Finishing him off- trouble

[sugargator]

Hey so here goes with the advice question:

I cannot get my man to cum through a blowjob!!! Ive never had trouble doing this for any other guy before and its aggravating(sp?) me!!! He cums fine any other way. He has never had a girl get him off through a blowjob ( he once had a girl suck him for like 45 min and nothing) One thing Ive found is that guys usually like the tips of their penis's sucks and played with (right? where the foreskin connects) But he doesn't like this! He says he feels too sensitive there and it sets him back. Jeez that was like my no fail method before! He is uncut. He says my technique is great...??? (when I avoid that spot of course) Any suggestions??

 

[alltherage]

Listen to what he tells you. Watch for reactions and accept that the thing that will send him to orgasm will be unique and more than likely a surprise to both of you.

 

[Ladybird]

My ex sometimes had trouble cumming with just a blow job. Usually when he was excessively tired or stressed.

So we'd have sex with me on top of him, and then just as he was about to cum, I'd jump off and take him in my mouth.

That way at least he did cum in my mouth, even if he wasn't totally pleasured there.

For us it was a good compromise.

 

[dreamer]

I like how you think Ladybird...

But once again I find my best advice to just be "TALK TO HIM"

You'd be amazed how crazy-good sex can be when two people get over their fears of communicating things with each other. Find out what works for him...hell...make a game of it. Hotter/colder...or some such..heh.

Enjoy the process, that's what really counts anyhow.

 

[scoperella]

Have never been with an uncut man, so I don't know how much of a factor that is. However, in my personal experience and those I've spoken to, it's not uncommon for men not to be able to orgasm strictly via a blowjob. The key: USE YOUR HAND!!!! Get him close with your mouth, or to where you think he's close ... and stroke him to finish him off. If it is close, it shouldn't take that long, he got the enjoyment of your mouth and tongue working on him, and he can still cum in your mouth. Plus it frees up your mouth to tend to other areas to help.
Happy blowing

 

[ifitsfundoit]

Have never been with an uncut man, so I don't know how much of a factor that is. However, in my personal experience and those I've spoken to, it's not uncommon for men not to be able to orgasm strictly via a blowjob. The key: USE YOUR HAND!!!! Get him close with your mouth, or to where you think he's close ... and stroke him to finish him off. If it is close, it shouldn't take that long, he got the enjoyment of your mouth and tongue working on him, and he can still cum in your mouth. Plus it frees up your mouth to tend to other areas to help.
Happy blowing

I rarely cum through oral alone. It usually takes a combination of both hands and tongue.

My wife uses plenty of saliva, as I'm circ'd, and alternates between licking my whole length/balls and simple masturbation.

A little anal play is also a good addition to the experience. you don't have to insert you finger at all. Simply rubbing his hole will almosyt certainly help. I know it does me.

Gotta be worth a try anyway.

Ifits

 

[Star of Penumbra]

He may be apprehensive. I'm sure every guy has had a similar experience.

As an example, I was at a concert a few weeks ago. During the intermission, I went to the bathroom to take a leak. Unfortunately, they had one of those long trough urinals (the guys know what I mean), and I found myself wedged in between two other guys. I stood there for about four or five minutes, and was completely unable to pee.

So I left and went to the bathroom on the other side of the building, and waited for a stall to open. Only then was I able to relieve myself.

So you see, it's probably got nothing to do with you; it's all him. He's nervous, and until he's more comfortable with this, he won't be able to cum during a BJ.

Hope this helps.

 

[MR.GGG]

whopwhopwhop

Most guys become accustomed to what their hand feels like. They control the fantasy and they are pretty rough with their hand. A soft loving wet mouth feels unbelievably GOOD but to match the movements of his hand you'd have to make like a woodpecker and maybe give yourself a concussion while you were at it.

He may have some hangups about teeth, women who would take their peepee in their MOUTHS - stuff like that. I agree. TALK to him. Find out if he has a mental block or if it's just that your mouth can't be as violent as his hand.

Suggestion... talk about giving him a great BJ. Tell him NOT to masturbate for 2 or 3 nights (with most guys this is nearly FATAL). Tell him you'll hack his nuts off with a rusty garden edger if he so much as touches himself when you're not there. Work up the scene. Tell him what you're gonna do and how great you're gong to make him feel. After a period of teasing and just prior to him going completely nuts he should be "susceptible" to your ministrations.

After that and I'm pretty sure that'll work, it's only a matter of training him and his penis to react to your mouth with the same enthusiasm as his hand.

Oh and don't forget that if the "no orgasm for 3 days" does work and you are successful he's going to DROWN you when he does cum. It'd be a shame to ruin the effort by forgetting that and puking all over him.

Good luck and we require a progress report within 4 business days!

 

[sugargator]

Hey guys Thanks for the help!! Actually to those of you who say talk to him....Thats great advice but, I have talked to him. He actually reads these posts with me and we have found a couple of the suggestions interesting.

Mr. GGG - We have tried the waiting thing...it usually wont go as far as 3 days...its hard for ME to wait that long!!! Soon though Ill give up for that round and almost as soon as he is in me he can cum easily. (after Ive BJ him for a lil while that is) But never in my mouth.

We have talked about me keeping a more steady pace ( we tried again last night...no result) He seems to like things that are more difficult for me to keep up for long. But we plan to try again...Ill keep yall updated okay?

He does like the hands too guys...I do that, But I sooo want him to cum with my mouth in addition to my hand,so I dont feel like I am actually give him a HAND job with a lil licking but not a true BLOW job ya know? AM I CRAZY!!??

 

[Mackay]

Never Cum from just a blowjob

I myself have never cum from just reciveing a blowjob i really dont know why i never have its not like i dont want to for some reason I just cant i mean i get so close then my body as if its teasing me stops and starts all over agian it drives me nuts

My only thought on why i never have is perhaps the last relationship i was in the girl never really cared about pleaseing me she never really took the time to even asked what i liked or hated it was allways about her so maybe its im just not used to haveing a girl want to make me happy for a change

 

[scoperella]

>> He does like the hands too guys...I do that, But I sooo want him to cum with my mouth in addition to my hand,so I dont feel like I am actually give him a HAND job with a lil licking but not a true BLOW job ya know? AM I CRAZY!!?? <<


Well ... if he's happy, and happens to cum at the same time, yes you are crazy! What is a "true" blowjob? Shouldn't he get the BEST blowjob, the one that pleases him most, whether it's just your tounge licking him, just sucking him, or licking, sucking, nibbling, stroking, fingering, massaging, etc. etc. etc.? When he goes down on you, isn't it more enjoyable the more he's doing, the licking, sucking, massaging, fingering, blowing, etc.? Again, use your mouth til he's close, stroke him to finish him, have him tell you when he's going to come and move your mouth on to catch his cum. Only word of advice if you do that: keep stroking him through his orgasm! If you get him right there, then change what you're doing it can make what would have been a phenomenal orgasm disappointing ... keep going with what got him there!