fistin advice please

[bbwbeauty]

fisting, advice please

Greetings all, I didn't exactly find the answers I was looking for in the archives.... so here goes...
My b/f and I have attempted fisting several times... and we can get to that 4 fingers and part of a thumb place after lots of play and gobs of KY... Does anyone have any advice on how to get the rest of the thumb in there??? Different lube? Gloves?? We are both committed to finally making this milestone, and would appreciate any help you might be able to offer.

Thank you in advance...

 

[peachykeen]

We are both committed to finally making this milestone, and would appreciate any help you might be able to offer.

LOL sorry I have no practical advice, but this sentence did make me giggle and think "I wonder if Hallmark makes a card for this occasion - 'Congratulations on Your Successful Fisting'," with a gauzy sepiatone photo of a gooey latex glove or something...

 

[SexyChele]

I went a ways back in the archives, and came across this thread on fisting. It goes into some depth, and hopefully might be of some help to you.

 

[Guest]

I never met a woman who wanted to try fisting. Stick with dongs,vibes and sybians.

peachy, that was both sick and hilarious. Kudos.

 

[bbwbeauty]

this woman is very interested in fisting!! (vaginal that is). He can reach spots no toy or cock ever could, and ah... the feeling is incredible.

 

[Guest]

this woman is very interested in fisting!! (vaginal that is). He can reach spots no toy or cock ever could, and ah... the feeling is incredible.

hot daaaaaaaaamn. You promise to post pics?
Tell us how it feels, full details.

 

[8fingers]

I'd love to fist my g/f.... She can take 8 fingers(Everything but the thumbs) up to my knuckles when she's really wet and excited! It's only then when she feels uncomforable stretching.

I think a comfortable position for her so she can spread her legs wide helps a lot.

 

[BellaBloodAngel]

Re: fisting, advice please

My advice is: Don't do it. Ouch!

 

[DuckLover]

Working on it...

My gf and I haven't managed full fisting...YET. Like you, it's something we both want to keep attempting; we both find it VERY pleasurable physically and very bonding emotionally.

I've found that by rotating my hand slightly and pushing down (away from the pubic bone and toward the anus) allows me to penetrate further. Doing so allows me slip the big knuckles of my fingers and then the big knuckle of my thumb under the pubic bone, which is the main impediment for us so far.

Other keys so far have been lots of warm up play, including at least one orgasm, and LOTS of lube. We've found that thicker lubes, like those used for anal play, work better. (For us, that means Slippery Stuff instead of Astroglide.) Going extremely slowly and maintaining really good communication is also critical.

We recently bought some latex gloves, since we've seen that suggested a few times. Haven't yet had the opportunity to try using them.

Good luck!

 

[Sampoerna]

Hmmmm...I've had experience fisting a guy and can give you some pointers that might work for you, if you turn them around.

1. Use plenty of lube. When you think you've got enough, use some more. Waterbased ONLY for vaginal fisting (ky/astroglide) and oil based for anal (crisco in the can is the best).

2. Have a couple of drinks to loosen yourself up. Kinda like the lube, when you think you've had enough, have one more.

3. Rubber gloves are essential. Fingernails can tear tender skin so easily and unless your hands are immaculate, odds of an infection are pretty good.

4. For anal fisting...enema...enema...enema...enema...get my drift?

5. Doggie style works best for anal, on your back for vaginal.

6. GO SLOWLY. Don't get in a rush because it takes several tries to get it right.

7. Loosen yourself up with different sized dildo's, small to large. Try not to orgasm because that puts you back to square one (with vaginal fisting).

8. If he has big hands, forget it & try another fetish unless you've given birth to a watermelon within the past 12 hours.

Good luck BBW (I'm one too! ). I have some pics and video of fisting (that I took while doing it, kinda hard juggling the camera and an asshole but they managed to turn out pretty good). If you want me to email them to you, PM me or drop me a line at Sampoernaatlit@hotmail.com

 

[Lady Tango]

Re: Re: fisting, advice please

My advice is: Don't do it. Ouch!

I quite agree - it sounds simply too painful. I much prefer to stick with a dick.

