i am meeting a potential Master tomorrow for the first time. i am very nervous but excited at the same time. W/we have been talking for a while and even talk quite a bit on the phone. He lives about an hour or so away from me, so distance is not a big problem. I already know what He wants me to wear and do. Is there any advice anyone can tell me to make this go as smoothly as possible?
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I would suggest contacting Cymbidia. She is the resident BDSM expert. She often provides helpful, articulate and thoughtful answers to questions such as yours.
I always thought there was substantial contact before entering into a dom/sub relationship, shows how much I know.
I always thought there was substantial contact before entering into a dom/sub relationship, shows how much I know.
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http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?postid=890836#post890836
You'll find thoughtful and experienced people at the end of that link who'll answer such a question, SO.
And yes, MM, you are correct. There should always have been quite a lot of discussion and talk and chat and such before one meets with a potential Dom/me or sub in a face-to-face situation. Each party should know that the attraction between them is more than a sexual hunger. They should be on their way toward trusting each other by now.
Should.
Things don't always unfold as they should though, do they, for any of us all the time.
However, based on her post, she's done things properly with this Dom - and the man who was just another Dom has become, in her mind's eye, a potential Master. There's a big difference between those two designators for both of the people involved, and it's definitely appropriate for them to meet at this point.
I think you know far more BDSM lifestyle arcana than you might be aware of, MM.
You'll find thoughtful and experienced people at the end of that link who'll answer such a question, SO.
And yes, MM, you are correct. There should always have been quite a lot of discussion and talk and chat and such before one meets with a potential Dom/me or sub in a face-to-face situation. Each party should know that the attraction between them is more than a sexual hunger. They should be on their way toward trusting each other by now.
Should.
Things don't always unfold as they should though, do they, for any of us all the time.
However, based on her post, she's done things properly with this Dom - and the man who was just another Dom has become, in her mind's eye, a potential Master. There's a big difference between those two designators for both of the people involved, and it's definitely appropriate for them to meet at this point.
I think you know far more BDSM lifestyle arcana than you might be aware of, MM.
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