First time MMF bi-etiquette for a guy?

[RedStar_320]

Hi all. I was looking for some guidance and maybe some advice. Me (male) and a couple have been chatting and I have been invited to meet them. I am excited but all the while nervous about this encounter. I'm not sure what to expect. We have agreed to start slow and see where it goes. So here goes:

I have told them I am a bottom, which they graciously seem excited about. I have told them that I've never received anal. I'm nervous because I don't know how things are going to go. I know that I need to clean, be safe, bring lube and everything before but I'm curious if there are any tips to give a nervous Noob? I thought about wearing a butt plug to their home and when I undressed, voila! There it would be but I don't know if that would put them off or not. How would you all react?

When you meet, do you bring wine, food, gift or beer? I don't know about showing up empty handed because they did invite me but I don't know where to go from there. Chocolates?

Am I overthinking this too much? I am a bit afraid because I don't want the. To think I have no idea or a flaker but I don't want to drown them with questions to kill the mood.

 

[t_platz4]

no idea, but

I have never been so lucky as to be invited... or I've been oblivious to the invitation.

Considering what you are asking for, a plug would seem reasonable. I think the couple would be thrilled.

It does demonstrate an open and adventurous mind.

So I say, wear the plug. And then tell me how it goes. (because I'm curious, jealous and want to live vicariously through you.)

 

[RedStar_320]

Thanks! That's what I'm hoping for! I've been practicing holding the butt plug in for some time. Unfortunately I've yet to master the gape or thrusting. Toys today seem to be over the top girth and length. At least for some bottom training.

 

[sw4fun]

Consider this like any other date. Nothing wrong with charming them a little when you arrive by bringing wine. Likewise no issues wearing the plug if you are comfortable doing so, which if I read what you are saying correctly you might want to practice a little.

The main thing is to be communicative about your comfort level and needs/desires. If you need to slow down say something. If you want to speed up... well there are better ways to show that. Enjoy.

 

[t_platz4]

maybe try these

I have two of these

http://www.njoytoys.com/products/pureplugs.php

One medium and then the 2.0 which is more challenging.

But they are smooth, easy to clean and designed for long term wear and to stay inside.

They also don't have a cheap feel to them... like you are putting effort into your kink.

 

[RedStar_320]

Any lubes that anyone suggest or has had success. I'm not a fan of KY. Is there something more slippery?

 

[RedStar_320]

Also, I wanted to get your opinion about positions. I want to be proactive and not lay their like a ragdoll going "well...what do you want?" I think it may take the fun out of it. Do you think it'd be a good idea to take some charge? I've always wanted to try reverse cow-girl/boy. Are there advanced or beginner positions you all have tried?