First date question for the women

[TexasJeep]

This is to all the wimmens out there....


I have been with the same girl since high school, so basically i havent been single in about 7 years. We broke it off back in march, and im finally at the point where im ready to start dating again. Well next week i've got my first-first date since i can even remember, with a girl i have known for a little while and really like alot. I would like to see if any of you have any good first date do's or dont's, definately the dont's.... im feeling kinda lost here. Dumb i know, but help a nice guy out here.

 

[montrealgirl]

I just (sort of) went through this in November. I was a nervous wreck as I hadn't dated in years. Everyone is different, but here are some of my suggestions (I'm kind of known for being a smartass but I am going to be totally serious here because I understand your plight).

1. Let her know what time you plan on picking her up and be on time. If you are running late, phone her and let her know. Seriously.

2. Take that extra time to shower, dress kind of snappy (well that depends on what you plan on doing), add a little cologne etc. Trust me, we can tell when you are making an effort, and that goes really far. Guaranteed, if she is interested, she has gone through her whole closet, realized she owns nothing and bought something new. She's also shaved or waxed, maybe did her nails and tried the whole outfit on to make sure its right. Its nice to put in an equal effort to look and smell nice. *as proof, when my date arrived I was floored at how great he looked; nice pants, ironed, nice shirt and he smelled fantastic - I had never seen him like that before and my jaw hit the ground. Its not about looks per say - I knew then that he cared about our date and took the time to present himself in the best way*

3. Have a clear idea in mind on what you are going to do. Seriously, dating is so rare these days...most often we meet men in social gatherings like parties or through work etc. Its pretty rare (in my experience) for a guy to actually ask a girl out in advance so that it is understood it is a "date". I've done the "wanna get a coffee?" after class, the "wanna grab a bite?" after work, but so rarely the, "can I take you out on Saturday?" So, its pretty nice to also take the initiative to plan. I once was asked out by someone and when he picked me up said, "so, what do you want to do?" I was turned off - I have ideas sure, but its nice to know he thought of something. Perhaps thats old-fashioned but hey, I like chivalry. Its better to make a suggestion, like "I know this great Thai restaurant - do you like Thai?" if she says "no" have a backup plan: "how about Indian?"

That is the basics I'd say. After all that all you have to do is be yourself and let chemistry take over...listen to what she has to say, talk about yourself (although you may not want to talk about all the reasons you broke up with your ex on the first date )

I'm sure its going to be great! Good luck!

 

[pink]

great advice, sweetie.

 

[TexasJeep]

good advice so far, thanks!

 

[bustee_mcqueen]

i agree with all that, it's so nice to be actually taken out. It makes girls feel really special when you go to all that effort.

try not to spend too much time staring at her legs, arse or tits. Look into her eyes. Pay her a compliment and try to relax