First Timer

[silent_wolf]

Hi

Im a 21 male and very new to all this, i want to get into but dont know how or what to expect, i am genuilly looking for advice and assistance in what to do and how to do it.....


Thanks for the help

SW

 

[Hecate]

Hello silent wolf

as you may have noticed we are all very much willing to share our take on our mutual passion - BDSM, in all its shapes forms and appearances.

You may get more advise than you ever will want *chuckles* but ... (oh well, didn't you see that coming?)

.. what exactly are you new with?

BDSM in general?
With the concept of power exchange, with sadism and masochism?

Are you leaning towards the submissive, being controlled side or towards the dominant, controlling end of our little world? Or do you like both, switch between dominance and submission?

Are you seeking advise in how to learn and explore your own desires and needs or how to take them into a relation?

I know - loads of questions, but one of the main aspects that many of us have realized to be a core issue is to know what we ourselves want and need... then we can go and seek that complementary piece to make us whole.

I hope I haven't scared you away, and invite you to follow some of the links and threads here on the forum - and never hesitate to ask.

 

[silent_wolf]

Hey,

Im new to the whole world, ive been with people who have tied me up and visa versa and really enjoyed hence the reason for my curiosity


Im trying to find my feet i guess, and im open to thoughts and suggestions hence the reason i posted, im a very open minded person and want to try anything once

SW

p.s im trying to put a pic on the left hand side got one but cant find a place to add it HELP

 

[Hecate]

go to your User CP, there in the "edit options" right at the end is the spot to ad an avatar (=little pic under your name)

 

[silent_wolf]

Dont think it's working, just thanks me.....


O well

 

[silent_wolf]

HAHA

I got it mwahhhhhhhh massive kiss 4 u thanks fot the AV help got there in the end


SW (a lot happier)

 

[Voyager's_dream]

Hello silent_wolf.

i also am new the boards...just registered this morning. i have been online in chat about 4 years and at Lit. about a year and a half. Smiles, nice to meet you and E/everyone else.

dream

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hi

Im a 21 male and very new to all this, i want to get into but dont know how or what to expect, i am genuilly looking for advice and assistance in what to do and how to do it.....


Thanks for the help

SW

Welcome. Read the stickys and check out the Library, it will give you lots of information that will help you. Then by all means ask questions. Most of the answers are already posted in the Library. Enjoy the journey! Call me Eb, most do.

Ebonyfire

 

[silent_wolf]

Thank you EB, im still trying to find my feet but so far everyone is being very very nice and helpfull.......

Im SW btw

 

[SierraMoon]

Welcome to Lit, SW....

i hope you are able to find all the info that you are looking for. If you are interested in a certain topic, just use the search option on the upper right of your screen....

Enjoy your time with us!!

 

[silent_wolf]

Hi,

Again thanks for your help, i think i might try looking for a mistress to help me explore myself further... but again im new to all of this


SW

 

[Ricckk]

Welcome, silent_wolf & Voyager's_dream!

 

[Desdemona]

Its always good to see new people join us! Welcome.

 

[silent_wolf]

Thank u Desdemona and Rickk everyone is being very nice, with a bit of luck i will get myself known a bit


SW

 

[Desdemona]

Thank u Desdemona and Rickk everyone is being very nice, with a bit of luck i will get myself known a bit


SW

Please call me des. Everybody does.

 

[H piltdown]

i think i might try looking for a mistress to help me explore myself further... but again im new to all of this

If you would answer Hecate's questions more fully, more people would be able to give you more specific advice.

If you would have followed Ebonyfire's advice before posting your premature intentions, you would have been much further along in exploring yourself.

Perhaps, you should try to follow the advice of Hecate and Ebonyfire, practice being honest, patient and curteous, and a Domme will find you.

Good luck in your journey....

 

[silent_wolf]

I cant help being new to the world plitdown, im not sure what i want and surely that is half the fun??? i would like to explore both being in control and being controled

I make no excuse for being premature obv this is on the basis i dont know what to expect or what is expected from me, for me its like trying new food u put a bit in your mouth keep it there for a bit then if u like it, swollow it the next time taking a bigger piece.....

I taking everyones advice on board and like a baby im taking small steps and trying to find my feet everyone is differant and im sure 98% of the people on here was in my position im very open as a person and can take everything everyone says on board!! if i make mistakes so be it, i expect to no doubt i will upset a few people on my way, but its not done on purpose its done cause i didnt know i was!!!

Hope this clears things up somewhat

SW

 

[MissTaken]

Don't sweat it.

Have you checked out any websites such as castlerealm.com?

Also, if you want a sense of what is expected of a sub, there are some decent stories here on lit that would give you a rather graphic idea.

I would suggest reading anything written by our regular posters, WD, Risia Skye or cymbidia.

When you are standing on a fence trying to figure out which way to jump off, the best first step is information.

Getting involved with a Domme before you are ready isn't likely to be the answer.

You need to be confident that this is something you may want to explore.

Read back on ebony's and Hecate's posts over the last six months. They have posted openly and eloquently regarding their experience and expectations of a submissive.

Best wishes,
Miss T

 

[silent_wolf]

Thats what im trying to do....

I think at certain points i have tried to run b4 walking, i havent had chance to yet but i certainly intend to im trying to get a grasp of everything first...

As i say im going to make mistakes but i expect that...


SW

 

[MissTaken]

We all make mistakes!


*snickers* I am often mistaken!


Especially since submission involves personal and physical safety, make sure you have all the info you can absorb before venturing into real life.

Safe, sane and consensual is key.

And being sure you understand what it is you are giving consent to is important.

 

[silent_wolf]

Ok im slowly takin on board everything slowly but carefully, i would like to thank everyone for there advice and comments....

I wasnt really sure what to put in my post just didnt want it slipping down the board lol thought it needed to be like me "on top"

SW

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thats what im trying to do....

I think at certain points i have tried to run b4 walking, i havent had chance to yet but i certainly intend to im trying to get a grasp of everything first...

As i say im going to make mistakes but i expect that...


SW

As MsT says don't sweat it. Everyone makes mistakes.

Just remember that this is not a race. Take it slow. Baby steps are better than giant steps.

There is a lot of information in the threads here. It will help you immensely.

Ebony

 

[silent_wolf]

Eb,

Can i ask you something??

SW

 

[Ebonyfire]

Eb,

Can i ask you something??

SW

Sure go ahead.
Eb

 

[silent_wolf]

How did u get involved???

Prob a question u have been asked many a time, but people are telling me to ask questions just following orders


SW