First time with a transexual question

[tazzman40]

Hoping to get a little advice on how to handle sex for the first time with my transexual girlfriend. We've been dating for a little while and about to have our first night together and I must admit to being somewhat nervous. It was cute a few days after we started dating she asked me if I realized she was transexual and had a penis. At first I played coy saying no I was shocked. Then I told her of course I knew. She explained to me she was on blockers of some kind but not hormones yet. It just prevented her from getting hard.

Now my question is to either a transgender person or another guy who's been where I am. Do I go down on her? Is that something she'd enjoy even though she can't get an errection anymore? I don't want to make her uncomfortable and at the same time I don't want her to think I don't want to be with her by ignoring it all together. To me it's just an oversized clit. I've always only dated and slept with women. I loved going down on a woman and have no phobia about what she has between her legs.

Any input and advice is appreciated!

 

[Eilan]

Why don't you ask your girlfriend what she likes?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Why don't you ask your girlfriend what she likes?

Yep. This.

Have fun!

 

[tazzman40]

Why don't you ask your girlfriend what she likes?

You're right I should but I worry that I'll embarrass her or make her feel awkward.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

You're right I should but I worry that I'll embarrass her or make her feel awkward.

It's okay to tell her that, too.

 

[fire_breeze]

You're right I should but I worry that I'll embarrass her or make her feel awkward.

In my book, if you're embarrassed to be talking about sex, you shouldn't be having it.

I am sure that your girlfriend would be touched that you are considering HER pleasure and what SHE wants. Every person, whether they are cis or trans, is unique and each of their likes and expectations is completely different.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

"She" isn't female, and its psychotic delusion to pretend your honey is female or Jesus or Napoleon. Call a spade a spade, and stop being a silly ass.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Now my question is to either a transgender person or another guy who's been where I am. Do I go down on her? Is that something she'd enjoy even though she can't get an errection anymore?

Like everybody else said, best answer is ask her: "so, what do you like?" It's a good option in general, but it's also a good option for this specific situation, because the answer REALLY varies from one trans person to another.

Some trans people have severe dysphoria and would rather pretend their (pre-op) genitals don't exist. Others don't care and can enjoy genital play. Others are somewhere in between - e.g. "touching is nice, but don't call it a penis". You'll have to ask her.

Don't be embarrassed about that - she will probably expect that you have questions, and it's very hard to offend somebody with a sincere "what works for you?"

 

[tazzman40]

Like everybody else said, best answer is ask her: "so, what do you like?" It's a good option in general, but it's also a good option for this specific situation, because the answer REALLY varies from one trans person to another.

Some trans people have severe dysphoria and would rather pretend their (pre-op) genitals don't exist. Others don't care and can enjoy genital play. Others are somewhere in between - e.g. "touching is nice, but don't call it a penis". You'll have to ask her.

Don't be embarrassed about that - she will probably expect that you have questions, and it's very hard to offend somebody with a sincere "what works for you?"

Your answer made the most sense and touched on my concerns. She mentioned having dysphoria but made the comment on having body hair, having short hair on her head and such. Never a mention about how she feels about her genitals. She hasn't spoken of her genitals at all only to mention she's on sometihing that keeps her from getting an hard. In stays soft which is why I was wondering if I should even touch her down there. Wasn't sure if she'd find that pleasurable anymore. Is it possible for her to still ejaculate? This is a first for me. I've only been with women who are women by birth. So yes I have a lot of questions. I guess best bet is go with the flow and learn as I go.

As for Noirtrash and your comment just shows how so ignorant some people still are in this world!

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Your answer made the most sense and touched on my concerns. She mentioned having dysphoria but made the comment on having body hair, having short hair on her head and such. Never a mention about how she feels about her genitals. She hasn't spoken of her genitals at all only to mention she's on sometihing that keeps her from getting an hard. In stays soft which is why I was wondering if I should even touch her down there. Wasn't sure if she'd find that pleasurable anymore. Is it possible for her to still ejaculate? This is a first for me. I've only been with women who are women by birth. So yes I have a lot of questions. I guess best bet is go with the flow and learn as I go.

As for Noirtrash and your comment just shows how so ignorant some people still are in this world!

I have my share of faults and blemishes but I can spot a real girl 100 yards away. The bald ones with 5 oclock shadow are even easier to identify.

 

[Trimjob69]

I have my share of faults and blemishes but I can spot a real girl 100 yards away. The bald ones with 5 oclock shadow are even easier to identify.

good point

 

[curiousoldman]

"She" isn't female, and its psychotic delusion to pretend your honey is female or Jesus or Napoleon. Call a spade a spade, and stop being a silly ass.

you are absolutely correct. So I shall take your advice.
You are a selfish person with an extremely small mind who has been boxed in with your own prejudices to the point where if someone asks for some help in being kind you respond with your brand of vile inconsiderate bias.
It was great to see that no one rose to your vitriol (except me)....cause I just can't help pointing out what a small minded person you are.
Bet you even think that the U.S.A. is a virtuous country don't you?
Apple pie, football, Andy of Mayberry, and intolerance and myopic mindset to everyone and everything other than that which is in your limited tool box.