fisting any hints

[spanky0020]

my g/f want to try this...dont want to hurt her how do i start ????

 

[bisexplicit]

Lubricant.
Go slowly.
Stop when it hurts.
And hope that you have small hands.

 

[rcuhljr]

and more lube, and a little more, and go a little slower check the blank manual for more advice, and search this forum, I've seen a couple good posts on this topic.

 

[Eilan]

Yup. What they said.

Don't try to jam your whole hand in there all at once. Start one finger at a time. Be aware of how your girlfriend's responding.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

my g/f want to try this...dont want to hurt her how do i start ????

You shouldn't start. This is one of those pleasures that she'd probably be best experimenting with herself first. Then she can direct you. Either way, what everyone else said.

 

[Lynxie]

Be careful, not every woman's vagina will respond well to stretching, and some cannot take large objects at all. When you try, go extremely slow and when you think you've used enough lube, use some more. Check the Blank Manual and BDSM forums for additional opinions and info, you might find them helpful.

 

[Bandit58]

Click Me

The link in the first post in the thread is to a "Read Only" thread in the BDSM Library, but feel free to post to the original thread I linked to

 

[Eilan]

Click Me

The link in the first post in the thread is to a "Read Only" thread in the BDSM Library, but feel free to post to the original thread I linked to

Bandit, thanks for posting the link.

I'd skimmed through parts of that thread before, but I'd somehow missed your question about episiotomies. I've had four vaginal deliveries. I had an episiotomy with the first and my scar tore during deliveries #2 and #4. In light of the fact that my husband and I have tried fisting a few times, I'd been wondering if I had anything to worry about.

I was considering starting a thread about this at some point, but now I don't think I'll need to!

 

[Bandit58]

Eilan, with more play and gentle stretching the soreness is easing and I'm able to take 4 fingers up to the knuckles without a problem. We're not in any hurry to get to the grand finale though, I'm sure it will happen when the time is right

I have lots of natural lube so we haven't tried with artificial lube but that might be a possibility if we do decide to go for it

 

[silverwhisper]

i've often wondered whether this detracts from the experience during intercourse afterwards. any input?

ed

 

[BedtimeStories]

When you think you have enough lube, use more! Go slowly. Start with 1, 2, or 3 fingers...whatever you'd normally use that she enjoys. "Finger fuck" her for a while. Get her worked up, let her enjoy it.

Then, after a little while slowly work another finger in. Keep doing this until you have the 4 fingers in, and maybe the thumb if you have your hand "pinched" together.

Continue to slowly work her over. Let her get used to the new sensation of feeling "over full". If you need to, squirt more lube around your fingers and her pussy with your other hand, or pull your fingers out for a minute to relube.

Once you feel a natural resistance (depending if you have long fingers or not) you may have to try to curl your fingers into a fist to be able to continue. If you've gotten her comfortablly stretched enough to take a balled fist by this point then it should move smoothly!


Only one man has ever been able to successfully fist me in my life. (And honestly, most men have trouble even getting 3 fingers in me let alone more.) He was successful because he had relatively small hands and wrists, as well as not fully developed fingers on his hands anyway.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

This is another suggestion, though you still need to be careful, but it is a pretty safe way to go.

The link below shows a rather large plug that's pretty popular in some of the sexually extreme crowds. The nice thing about these is that they're stable and symetrical. A person can get use to lowering his or her self down onto one of these to the limit and then go for a deeper limit each time.

Bare in mind that this activity should be tried as a muscle control with some stretching type of activity before it becomes just a stretching exercise. Keeping the muscle control intact will help to insure that other aspects of sex stay mutually satisfying for the two of you.

http://www.extremerestraints.com/Merchant2/graphics/00000001/ec7150.jpg

 

[Gil_T2]

i've often wondered whether this detracts from the experience during intercourse afterwards. any input?

ed

The vagina is an amazing thing as when a lady gives birth the head is often larger than a fist so the theory is a fist will fit & with birthing the vagina does return to its normal shape & although sex is discouraged after birth this is more for the stiches & internals that have possibly taken some damage like tears ect.

With BANDIT & I trying I have no hurry to get my hand in & it's more letting her get used to being stretched & knowing she isn't going to be ruined for life by it, lots of time, lots of stretching & in time she will know it is going to happen.

 

[AV guy II]

When you think you have enough lube, use more! Go slowly. Start with 1, 2, or 3 fingers...whatever you'd normally use that she enjoys. "Finger fuck" her for a while. Get her worked up, let her enjoy it.

Then, after a little while slowly work another finger in. Keep doing this until you have the 4 fingers in, and maybe the thumb if you have your hand "pinched" together.

Continue to slowly work her over. Let her get used to the new sensation of feeling "over full". If you need to, squirt more lube around your fingers and her pussy with your other hand, or pull your fingers out for a minute to relube.

Once you feel a natural resistance (depending if you have long fingers or not) you may have to try to curl your fingers into a fist to be able to continue. If you've gotten her comfortablly stretched enough to take a balled fist by this point then it should move smoothly!


Only one man has ever been able to successfully fist me in my life. (And honestly, most men have trouble even getting 3 fingers in me let alone more.) He was successful because he had relatively small hands and wrists, as well as not fully developed fingers on his hands anyway.

I have been slowly introducing this to my SO. I know can get all four fingers inside, but it takes alot of time and lube.

Bedtime, how did it feel to be fisted? I have seen a few video clips of this and the woman seems to explode into an instant orgasm that appeared to be quite intense. I was just curious if this was the same for you, or that the clips were just woman faking the pleasure/pain?

 

[BedtimeStories]

It was very intense. It's almost too hard to explain the sensation! It's a feeling of being quite full and stretched beyond "normal" limits. My former Dom used to "punch" my cervix after He'd get going.

 

[Gil_T2]

This is another suggestion, though you still need to be careful, but it is a pretty safe way to go.

The link below shows a rather large plug that's pretty popular in some of the sexually extreme crowds. The nice thing about these is that they're stable and symetrical. A person can get use to lowering his or her self down onto one of these to the limit and then go for a deeper limit each time.

Bare in mind that this activity should be tried as a muscle control with some stretching type of activity before it becomes just a stretching exercise. Keeping the muscle control intact will help to insure that other aspects of sex stay mutually satisfying for the two of you.

http://www.extremerestraints.com/Merchant2/graphics/00000001/ec7150.jpg

The gay male butt plug might scare to many of the ladies to even consider trying it but I have had success with a vibrating,inflatable butt plug, that stretches the pussy muscles at a nice steady rate with continual checking with my lady to see how comfort is going & as each OK I get I pump it up a little more.