first time post ,also confused

[70dan]

i always consider my self a strait guy. but recently my wife and i were talking about a threesome (mff) wich will not happen... then i mentioned a mmf. she also liked that idea ( but will never happen either). then i really got to thinking about the Bi aspect, it turned me on. its going on 6 months and will not fade away. in fact its getting worse. i would not cheat on my wife, but would really like to suck and be fucked by a hot looking guy. what do i do? my wife would not be able to handle it( having me do it) would cause problem down the road. now do i stay a closet bi courious married guy? i am so cunfused and horny.

 

[70dan]

just a test

make sure the reply doesnt come to my email

 

[emap]

Talk to your wife about it, you never know many of us gals are a bit more open to it than you dumb guys think.

Seriously, even if you two never add another person, she can always go and buy a strap on and be your guy. If you really enjoy your wife riding you like her own little bitch, then you can talk again about adding an actual guy and letting her watch. Many women, myself included do like watching men screwing men, ok probably most just alot won't admit it.

 

[KokopelliRises]

I like the suggestion of a strap-on, definitely (for some reason) something I would not have thought of off the top of my head. Your wife might be able to offer some suggestions if you talk to her about it. Maybe she has some fantasies like yours, but from a different perspective. You never know until you ask.

Welcome to Lit!

 

[spittincobra96]

i am so confused and horny.

Welcome to the club. I suggest you find a way to accomodate your desires because they will not go away. Internet porn helps me control the "urge."

 

[stlpenguin]

Communication is always the key here. If this is what you want, you have to either buck up and tell her, and see if you can work out an accommodation, or you need to accept that it's not a reality and let it go.

I'd suggest the talking about it part - you should be able to tell your wife anything. You've married her, and agreed "for better or for worse" that she's your partner. If it's a problem for her, then resort to plan B - Accept that it cannot be a reality and let it go. If she's more or less open to it, see what she'd be willing to accept as a compromise. I'd start small - ask if she might be willing to try some sexy role reversal by wearing a strap-on... share the experience with her. Make it also about her - tell her that it's a role reversal for her too, in that she can see what it's like to be the fucker and not the fuckee. My wife claims it's a pretty big power-trip being in control of the cock. If she accepts that, see if that will soothe your desires for an actual man... but if not, take baby steps. Move up slowly, and see how far she's willing to go.

You can't just say, though, "Honey, I want to try having a man. Mind if I pick one up at the gay bar and bring'm home? You can watch if you want!"

Baby steps.

-- Scott

 

[70dan]

thanks for the info

this is why i posted the question here, you women are great.

 

[DerelictionOfSanity]

Well, if she liked the idea of the MMF, it might be something that you'll eventually work up to. Just make sure that she's included in, and comfortable with, any steps you take.

The strap-on is probably a good place to start. Apparently lots of completely straight men still enjoy anal stimulation, even if they would never want to actually have sex with a guy.

 

[oriondog]

3some

Just keep mind; you can't unscramble an egg!!!