First time "scene"...suggestions?

[cremebrulee]

I have been involved in the lifestyle in a kind of "closeted" way for some time now, but only recently have gotten involved in a BDSM group to better acquaint myself with the real BDSM world.
I spent some time in a serious relationship as a sub, but that quickly changed, thought myself to be a switch, finally realizing my true self as a Domme.
A short while ago I was approached by two younger ladies about perhaps being involved in a scene. Having spent so much time hidden away in the shadows, I've never really participated in a "scene" as I understand that to be (outside of a 24/7 relationship), and while I am thrilled with the idea of the two lovely girls being so willing, I want to be sure I honor that gift properly.
I'd appreciate any suggestions, words of wisdom etc.

Thanks

~Creme

 

[ReadyOne]

Bump...

Perhaps a rephrase of the question:

Please describe the first scene you participated in.
- How was it arranged/setup/organized?
- What was the script (as actually performed)?
- And of course, what about it was good/bad/or should have done differently?

 

[cremebrulee]

Thanks Ready One, for the bump and rephrasing.
While I have been involved in the lifestyle for a while the whole "play" aspect hasn't been part of it, so I'll just keep observing, reading the library and scouring this site while asking for help from those more experienced in the play/scening aspect.

~Creme

 

[bunny bondage]

a sub's first time

the very first real scene i was in was thrilling because i was with someone who cared about me. he told me what he was going to do before he did it, both exciting me and giving me a chance to say "oh no you're not!" it was a simple spanking with just a few impliments, but he put me over his knee and took his time with each strike, giving me a chance to fully experience the pain roller-coaster each time. it was a short scene, but i enjoyed it without feeling overwhelmed.

 

[cremebrulee]

Originally posted by ReadyOne
Bump...

Perhaps a rephrase of the question:

Please describe the first scene you participated in.
- How was it arranged/setup/organized?
- What was the script (as actually performed)?
- And of course, what about it was good/bad/or should have done differently?

I couldn't have said it better... thanks
Thanks for sharing your experience with me bunny...

~CB

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

My first scene(s)

As a Dominant..
Consisted mainly of posture training as well as some simple commands and ritual set up (it was the first of a long term thing). I did not do a lot of setting up..only used my voice and hands as well as a feather and a wooden bristle brush. Did not even include bondage of any sort..like I said twas the beginning of a l/t *partnership*.

As a *Submissive*
(Knew the person for over a year before taking this step and had planned on it as a formal entry and my first collar)

Was tied, bent over a stool. Ball gagged and told to keep my eyes tightly shut. Various implements including: vibrator, feather, anal plug, belt, some sort of brush. She talked me through each step, explained what she was doing and why. It was perfectly done and I have never regretted my decision to submit to her..even now years later.

 

[cremebrulee]

sweet pet, it's good to hear from you.
I'll let you know if this ever happens... wish you were closer

~Creme

 

[FungiUg]

My suggestion, for a first time would be...

Keep it simple. Mostly it's going to be about focussing on each other, learning each other, discovering what it's all really about for each other. So the complicated parts of learning each other mean I wouldn't add a lot more to the scene.

So austere, simple, focussed. Plenty of time to explore, without too many distractions.

At the same time, make sure it's in keeping with what you enjoy. I like it to be fun, so I make sure music and humour are included -- some relaxing time as well as the intensity.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

sweet pet, it's good to hear from you.
I'll let you know if this ever happens... wish you were closer

~Creme

wish I were closer as well...one can hope...and think on the white house if one gets too lonely, Love.

Anyway, if it happens..i want ALL the details

 

[WriterDom]

Am I understanding this to be for two girls? That would be interesting. I would start by having the girls undress each other slowly, first one, then the other. Down to their panties, but that's just me, you could go nude.

If they were about the about the same height, I'd have them stand nipple to nipple. Tell them to not break sight of the other's eyes. I would use a toy, paddle, hairbrush, crop, belt, quirt whatever, and whack/play with first one girl's ass then the other. But not too intense, you are just getting started.

After that, the possibilities are endless. Just depends on what turns you on.

 

[cremebrulee]

Fungi, GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU!!! Been missin' ya, thanks for the advice/suggestions. All of my play has been within the context of a long-term serious relationship , so this part while fascniating is pretty new to me. I'm pumped up, but I'd rather risk looking like a fool for asking too many questions than to make mistakes in judgement or look the fool whilst playing, ya know?

pet, I'm still looking for that little white house, we'll get htere some day

and WriterDom, that's some SERIOUS food for though, yes they are about the same height. I'll keep you all posted

~Creme

 

[ReadyOne]

So how are things going? Did you and the ladies get together?

Don't know why I missed it, but on re-reading the thread it seems that your ladies want you to arrange an encounter between them. You direct them into doing FF things which they are having difficulty starting. As a bonus, you get to participate, and you can tie thier legs open if you wish.

