first time anal

[Down_UnderKid]

me and the girlfriend decided to give it a try (her receiving) and it went off with no problems after reading all the advice on here (if anyone is planing on attempting it, read the blank manual, very helpful).

but the only thing is that for me i dont know how to feel about it. im comfortable with the whole thing, but i dont know if it felt good or not, lol. its hard to explain it.

it felt good, but could it be the pressure of first time thing that didnt make it as enjoyable as i thought?
i remember the first time i had sex i was not dissapointed, but more like, "i thought it would have been better" but since then sex has definatley gotten better.

will this be the same for anal?

also how frequently should we do this if there is an answer at all for that lol

 

[albertaboy]

I understand what you are talking about. We do anal sometimes, my wife likes it, I enjoy toys, doing it is not as sensation filled as traditional sex.

Might be the condom and all the lube.

 

[A_Kefka]

I'd say keep trying, unless something is a turn off or painful dont' give up right away. It may get better as you get more relaxed with doing it, but it may not. Everyone's different.
I find myself wondering how she felt about it. I know that if I dont' think a partner is enjoying herself I can get kind of bored with sex, which sounds crazy now that I'm writing it. But it is, if she isn't gonna enjoy herself I'd almost rather masturbate. Anyway, the point was her enjoyment could effect yours.

 

[SweetErika]

but the only thing is that for me i dont know how to feel about it. im comfortable with the whole thing, but i dont know if it felt good or not, lol. its hard to explain it.

Is it possible you were so worried about doing it right and not hurting her that you couldn't really relax and enjoy your own sensations?

I find that's often the case for me when we're trying something completely new and/or complex and/or risky. Some things never end up being great, but a lot of stuff becomes more enjoyable with practice. I can be such a thinker and worrier (e.g. about the wrong kind of pain, potential dangers, unexpected outcomes, feelings, time pressures) that it can take a few--or many--times to get to a place where I can relax, find the right groove and pleasure in the experience.

also how frequently should we do this if there is an answer at all for that lol

Why do you think you should have anal sex a certain amount?

The only thing you should do is figure out how you both feel about it and do it as much--or as little--as your feelings dictate. If she really loves it and you feel it's so-so, or vice versa, find a compromise that works for both of you. If neither of you like doing it, you never have to do it again, or maybe it's something you'd like to revisit sometime in the future.

But there's certainly no set number of times/frequency you should do anal, much less anything else.

 

[Down_UnderKid]

thanks for the responses guys and girls

i wasnt so much asking for an exact number of times a week sorta thing but ur answer erika was once again on the money