Fisting Question

[catalina_francisco]

Actually, for anyone not in a long term relationship with their fisting partner, I would recommend using latex gloves as a means of protection....might not sound that sexy (unless like me you love latex gloves ), but it minimises the risk of lots of nasty problems after the event.

Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

Short arms and long torso means no self fisting for wenchie.....

Well except for when I thought the benwas were stuck and I was desperately trying to get them out. Usually I can just barely reach 2 fingertips in me, but at that moment I got 3 fingers and my thumb.

Guess fear of explaning a ball in my pussy is more of a motivator than orgasm.

 

[Kailey_86]

J and i tried fisting this weekend. It didn't really go as well as we had hoped. We were so excited about trying it that We didn't end up using enough lube. We weren't really communicating enough either. i know that i am supposed to be very aroused before we start doing this but i honestly think that i was TOO aroused. He couldn't get that many fingers in me because i kept tensing up from having orgasms. Anyhooo....We are going to try it again. This time We are going to do it right. Take it slow, use lots of lube, good communication, no pumping (that's what caused the orgasms...and i ended up tearing a bit too).

 

[robincr]

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[Kailey_86]

Gee, sounds like a real bummer

I'll often lick or fuck my wife to her first orgasm, then as she comes down off of it I'll start playing with 2-3 fingers, then a 4th, staying away from her clit completely. Just penetration, slowly, in and out. I get lube and dribble it over my hand as I twist and push my fingers deeper.

I've found that at the widest point, it helps if I push my entire hand/wrist/fist downwards towards to bottom of her pussy. It's just flesh and muscle down there, so it'll give. The ony time she seems to feel pain is if I don't do that and so my knuckles drag too hard over the top wall, squishing her upper insides against the backside of the bone under her mons.

I can't push downwards too long, it's a stretch, but I'll do that downwards push and push in a 1/4", then rest, nibble on her thigh, lick her clit a little, then repeat again after 10 seconds or so.

I've also found if I start with 2 fingers in her ass while I work my fist into her pussy, then when things are at they're widest stretch, I'll remove my fingers from her ass and my fist slides in because of the room just created by those missing fingers.

Maybe some of these techniques will work better for us. i know that the clit stimulation thing might not do a whole lot for me. i am one of few women that this is true for. i get a lot more out of penetration than clit stimulation. Maybe He can just wiggle His fingers around or something instead. Then again, He discovered a certain kind of clit stimulation that works for me. If He pinches my clit until it sort of pops out, it drives me crazy. He calls it seed squeezing. Anyway, hopefully next weekend will go a little better.

 

[Amora]

J and i tried fisting this weekend. It didn't really go as well as we had hoped. We were so excited about trying it that We didn't end up using enough lube. We weren't really communicating enough either. i know that i am supposed to be very aroused before we start doing this but i honestly think that i was TOO aroused. He couldn't get that many fingers in me because i kept tensing up from having orgasms. Anyhooo....We are going to try it again. This time We are going to do it right. Take it slow, use lots of lube, good communication, no pumping (that's what caused the orgasms...and i ended up tearing a bit too).

I'm sorry it sounds to me like he needs to read this thread not you! Even the first time I was fisted I have never torn, it's about him taking it slow and reading about it first! I was the one interested first and emailed hubby with the web page I'd found, and we just went from there but fisting to begin with is very much the same as anal, lube, lube and more freaking lube!

Amora

 

[catalina_francisco]

J and i tried fisting this weekend. It didn't really go as well as we had hoped. We were so excited about trying it that We didn't end up using enough lube. We weren't really communicating enough either. i know that i am supposed to be very aroused before we start doing this but i honestly think that i was TOO aroused. He couldn't get that many fingers in me because i kept tensing up from having orgasms. Anyhooo....We are going to try it again. This time We are going to do it right. Take it slow, use lots of lube, good communication, no pumping (that's what caused the orgasms...and i ended up tearing a bit too).

Sounds a little odd, though mileage varies I guess. IME, orgasms while they are happening cause tightening, but immediately afterward usually cause more physical relaxation and natural lubrication in the area, thus easing the way considerably for fisting experiments. Tearing is not good, and have to agree, seems to be a lack of skill and care. You'll survive though I'm sure. BTW, what has happened to all the puppy play...I thought that was your main focus but I haven't seen you mention it lately?

Catalina

 

[Kailey_86]

Sounds a little odd, though mileage varies I guess. IME, orgasms while they are happening cause tightening, but immediately afterward usually cause more physical relaxation and natural lubrication in the area, thus easing the way considerably for fisting experiments. Tearing is not good, and have to agree, seems to be a lack of skill and care. You'll survive though I'm sure. BTW, what has happened to all the puppy play...I thought that was your main focus but I haven't seen you mention it lately?

Catalina

Yeah, the tear will heal. i end up tearing quite often for some reason. It's never really a big deal though. It heals quickly. Maybe i should talk to a doc about it. i like things rough...maybe i like it a little rougher than my body can handle. i'm not sure.

The puppy play is still there. Even when W/we aren't doing the puppy play, i am still His pet. Don't know why i haven't brought it up much lately. Not many people seem to be interested in it. i don't have much to say about it.

i forgot to add a first earlier...figging. This was a little more painful than i expected but still very nice.

 

[Etoile]

J and i tried fisting this weekend. It didn't really go as well as we had hoped. We were so excited about trying it that We didn't end up using enough lube. We weren't really communicating enough either. i know that i am supposed to be very aroused before we start doing this but i honestly think that i was TOO aroused. He couldn't get that many fingers in me because i kept tensing up from having orgasms. Anyhooo....We are going to try it again. This time We are going to do it right. Take it slow, use lots of lube, good communication, no pumping (that's what caused the orgasms...and i ended up tearing a bit too).