 

[nightswan]

there are two books on sale at amzon ,com,about fisting,there are plenty of suggestions and expeirences,i strongly recommend them.The first one is about vaginal fisting,the other about handballing.They don't cost too much, either.
About drinking,don't overdoit or you will not be fully aware of all the sensations(both the pleasant ones( )and the others,and that's not good.Use latex gloves ,lube, and enter the hand with your palm upward:after a while the tightness of the vagina will make the hand closing in a fist like position,with the thumb curled inside over the fingers:TAKE YOUR TIME,and let the muscles open for you,without try to force things out.Done in the right way ,it can become a fantastic experience,especially between two lovers.NO pain ,all delight.
I hope this will help.

 

[bobsgirl]

Well, I have a question. Is it the physical sensations or the emotional intimacy that revs you up about this? Just curious, because I just can't imagine that it would be pleasurable. Just really really full.

 

[bbwbeauty]

for me the intimacy that comes from working towards this is unbeatable. He and I work completely together to achieve this, we are in tune with each other. And it is just another sign of the strength of our relationship. Something like this has to be based completely on trust, and its such a sweet reminder of that.

There are physical pluses to it also. I never fully believed in the g-spot until we started exploring this... nor about female ejaculation. Now I am a believer and wholeheartedly so.

I understand it might not be for everyone, but, it sure is for me and my man.

 

[Guest]

(crisco in the can is the best).

4. For anal fisting...enema...enema...enema...enema...get my drift?

8. If he has big hands, forget it & try another fetish unless you've given birth to a watermelon within the past 12 hours.

LMAO. Funny material.

 

[soulmusic]

just to contribute...

My ex and I (in better times) use to do this once in a while. For those of you who haven't, I was AMAZED at what a (for lack of a better word) 'spiritual' experience this was. The first time was not planned, we were just playing. She told me to keep going, 3 fingers, four, the thumb. She was going crazy and making noises I had never heard her make. The connection to each other that came through this activity was just heavenly. It's very hard to explain, just something so intimate and special it created such a feeling between us both. Later she had told me she saw some type of video and the way the girl in the video was reacting really piqued her curiosity.

 

[sheath]

I really, really want to try this. However, my man is absolutely ENORMOUS (envision a powerhouse of about 300 pounds and you have the idea). I'm not a lightweight, but the fact is, I just don't think his hand is going to work in there! His hand is easily more than twice the size of mine...and I was too 'small' to have my kids naturally...but anyway, that wasn't the point of this post and now I'm rambling. See what thinking about this does to me?

But the idea of it, and talking about it, is enough to make us both feel closer. I'm not sure why. I think it might be because of the trust issues...it would take incredible trust to allow someone to do that, wouldn't it? And to allow someone to touch you deeper and in way that no one else ever had...that has to be a very deep emotional experience.



S.

 

[Sampoerna]

Just Northeast of the Row here, Sheath. Glad to find someone on the board in my neck of the woods!

 

[DuckLover]

Well, I have a question. Is it the physical sensations or the emotional intimacy that revs you up about this? Just curious, because I just can't imagine that it would be pleasurable. Just really really full.

I'm ITA with bbwbeauty on this one-- the intimacy is at least 75% of it. While my gf says (and demonstrates) that she finds it EXTREMELY pleasurable-- and it is for me too-- with both agree that the feelings of trust, connection, caring, and love are beyond anything either of us has EVER experienced. We're still in the process, building towards full insertion, but the process is far more important than the goal.

For that reason I recommend to Sheath (and anyone else with a large-handed partner) to try it if you're interested. The key, however, is the have the goal of MAXIMUM insertion, not FULL insertion. The PROCESS is where the emotional depth and intimacy are, not the goal. And the physical pleasure (she says) comes from the feeling of fullness. If you get both of those, does it matter whether you're getting it from 3 fingers vs. his entire hand?

Good luck and GO SLOW!!

 

[sheath]

Just Northeast of the Row here, Sheath. Glad to find someone on the board in my neck of the woods!

Welcome to Lit!

And howdy from good ole Music City!

S.

 

[sheath]

For that reason I recommend to Sheath (and anyone else with a large-handed partner) to try it if you're interested. The key, however, is the have the goal of MAXIMUM insertion, not FULL insertion. The PROCESS is where the emotional depth and intimacy are, not the goal. And the physical pleasure (she says) comes from the feeling of fullness. If you get both of those, does it matter whether you're getting it from 3 fingers vs. his entire hand?

