's your sign?


Actually, that's all I have. More importantly, that's all I need.


Anyway, what's your sign?

 

[GeorgeWBush]

i flirt in a non-sexual, non-threatening way all the time. it's part of my job, really. people just want to be related to. so, relate to them.

if it's sexual flirting, add more eye contact and finger-mouth contact.

I watched when you flirt it's sexy.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I watched when you flirt it's sexy.

maybe, but certainly non-threatening.

 

[Guru]

How about doing it in real life, instead of by typing crap here?

 

[Guest]

Don't put down Flirting online!

I learned to flirt online. I learned to flirt by sitting at a computer and TALKING to people. That's all flirting is... is talking to someone. Flirting online can boost the ego.

If someone is very shy, finding out that they CAN meet someone, talk to someone, get someone interested in them, is a confidence booster. After that, it's just overcoming the PHYSICAL problems. If the person is fat, ugly whatever.

If the personality is good, online, then that same personality should shine through OFFLINE!! IF the person has the confidence to walk up and say "Hi!" That's the hardest part or it was for me. The thought of going up and Saying HI to someone was the scariest part of the whole ordeal. Then of course, I'd get tongue tied and run out of things to say. Then the other person thinks you're a total idiot.

Learn to FLIRT online. The anonymity(sp?) makes it easier, makes it more comfotable, helps people to relax. If you can get someone interested in you, without ever meeting or showing a pic... you can do anything. I did it. I met my wife online. We were BOTH very shy. We talked online, became very comfortable with each other, flirted online and THEN Met. We are both now very flirtatious and not just with each other.

 

[woodgie2]

I have the opposite problem, folks think I'm flirting all the damn time, when I'm just clownin' around. Sheesh!

You mean you were just clownin' around? Dammit, I thought you liked me!

In hindsight though, the size 112 shoes, the red nose, enormous trousers, car with the falling off doors and the red frizzy hair should have been warning signs... (well, at least the AVs should hav put me straight!)

I feel so used.

 

[Draco]

Smile, and make a lot of eye contact. Learn to smile with your eyes as well as your mouth.
When the other person breaks that eye contact, hold it, until they look back. Touch your hair, your ears, they'll soon (if they are onto it) pick up the message you're sending. Its all about body language. Dont fold your arms while flirting, thats defensive. Find a way to get into that persons 'comfort or space bubble' and compliment them. Touch their arm if you're game enough.

Body language is a fascinating study. Just sit in a coffee shop or bar, and watch the silent interactions that go on. Learn the signals, you'll soon be flirting with the best of them, and scoring big time.

Good luck.

 

[lasoleta]

Ok, the long and short of it seems to be, smile and touch myself. I can do that. I think.

Anymore tips?

BTW, Nothing wrong with online flirting, but I was talking about real life, face to face, in the flesh flirting. Aside from being shy, I’m pretty blunt. That doesn’t leave much room for flirtation. I’m working on it.

Rubyfruit, what do you do for a living? I’ve noticed you around the boards. You seem pretty confident. Confident chicks rule.

Kobolt9, what’s your sign is a cheesy pickup line. If desperate enough, I’m not beyond trying one. BTW, I’m a Gemini. Can you handle both of us? *hehe*

Thanks for the input!

*thinks to self, smile and touch myself, smile and touch myself, smile and touch myself…*

 

[LukkyKnight]

Step 4: continue until you get slapped, sued , or lukky.

That's my favorite step. Practice it.

 

[lasoleta]

That's my favorite step. Practice it.

but which part, getting slapped, sued or lucky?

 

[LukkyKnight]

but which part, getting slapped, sued or lucky?

Spelling buddy says, "lukky."

 

[XanoPhil]

Ok Lits, I find myself in an awkward position. I don’t think I’m an effective flirter. Having spent most of my life being quite shy, I have not mastered the fine art of flirting. I need tips. Ladies, what do you find works well for you? Guys, what’s a turn on for you in the flirting department?


I’m ready to take notes.

a humming nob-job is a good ice braker

 

[Guest]

The art of flirting starts with one knowing about signals and responses.

It takes practice of course. Years of practice.













Years and years and years of practice.

 

[lasoleta]

The art of flirting starts with one knowing about signals and responses.

*smiles and rests face in cupped hand*

ok so tell me about these signals and responses.






meanwhile, i'm off to feed my growing easy mac additction.

 

[honeylick]

The art of flirting starts with one knowing about signals and responses.

It takes practice of course. Years of practice.

Years and years and years of practice.

some things you are just born with.

 

[LukkyKnight]

some things you are just born with.

True, yet many take on greater interest at puberty.

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Ok Lits, I find myself in an awkward position. I don’t think I’m an effective flirter. Having spent most of my life being quite shy, I have not mastered the fine art of flirting. I need tips. Ladies, what do you find works well for you? Guys, what’s a turn on for you in the flirting department?


I’m ready to take notes.

have you tried flashing?

HEY, i'm just asking.