 

[cremebrulee]

Actually, the encounter is more between myself and the two of them, not them with one another so much. I think that rephrasing at this point would do me more good than not as I have gathered more details.
Here goes:

I have been approached by two young ladies about playing. One has made it clear that this should be non-sexual, which I have no problem with other than the fact that all the play I have ever done has been withing the context of a relationship adn has been sexual.
To make it more to the point,
Any advice or suggestions for NON sexual BDSM play would be MUCH appreciated, either for One on one or One on/with two

I'm fumbling towards ectasy, I just know it! LOL

Thanks for all the help,
~Creme

 

[FungiUg]

Hmmm... me personally, I wouldn't go there. My play is always sexual. I think I could restrain myself if I were taking photos of a scene (so in a "watch only" mode), but if I were participating, I would want it to include sex. Otherwise it'd be way too frustrating!

So I guess the challenge will be to see if you can pull it off!

 

[cremebrulee]

Originally posted by FungiUg
Hmmm... me personally, I wouldn't go there. My play is always sexual. I think I could restrain myself if I were taking photos of a scene (so in a "watch only" mode), but if I were participating, I would want it to include sex. Otherwise it'd be way too frustrating!

So I guess the challenge will be to see if you can pull it off!

That's what I am afraid of. *sigh*
I know lots of folks do fine without sexual content, but I haven't yet, in any way shape of form! LOL
I'll keep thinking on it, obviously I don't move too fast

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I do indulge in *NON* sexual scenes with my pets. I choose this because they are married to one another and that is a bond I can not intrude upon. The difference here though is my pets are a guy/girl combo that I have known for years and your playmates are semi new to you.

What types of things are these girls into? I do plenty with my pets but I know them..what do you know about these girls?

pet

 

[lark sparrow]

You could ask them or her what constitutes non-sexual playing - what kinds of things they are interested in experiencing... and then, does it appeal to you? Does it inspire your imagination?

"Non-sexual" means different things to different people... breast and pussy whipping may be okay, but a knee between the thighs or direct touching etc. may not be lol.

 

[DuckLover]

Talking with both the girls more about what they want and their limits will important. I'd also recommend talking to each of them individually; there may be things one wants, but is too embarassed to mention in front of the other.

And of course the biggest key is to stay within whatever boundaries you arrange with them.

Good luck and have fun! (And report back!)

 

[cremebrulee]

Thanks so much for all the input. I am working on getting to know each of them better, it's going slowly but quite well.
I'll keep checking in for suggestions for non-sexual play and let you know when things come together.

~Creme

 

[ReadyOne]

Help me out guys & gals... it's friday afternoon...

There are somewhere some questionaires about kinks and limits. I even remember taking a couple. But I can't easily find the URLs.

Anyway, perhaps haveing the ladies fill out a questionare might help focus in on things?

 

[FungiUg]

Questionaires can be interesting, even fun sometimes, but I don't find them as good as a good old face to face discussion, that leaves the slut blushing and in need as you talk to her...

 

[cremebrulee]

Originally posted by ReadyOne
Help me out guys & gals... it's friday afternoon...

There are somewhere some questionaires about kinks and limits. I even remember taking a couple. But I can't easily find the URLs.

Anyway, perhaps haveing the ladies fill out a questionare might help focus in on things?

I'd be very interested in finding a questionaire . I would most likely modify it to fit, but if anyone knows of any, please link me up!

Thanks Ready...

oh~ Fungi? I like the idea of asking face to face too, but my reading the questionare ahead of time might give me some ideas.
SHEESH! I sound so un-creative lately.
What the hell is up with THAT?!?!?

LOL

~Creme

 

[FungiUg]

I'd be very interested in finding a questionaire . I would most likely modify it to fit, but if anyone knows of any, please link me up!

I'm pretty sure they have some at CastleRealm, but you could always ask Anelize to point you in the direction of some.

oh~ Fungi? I like the idea of asking face to face too, but my reading the questionare ahead of time might give me some ideas.
SHEESH! I sound so un-creative lately.
What the hell is up with THAT?!?!?

Rush of hormones, adrenaline and blood to nether regions leaves little ability for the brain to function.

 

[ReadyOne]

Inquiring minds want to know if anything has furited!

 

[cremebrulee]

Well, some things have worked, some not. In getting to know them better (let's just cal them a and b for identification purposes) I am most definitely more interested in a than b. We just click. REALLY well.
I am coming more and more to realize that play for me is more likely to be personal & had in the context of a good relationship, and that I won't just jump in quickly cuz I have an incredible offer.
Lots of details to iron out, but I am hoping to get to know "a" well enough to build a good trust.
THEN~
I have LOTS of ideas *grin* as well as thoughts of simply holding her and kising her forehead.
We've attended play parties together and so forth and are finding we have much in common. I'd rather take that kind of risk (getting to know someone) than simply having a night of great play.

Must be getting old! LOL

~Creme