first gangbang...

[sexisfun57]

my wife and I have had threesomes and she really enjoys it....we have talked about moving up to a small gangbang (3-4)....how is a good way without advertising...like craigslist...of finding people. I was thinking of going to a bar and looking for a group of guys already hanging out together...ideas??

 

[SweetErika]

Have you considered a swingers or sex club? If not, that'd be my suggestion since the people there are already looking for sex, more likely to respect limits (most clubs/groups have strict rules on this) and perhaps more likely to get tested for STIs on a somewhat regular basis (though you shouldn't count on this or take anyone's word for it - you should always go into it assuming everyone has STIs and act accordingly).

Finding a random group of guys in like a bar sounds like a recipe for disaster. 3-4 could easily overpower both you and your wife, turning your gangbang into a gang rape, robbery, double homicide, etc. Be very careful adding alcohol/drugs into the mix, too.

 

[hidden_self]

Once upon a time, there was a yahoo group in my area that was devoted to setting up so-called "mini-gangbangs" (three to five men per woman). Perhaps such a thing exists for your area?

 

[TypicalDeviant]

I'm just going to echo SweetErika's advice. Find a swinger's or sex club in your area.

 

[borednornyhouse]

Find yourself a swingers club. Picking up guys in a pub is a really dangerous idea! No way would I be happy with that if my hubbie wanted to do it that way.

 

[kittyn_]

Or just invite the previous extra people (from threesomes) back

 

[hidden_self]

Kittyn has a great point. If the guys had fun (and I think we can assume they did), I bet at least a few would be willing to try to, hm... expand their social circle a little.

 

[banes27]

Or just invite the previous extra people (from threesomes) back

Yeah, I'd stick with someone you already had a good time with and trust and move into a gangbang slowly. Perhaps you could have threesomes with a number of different men. Sy, one occassion you invite one guy over and on another occassion invite a different guy over, etc.

This way you get more and more comfortable with threesomes in general as well as the extra person. From here you could move into possibly discussing with two of the guys the possibility of an MMMF foursome and work on the internal chemistry there maybe moving eventually to MMMMF situations.

OTOH, if you're looking for something a little quicker, there's always swingers clubs

Personally I'm in the realm of trust. The only MMF threesome me and my fiancee had was with a guy who I, without a question, would call my best friend in the area I live now.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

If you're going to go with a gangbang, put some real effort into organising it.

Either follow Erika's advice and go to a swingers club, or put some leg work into joining a swingers site and selecting people.

A group of people who already know each other could indeed turn ugly, it'd be less likely with a group of people who were all strangers to each other.

If you go that way, talk to people first, meet them if possible. Liek you would with anyone else you planned to hook up with.

It can be done, and safely, you just have to do your homework.

 

[satindesire]

One thing I want to add: Please be careful. Practice safe sex, and make sure your wife is on some form of hormonal birth control.

Dental dams and condoms don't SOUND like a lot of fun when it comes to fantasy-land, but in reality, sex is risky, and you both need to be totally adult about this situation. Getting a STD check for everyone involved (including you and your wife) would be great, but not everyone's willing to put that much work into making sure no one brings home anything 'extra'.

I strongly suggest you buy an economy-sized tub of condoms and an equally ridiculous amount of lube, a big package of dental dams, then promptly go and get checked at a clinic as soon as the gangbang is done.

 

[subwannabe]

You do have to go into this like everyone has STD's.

 

[infinity706]

One thing I want to add: Please be careful. Practice safe sex, and make sure your wife is on some form of hormonal birth control.

Dental dams and condoms don't SOUND like a lot of fun when it comes to fantasy-land, but in reality, sex is risky, and you both need to be totally adult about this situation. Getting a STD check for everyone involved (including you and your wife) would be great, but not everyone's willing to put that much work into making sure no one brings home anything 'extra'.

I strongly suggest you buy an economy-sized tub of condoms and an equally ridiculous amount of lube, a big package of dental dams, then promptly go and get checked at a clinic as soon as the gangbang is done.

Well, dental dams are good, but they're only good for pussy/ass licking. It would probably be more economical to just buy a bunch of condoms and split one down one side as needed. Of course, dental dams do come in flavors now, so if you find one in a flavor you can't get condoms in, it might be worth picking up some.