First time gay sex - group or one on one?

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[trannycougar]

I would recommend one on one. Give yourself a chance to try things out. Find someone nice that turns you on.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Go for the group, if that's what's going.

If you're sure they are safe, if you are sure the sex will be safe, you'll have plenty of chances to try stuff or watch stuff and see what you like.

 

[Experiencedguy]

There are pro's and con's to both. Most people prefer one on one. But, the advantages to a group is you can observe first, watch others (in real life, not porn), and, if you chicken out and leave, you won't really be missed. But - I'm going to guess that watching others will have you so primed, that after just a few moments, you'll just jump right in.

 

[WickedWendyDru]

Tough Choice

I guess I'd ask a question back. Do group scenarios turn you on? Because honestly, if they don't, you'd be better off passing on it. If they do... well, this is a no-brainer now, isn't it? Coming from a bi perspective where a lot of the sex I've had is group sex, I know quite a few of my past partners have gotten more than a little freaked out about getting naked and sweaty with several other people in the room. There's nothing worse than somebody freaking out in the middle of everything and having to stop and go soothe them or peel them off the ceiling because, "oh my god! we'll all naked!" The best group sex happens when everybody's there to relax and be generous - open, responsive, willing, and generous. If those words don't fit in with "first time gay experience" for you, or if it's going to take copious quantities of alcohol or other chemicals to relax you enough to get into the action (and thereby possibly ruining you for decent sex) then you should wait for one person who you genuinely care about who will lay you out and show you what's what. Good luck!

 

[Fatemaster]

I totally agree with Wendy.

If you're still figuring out your sexuality, I don't think you should dive right in to an experience you're not comfortable with...on the other hand, if you think that's the scene you're into, that might be exactly the right thing for you.

I think only you can answer this one for yourself.

 

[Hoosh78]

Find it try it

If you find yourself in either situation...go for it. I did and enjoyed it!

 

[Chrissi]

I'd say go for it.

Can't offer much more than what has been said, other than often in some groups you find pairings off, so you might have couples or 3-somes among the larger group in general. It can get mixed up after a while, but not always.

Relax and have fun, that's what group sex is all about anyway.

 

[tonycurinmass]

How many guys in the group? Are there any other beginners in this group? Share some more details.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Go for it

I've never tried a group, but I think it would be great. When everyone in the room is a naked gay guy, and there's a lot of sucking and fucking going on, you sure wouldn't stand out if you suck cock too. The group expectation would be that you join in. But perhaps you could just observe, and you wouldn't be missed if you leave.
Have you looked at any gay group sex videos? Do you think you'd be comfortable in that situation?
Personally, I'd love to try a gay group. But then I'm an experienced bi guy, and I know what I like.

 

[Chrissi]

I've never tried a group, but I think it would be great. When everyone in the room is a naked gay guy, and there's a lot of sucking and fucking going on, you sure wouldn't stand out if you suck cock too. The group expectation would be that you join in. But perhaps you could just observe, and you wouldn't be missed if you leave.
Have you looked at any gay group sex videos? Do you think you'd be comfortable in that situation?
Personally, I'd love to try a gay group. But then I'm an experienced bi guy, and I know what I like.

I've been in a lot of groups, and really no expectations. No one is really paying attention to anything but the partner(s) they are with. If you are noticed alone, you will be assumed that you are just recharging, or someone will come over and start sucking you, or offer their ass to you, but a simple wave off if you don't want to join in is all it takes...believe me, no one will be offended. Hell offer to take pics if everyone is comfortable...we would love to have someone take pics at some of our groups, it's just that everyone is too busy.

 

[Programmer Cat]

My first gay sex was as part of a foursome; our wives were playing with each other.

 

[malecasual]

My first gay sex was as part of a foursome; our wives were playing with each other.

Now that just sounds ideal for those of us who's wives would jump at the opportunity.

Topher's post also sounds amazing--it'd be fun just to meet people who "notice you alone" and decide to "offer their ass"

 

[ilike2try]

I can't really add to what guys are saying here. If it were me, I'd prefer one on one. If you're comfortable with a guy, you can really open up together in private... kind of ease into things, and before long, I guarantee you, you'll be right into the spirit of the thing. (Provided, of course, that you're not completely unsure of your sexuality, in which case, anything you do will probably make you question yourself/have guilt feelings, etc. later).

But if you feel fairly confident that you're up for it, and secure in your sexual desires, then by all means, try the group.

 

[WickedWendyDru]

Naughty Boys

Hell offer to take pics if everyone is comfortable...we would love to have someone take pics at some of our groups, it's just that everyone is too busy.

Uh huh... so that was you and your friends last weekend with the camera? I *knew* it... Naughty gay boys.

LOL

Just when we all get over our body issues you twinkies yank out your cameras...

Offer me *your* ass and see what happens...

<grin>

Only teasing. Kiss kiss and all that.

 

[Chrissi]

I can't really add to what guys are saying here. If it were me, I'd prefer one on one. If you're comfortable with a guy, you can really open up together in private... kind of ease into things, and before long, I guarantee you, you'll be right into the spirit of the thing. (Provided, of course, that you're not completely unsure of your sexuality, in which case, anything you do will probably make you question yourself/have guilt feelings, etc. later).

But if you feel fairly confident that you're up for it, and secure in your sexual desires, then by all means, try the group.

Certainly we are all different and have different comfort zones and levels. But sometimes a smallish group can be less intimidating too. With a small group, especially if all are easy going and comfortable with you being a voyeur, you can be the wallflower, and just relax and watch others enjoying themselves. You have absolutely no pressure to join in, as you may feel in a one-on-one setting.

Instead as the voyeur you are treated to a live show. If that doesn't make you extremely horny and want to jump in, then at least you will be touching yourself and have some very fond memories for future masterbation sessions.

topher

 

[Chrissi]

Uh huh... so that was you and your friends last weekend with the camera? I *knew* it... Naughty gay boys.

LOL

Just when we all get over our body issues you twinkies yank out your cameras...

Offer me *your* ass and see what happens...

<grin>

Only teasing. Kiss kiss and all that.

haha, it has been a couple weeks since our last group thing.

 

[ukbicuriousguy]

I'd say go for it.

Can't offer much more than what has been said, other than often in some groups you find pairings off, so you might have couples or 3-somes among the larger group in general. It can get mixed up after a while, but not always.

Relax and have fun, that's what group sex is all about anyway.

Sound advice, and very reassuring!

 

[trask9]

I need some opinions. If you had a chance to finally indulge in a same sex experience,would you go with a group or one on one?Without getting into all the details,I have a chance to finally experience gay sex.But only in a group setting.This is 100% guaranteed.Not one on one but only in a group.Would any of you do this?Should I? BTW,It would in a completely safe and discreet setting.

One on One the first time. If it is a group, do you know the people. Is it safe?

 

[SilkyDave]

i guess it depends on the guys involved and the mood i am in at the time, a group might be nice for an all out let's fulfill every desire at once thing, but a nice slow one to one tryst could be very satisfying if my nerves were in the way..or if i wanted to pay more attn to one sexual favor at a time

 

[Georgesowner1]

bumping

 

[SilkyDave]

bumping

lots of bumping going on George !!!