First let me say, I apologize if this is the wrong place for this. I thought about asking my question in the How To forum, but his seemed more appropriate...
I'm a 35 year old, married, bi male. For as long as I can remember (or at least going back to when I was 19 and played with another guy for the first time), I've considered myself orally bi. Like many guys here (as I've learned), I'm not really attracted to men, but there's something about a hard cock that is a turn on and I do enjoy a good handjob or blow job from either a man or woman. I'm not into kissing or cuddling with another guy and I've never really had interest in anal sex with either sex.
For about 3 years now, I've had an on-going sexual relationship with another guy in a similar situation to me (married, kids, etc). We basically get together 4-5 times a month, jerk off together, trade hand jobs, rub our cocks together, etc, etc. He's always had some interest in backdoor play, but it's mostly consisted of his own fingers playing while I go down on him or the use of a little toy. Lately, I've been a more active participant, toying his ass while blowing or stroking him.
So, a couple weeks ago he asked me if I'd ever thought about topping a guy before. He's never bottomed, but told me recently he had a dream where I was doing him from behind and he woke up extremely turned on. I'll admit, I've also had thoughts of what it would be like while using a toy on him. While the thoughts of anal with another guy were never a turn on, I've found myself watching more bi-sexual porn that involves guy on guy anal and it's a turn on to watch.
With all that background, I think I'm ready to try it. Obviously, being safe (condoms) and using plenty of appropriate lube are two important things. Does anyone else have any hints for a first timer? Any thoughts on the best position for the first time?
I'm a 35 year old, married, bi male. For as long as I can remember (or at least going back to when I was 19 and played with another guy for the first time), I've considered myself orally bi. Like many guys here (as I've learned), I'm not really attracted to men, but there's something about a hard cock that is a turn on and I do enjoy a good handjob or blow job from either a man or woman. I'm not into kissing or cuddling with another guy and I've never really had interest in anal sex with either sex.
For about 3 years now, I've had an on-going sexual relationship with another guy in a similar situation to me (married, kids, etc). We basically get together 4-5 times a month, jerk off together, trade hand jobs, rub our cocks together, etc, etc. He's always had some interest in backdoor play, but it's mostly consisted of his own fingers playing while I go down on him or the use of a little toy. Lately, I've been a more active participant, toying his ass while blowing or stroking him.
So, a couple weeks ago he asked me if I'd ever thought about topping a guy before. He's never bottomed, but told me recently he had a dream where I was doing him from behind and he woke up extremely turned on. I'll admit, I've also had thoughts of what it would be like while using a toy on him. While the thoughts of anal with another guy were never a turn on, I've found myself watching more bi-sexual porn that involves guy on guy anal and it's a turn on to watch.
With all that background, I think I'm ready to try it. Obviously, being safe (condoms) and using plenty of appropriate lube are two important things. Does anyone else have any hints for a first timer? Any thoughts on the best position for the first time?