Whoa there...I know you hate hearing this, but take it from somebody with experience: you are moving WAY too fast.

Some important points:
1. Just because he didn't get his entire fist inside you doesn't mean you were unsuccessful. Fisting should NEVER be about getting the entire fist inside, it should be about enjoying the process. If you tried it, and had fun (multiple orgasms sounds like fun), then it was successful. Like a lot of things that have to do with sex, it's the journey, not the destination.

2. It's not a science. It's not a matter of "I am supposed to be very aroused first" - obviously it's helpful if you are, but this isn't like following a recipe straight out of the cookbook. You should do whatever makes you both feel comfortable, in the order you like best. What you are getting from posters here on Lit is good advice, but it's not necessarily how things will work for you.

3. If you weren't using enough lube, you'd know it. Being dry-fucked or dry-fisted can be quite painful. In most cases, not having enough lube will make you scream and cry out to have it. It can be pleasurable for some people, particularly masochists, but if you were enjoying yourself and having orgasms, then you were probably using enough. Make sure he lubes up the back of his hand, though - it needs lube in order to make it inside.

4. What makes you think you tore as a result of this? It's possible that you were bleeding from the inside if his nails weren't trimmed neatly. I get that a lot, it's not a sign of anything wrong - your tissues just get nicked a bit. Definitely practice safe sex so that if this happens, there's no risk of STD transmission. It seems unlikely that one would actually tear from fisting though. That's the kind of thing they usually fix with stitches.

Like I said, I know you won't like hearing this. But you really seem to be rushing headlong into it, so I'm trying to provide helpful advice so that you can have happy fisting experiences in the future.

 

[Kailey_86]

Whoa there...I know you hate hearing this, but take it from somebody with experience: you are moving WAY too fast.

Some important points:
1. Just because he didn't get his entire fist inside you doesn't mean you were unsuccessful. Fisting should NEVER be about getting the entire fist inside, it should be about enjoying the process. If you tried it, and had fun (multiple orgasms sounds like fun), then it was successful. Like a lot of things that have to do with sex, it's the journey, not the destination.

2. It's not a science. It's not a matter of "I am supposed to be very aroused first" - obviously it's helpful if you are, but this isn't like following a recipe straight out of the cookbook. You should do whatever makes you both feel comfortable, in the order you like best. What you are getting from posters here on Lit is good advice, but it's not necessarily how things will work for you.

3. If you weren't using enough lube, you'd know it. Being dry-fucked or dry-fisted can be quite painful. In most cases, not having enough lube will make you scream and cry out to have it. It can be pleasurable for some people, particularly masochists, but if you were enjoying yourself and having orgasms, then you were probably using enough. Make sure he lubes up the back of his hand, though - it needs lube in order to make it inside.

4. What makes you think you tore as a result of this? It's possible that you were bleeding from the inside if his nails weren't trimmed neatly. I get that a lot, it's not a sign of anything wrong - your tissues just get nicked a bit. Definitely practice safe sex so that if this happens, there's no risk of STD transmission. It seems unlikely that one would actually tear from fisting though.

Like I said, I know you won't like hearing this. But you really seem to be rushing headlong into it, so I'm trying to provide helpful advice so that you can have happy fisting experiences in the future.

Thanks for the advice. i do admit that We were going way too fast this first time. We had been talking about it all week and were aroused and excited. i felt like a kid at Christmas opening a new gift.

i DID have multiple orgasms so it wasn't a loss at all. Success!

Not a recipe...gotcha.

i definately wasn't screaming in pain so i guess there was enough lube.

i think i tore because it hurt to pee and there was some blood. This doesn't usually last for very long though. i don't think it's a UTI because that lasts longer, doesn't it?

We always practice safe sex so no worries there.

Happy fisting!

 

[Etoile]

i think i tore because it hurt to pee and there was some blood. This doesn't usually last for very long though. i don't think it's a UTI because that lasts longer, doesn't it?

Oh sweetie, that doesn't sound like tearing at all to me! Tearing is usually perianal (like where a fourchette piercing goes, below the vaginal opening) and wouldn't likely affect how it felt to pee. It sounds like you were just roughed up a bit. In terms of it hurting to pee, keep in mind that it's extremely easy to get a UTI from fisting (or rough fucking), and even if it's not a full-blown UTI, a little bit of irritation to the urethra will make it hurt to pee temporarily. As for the blood, that is 99% likely to be the internal nicking I mentioned. Tearing would be extremely unusual and that's probably not at all what happened.

 

[Kailey_86]

Oh sweetie, that doesn't sound like tearing at all to me! Tearing is usually perianal (like where a fourchette piercing goes, below the vaginal opening) and wouldn't likely affect how it felt to pee. It sounds like you were just roughed up a bit. In terms of it hurting to pee, keep in mind that it's extremely easy to get a UTI from fisting (or rough fucking), and even if it's not a full-blown UTI, a little bit of irritation to the urethra will make it hurt to pee temporarily. As for the blood, that is 99% likely to be the internal nicking I mentioned. Tearing would be extremely unusual and that's probably not at all what happened.

Thanks so much. That makes me feel a lot better. i really had no clue what was going on.

 

[Etoile]

Thanks so much. That makes me feel a lot better. i really had no clue what was going on.

Glad to help!

 

[robincr]

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