Good luck and GO SLOW!!

Okay, reviving the old thread with a question!

My man and I tried something like this last weekend. I am usually the kind of gal who can only take three fingers, and even with that, it's questionable. I will either like it, or he will get a slap upside the head.

But this time...I was SO turned on, and wanting him so badly...that he got up to four fingers, quite deeply inside me. We didn't go farther than that because he absolutely HAD to fuck me. But now I have some questions...and observations...

It didn't hurt much while he was using those four fingers, but when it was over, I started to bleed. And I was sore for about a week afterward, but of course, I didn't mind that part. The bleeding was moderate, and lasted for maybe an hour. No longer than that.

I'm wondering...is some bleeding normal with fisting? There were no ultra sensitive areas inside me later, so I know that I wasn't cut or torn, at least not as significantly as the bleeding suggested. He did touch me very deeply, so perhaps the bleeding was due to the pressure on my cervix?

An observation...the next day, we played with toys, used one of my favorite dildos, and even after using all that I was still quite tight when we did have intercourse. So I regained my tightness pretty quickly. I just thought I would throw that in there, because I know it's been a question posed in some threads.

And another observation, for those who wonder whether or not they can take a whole hand...I've mentioned before how big my man is. He's a real bruiser. I never dreamed I could get more than three of his fingers inside me, but he stretched me with four...and the feeling was absolutely wonderful.

The emotional impact was powerful.

So...anybody got answers to these questions of mine?

S.

 

[Etoile]

I've got plenty of experience with fisting, maybe I can answer the question about bleeding. To back me up, I'll use quotes from Deborah Addington's wonderful book A Hand in the Bush (published by Greenery Press).

You might bleed if...

• His nails were long. Could be just a minor inside cut, which you wouldn't be able to see unless you had one of those periscope things.
• You're in the middle or near the end of your menstruation cycle.
• It's a day that ends in y.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Sometimes I spot after fisting, sometimes not. I'm on Depo-Provera specifically because it prevents me from getting a period, so I'm pretty sure it's not that. Deborah Addington says:

Sometimes I have a little spotting after I've been fisted. Is that serious?
Probably not. Cunt and genital tissue is loaded with capillaries and other blood suppliers; a tiny nick or minuscule tear can happen, and then you spot. A little bit of pink on the paper right after fisting or the next day is normal, and not a cause for alarm. If you notice anything unusual, such as continued pain, fever, or a copious or foul-smelling discharge, it's time to get to the doctor - otherwise, don't worry.

As for tightness, the possibility that a woman will lose bladder control, be loose in the vagina, etc. - all myths.

Will it make me loose?
If a woman was fisted four or five times a day, every day, for several years, she might begin to notice some loss of vaginal elasticity. Fisting isn't really suited to everyday practice: not because it makes one "loose," but because it's such a heady experience. Exercises to strengthen your pubococcygeal [PC] muscles will ensure your continued tightness as well as making you a better fistee.

Also, you don't have to have had a baby to be fisted! Anybody can be fisted by any hand - Addington recommends "patience, patience, patience, and lube, lube, lube, lube, lube."

I can probably answer more questions, both from personal experience and from this here book at my side.

 

[bbwbeauty]

The few times my boyfriend and I have done/tried this... yes there is often some bleeding... I didn't know this until I saw a picture he took.... he has always worked to clean me up.

And yes I was sore for a couple of days, but not so much that it wasn't worth it... I still have hope that I'll be able to take his whole hand up me soon.

keep trying...
congrats

 

[Etoile]

I might as well add that with enough fisting, you won't be sore. My girlfriend winds up fisting me probably 70% of the nights we have sex. I don't notice any soreness afterward. (We've been doing this for a few years now; when I was interviewed for OOB in July 2000 I mentioned that my favorite sex act was fisting!)

bbwbeauty, my recommendation for making it over the final hurdle is steady pressure. He shouldn't be trying to "punch" his way in, but rather just keep pushing until you make it.

 

[sheath]

Wow...that's some lightning fast answers!

Thank you, bbw, for the encouragement. I hope to try it again this weekend...right before he hits the road again. I would love to have that sore feeling until the next time I see him. Just to remind me of how delicious it felt...mmmm...

Etoile...you're awesome, girl. So informative! Thank you.

S.