First Time Questions

[NeedSumHelp]

Hello everyone...I just turned 18 three days ago...and my girlfriend of 3 months and I have finally decided that we want to bring our relationship to a "new level."

I have never been with anyone sexually before, and I know thats an oddity in teens now a days, so I have a question......

1. What is the best way to please a woman using fingers? Like how/what should I massage.

2. What is the best way to go down on my girlfriend?

3. What is the best way for me to last long??..Since it would be my first time, I'm afraid I'll last for only a few mins...

If someone more expirenced than me can help, that would be greatly appreciated..thank you

 

[Weird Harold]

I have never been with anyone sexually before, and I know thats an oddity in teens now a days, so I have a question......

1. What is the best way to please a woman using fingers? Like how/what should I massage.

2. What is the best way to go down on my girlfriend?

3. What is the best way for me to last long??..Since it would be my first time, I'm afraid I'll last for only a few mins...

If someone more expirenced than me can help, that would be greatly appreciated..thank you

Two points:

First, talk to your partner and learn what SHE likes. Get her to tell you what feels good, how much pressure to use, and where to go next. Tell her what feels good, etc too. There are several threads on eating pussy and giving blowjobs in this forum. Use the search function and read them with her.

Second, don't worry about how long you are going to last. You're not going to go soft for very long at your age, so go for seconds if you cum too soon. Concnetrate on HER pleasure, and you'll both benefit.

 

[Mischka]

1. What is the best way to please a woman using fingers? Like how/what should I massage.

Start out massaging all around the area, not just on the pubic mound. Caress her legs, inner thighs, stomach. Build up the intensity by going slowly. As you reach her slit, start by tracing her folds, but do not insert your finger inside of her yet. Work your way around until she gets wet, then gently insert one finger inside of her. Take your moistened finger and massage her fold and clit with her juices. Go back inside and use your finger to feel all the walls, vibrating your finger as you move. If she's ready, advance to two fingers. She may not be comfortable with more than that - ask her how it feels and adjust your pressure/intensity in response to what she says.

2. What is the best way to go down on my girlfriend?

Use the fingering technique as a base, but use your tongue instead. Experiment down there - try humming, trace the alphabet with your tongue around her folds, nibble the area around the clit (directly on it may be too sensitive - ask her), jab your tongue in and out of her slit, take long licks up and down the inner folds and up to the clit.

Many women like a combination of finger and tongue work, so just experiment. Believe me, an enthiastic partner is always rewarded in kind, so just relax and have fun!

3. What is the best way for me to last long??..Since it would be my first time, I'm afraid I'll last for only a few mins...

Eighteen year old guys are not known for their staying power, but they're legendary for their stamina. As WH said, don't worry if you climax quickly; you'll be back in the saddle in no time. If you want to make sure you please your partner, however, don't just think of straight intercourse. Use oral and digital stimulation first, and between, penetration sessions.

 

[rambling man]

dont get bummed out if you cum really quickly....thats 18 years of pressure building up...no one goes long the first time...just be very oral on her and very honest about it being your first time...shell appreciate the attention

 

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[Malachi]

Bonus suggestions

In order to help you implement all the other suggestions you have received I would highly recommend that you plan so as to allow yourselves as much time, space and privacy as you possibly can. I don't know what your circumstances are but it's hard enough having sex for the first time without feeling rushed, having to worry about who might hear, or (god forbid) being crowded in the back seat of a car.

Also, there's nothing better than spending a whole night sleeping and waking and screwing together.

Another thing about first times is that it may help if you can laugh instead of getting embarassed if something doesn't go exactly according to plan.
Come to think of it, that helps in all aspects of life.

My first time was when I was nineteen, so I'm an oddity too, I guess. You'll have plenty of chances to make up for lost time.

-James

 

[Lizard_king309]

Basically what you do is read around and get some techniques and ideas and try them out. Change your actions according to her reactions. Just keep trying things and find what she likes. That's what a sexual relationship is about, learning about the other person and what they like. It's an adventure that you take together in exploring eachother and that makes the experience better.