First Time Swinger

[khebert6482]

Hey everyone! My husband and I are going to a lifestyle club for the first time. I'm looking for any info because this is a new experience for us. What should I expect? What to wear? What is proper etiquette? Anything will help.

 

[frankshaw]

no panties would be good!

 

[SweetErika]

Have you checked to see if the club has info online? Do they offer an intro/orientation for newbies? Honestly, I'd probably steer clear of a club that didn't offer such info; ideally, clubs should require new guests to attend a free orientation that covers club rules, etiquette and answers questions prior to parties so ALL of the guests are on the same page.

However, if the club doesn't provide info, you can find plenty of examples of rules and typical etiquette by searching online. And, at the very least, the club management should be more than happy to answer any questions you may have via phone or email before you attend a party. Definitely ask about the club's standards for cleaning, sanitizing and safer sex supplies. Some clubs lack standards and are disgusting (and dangerous, cross-contamination wise) places to visit. If the club doesn't provide condoms, dental dams, gloves, lube, fresh towels, sheets, etc., you'll either know to provide your own or steer clear. I'm not trying to scare you, but you have to assume swingers on the whole are a higher risk population STI-wise, and act accordingly to protect yourselves as much as possible (yep, even from coming into contact w/ surfaces that may be contaminated).

Another site that's awesome is SwingersBoard. It's like this forum, but specifically for swingers, and they have tons of FAQs and are used to questions from newbies. I'd suggest doing some searching and reading on the basics first online and on SB, then asking any questions that aren't already covered there.

 

[khebert6482]

Thank you!

Thank you for all the info! You all have been a tremendous help!

 

[Jessicasc1970]

It is possible your club of choice may also have a yahoo user group where you can ask questions.

 

[amica]

Most places are BYOB, but provide free, unlimited mixers- so bring what you like to drink! Usually there are a bunch of lockers, you need to provide the lock- a combo one works the best, so you don't have to keep track of a key. Dress to impress, unless you're dressing in theme or whatever the party is for that night. Women usually change into scantier things as the night progresses, and there's a WIDE variety of lingerie on display, and even people walking around nude. Stay by the bar area and don't be afraid to start chatting people up and break the ice. The dance area is fun, but we've found, not conducive to meeting and talking to other people. I like to bring a few of my own towels for cleanup, and some disposable wipes too. Overall, most people are very friendly and willing to answer new people's questions. Usually the club offers a tour to new members on their first visit also... So, best advice is socialize!

 

[Ezpickins]

We have also found that at times if you're new at a club that unless you're willing to dive into a pile of already writhing bodies it can be difficult to make connections.
We have met alot of great friends and follow up connections at clubs but most of the time wound up playing alone at the club as most people have made pre-arranged plans to meet and or play with a certain couple prior to the party.

There are a few swinger's websites, most of which require membership/payment in order to make connections with likeminded people.
Newbies, regardless of the venue usually attract alot of attention. Just remember, No actually means No, just because you're at a swing club it gives no-one the right to touch, kiss, grab, fondle or molest anything that you don't want them to. If you experience even a hint of this activity bring it to the attention of your host and typically the offender will be ejected without question.

 

[leninocala]

I would like to add

Hey everyone! My husband and I are going to a lifestyle club for the first time. I'm looking for any info because this is a new experience for us. What should I expect? What to wear? What is proper etiquette? Anything will help.

To what Sweet Erika had to say, if the club doesn't have a web site at all, Do Not Go.

Most Clubs have a website, they normally don't offer pictures of what takes place in the club. They will show the rooms available, such as group rooms, smaller rooms to accomodate two - four couples, a dance floor, a game room, a bar, mostly the places offer set ups not booze, You can bring your own. They should mention Security, and that No means No.

I am old enough to have attended what might be the most famous club ever, The original Plato's Retreat in NYC. A couple could have a great time there without participating in any of the activities. It also was clothing optional which means if you did not want to undress it wasn't required. They offered locker rooms. Co-Ed so you could put away valuables, It is kind of difficult to be naked and carry your American Express Card on your person.

Bouncers should be seen, They are normally young men that is it quite obvious the average person would not want to mess with. They are there to protect the people in attendance, and if you get out of line, you positively will be escorted out. A call to a club can be very informative. but don't go to a house party for your first experience. We used to go to meet people not to play with people until we knew some of the regulars at the clubs we attended.

They are typical of any other type of night spot, Where a good time could be had weather your looking to play or observe. The only difference is that you might be sitting in the lounge part of the club and the people at the next table very possibly will be having sex of some sort. Have fun and enjoy but a reputable club will charge you an admission fee, and that is the only thing you should have to pay for.

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