Fingering and getting Physicals

[Guest]

Alright, I have a g/f (I'm female too) and no one knows about us cuz ya, we're still not ready for people to know... anyway... the question-

I was wondering if when you get a physical- (ya know- the not-so-fun ones) if they can tell if you've been fingered-
*If it makes any diff- 3 fingers is the max used
thanks a bunch

 

[Monazwx]

What?



Maybe it's just me.

 

[Puppi]

It sounds like they want to know if a Gyno can tell if a female "lesbian" has been fingered by her female partner or if she is still a "virgin"...and that three fingers is the max that has been stuffed in...


~Puppi

 

[Guest]

uh, ya, pretty much- I just didnt know how to put it- because they can tell if you've had sex recently (or at least that's what I've been led to believe)
thanks for any help you can offer

 

[Semler]

Seems to me this person is too young to be here at Lit.

 

[Puppi]

There's a shocker.


~Puppi

 

[Guest]

sorry

I'm sorry that I come across that way, no, I'm not your usual 50 year old, just a 17 year old, and we're still rather worried about our parents finding out right now since that'd make things really hard for us, and I'm assuming that being that we're under age- it'd be legal for the doctor to tell them that it appears as though I/ she is sexually active.
Sorry if my writing skills are low, I'm just sort of nervous about things.
=/

 

[vengefulvixen]

17? What the hell are you doing here? I know you may feel old enough (I certainly did at that age) but it doesn't matter. You being here can get this board shut down, which would ruin things for a lot of people. Obviously you're not that sexually mature anyways if you're asking questions like this, so why don't you just wait a year or two and then come back. We'll be happy to answer your questions then.

 

[Puppi]

Come back on your 18th birthday.


~Puppi

 

[Champagne]

Re: sorry

I'm sorry that I come across that way, no, I'm not your usual 50 year old, just a 17 year old, and we're still rather worried about our parents finding out right now since that'd make things really hard for us, and I'm assuming that being that we're under age- it'd be legal for the doctor to tell them that it appears as though I/ she is sexually active.
Sorry if my writing skills are low, I'm just sort of nervous about things.
=/

I know it would be rather hard for your parents to find out and I don't know where you are but here in Australia if you are 16 you can tell the clinic that you don't give them permission to give information to your parents. And honestly are your parents that naive to think that at 17 you are not somewhat sexually active.

You know them better than I do, but they may not freak as much as you think.

Champagne

 

[Lust Engine]

17??? AGH! Scram already!

But as far as I know the only way the doctor's gonna know if anyone's been fingered is if they discover a class ring inside of you.

 

[Puppi]

I can't help it...but...

LOL!!!

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: I can't help it...but...

LOL!!!

Sorry to be sooooo sarcastic with the fresh meat there, but I just had to say something! While I'm not averse to kids having access to sexual knowledge, this is HARDLY the place to be asking.

Ask Drs. Drew, Ruth, Judy and every other sex therapist out there!

 

[MR.GGG]

I know it's a NO NO to even talk to minors in here but in most communities these days, with both parents working the kiddies start at 12 and 13 to take their b/f's (in this case g/fs) home from school at lunch and have wild sex until classes start in the afternoon. After school it's more of the same until the parents show up at 6 or 8PM.

Half ther 50 year olds are pretending to be 12 and vice versa. Kids who go to regular schools can barely read and write (wel tha rite lick these an uo kan hardli unnerstan they) so you certainly can't judge on that criteria either.

My feeling on this is that if the question is too sexual and stupid it's probably some older goof trying to be sexy. If it is an innocent sounding question and the written part sucks it probably is really a confused kid so maybe a bit of advice and then a "Go AWAY" is in order.

Ya, a gyno can tell if you've been penetrated. In most places at 17 the doctor wouldn't have any cause to get on the phone to your parents and tell what he's found. In fact like somebody above mentioned the likelihood of a doctor finding a 17 year old who HASN'T had some sexual relations far more interesting and a press conference would be held to announce it.

I think the girl who's asking is more worried about her sexual pref being found out. My question would be, Have you had ANY relations with boys? I doubt if you are old enough or mature enough at 17 to decide once and for all that you are a lesbian. Just because this girl turns you on and you've had some finger pokin sessions with her doesn't make you a lesbian. You should find an ADULT you can talk to - somebody you can trust - and discuss it with them. You are feeling guilty and probably scared shitless that your family will be able to tell by "looking at you" that you've had a finger - a GIRL'S finger in you. Calm down. Take some time to grow up and realize that we all go through a maturing process and that includes sexual experimentation.

My 2¢

 

[Guest]

Just one last thing...

K, I'm sorry- I wasn't going to write anything again since most of you dont want me to- I just wanted to explain a couple of things...
The *only* reason I came here was because I've looked and looked for advice/an answer to my question on numerous 'teen' sites but have been unable to find anything helpful. I didnt come here to *giggle* about the "naughty" things like some people may be thinking and yes- I know that I am 'sexually immature' but I do believe that that is a good thing- given my age...
I just wanted to find an answer to my question somewhere (and hopefully where there'd be some older wisdom)- that's all. I'm sorry for upsetting some of you but I REALLY appreciate the help that Mr. GGG gave me. I wanted to just tell him that yes, I have had relations with guys but that wasn't floating my boat I guess you could say and then, I met an awesome girl that cares about me as much as I do her and we've been together for 8 months... we're waiting until we go to college to tell our parents since they're strict Christians- as are we and yes, we know that our relationship is a sin but we can't ignore our love for eachother. I'm not a flat out lesbian, just bisexual... and btw we aren't together because we're some 'horny teens' trying to relieve tensions- the physical aspect comes second in our relationship.
Sorry to ramble on, I just wanted to say those things and don't worry, I won't come back here again.
Again, I apologize to those I've angered and whatnot

 

[Guest]

Actually....

....persons under the age of 18 can have access to this site if they have parental permission. Of course, most of them probably don't but, instead of yelling, if we help them they won't make any big mistakes and turn out to be a well- educated generation..........especially since most of us are mature and for the most part have all our facts straight. Some parents can't talk to their kids, so who do they turn to?

I'd rather have a grown person tell my children like it is than some other child misleading them..............

 

[lissalynn]

^ that twas me!

silly me, wasn't even logged in yet!

 

[Puppi]

As many have said several times all over Lit...

The problem of having children here is that Lit could get shut down and Laurel (or her hubby) could actually go to jail. Laurel does not wish to have her site shut down, get arrested, pay for lawyers, etc. She's stated that time and time again. This is her site. She uses her rules. Period. Bottom line.

 

[lissalynn]

Then how come it doesn't state all that on the register page? If she's gonna stick to that rule, then that really needs to be taken off! it's just a welcome mat for young-uns!

 

[Puppi]

I believe the register page asks if someone is 18 or not. This is a free site. If Laurel did the "adult check" shit, we'd have to fork over credit cards.

 

[lissalynn]

so, you're saying leave the mat out so we don't have to pay? Then i don't understand whay so many people are surprised when underage kids come to the site. I guess i'm too much of a sweetie and want to help everyone! anyways, thanx fer explainin to me!

 

[Puppi]

I don't think people are "surprised" when they GUESS children are here. BUT, when a minor in question is spotted, responsible adults report it to Laurel. Same with stories containing minors in sexual situations.

It's Laurel's site to run how Laurel wishes. Whether she goes to the various adult check systems or not, it's her choice.

And, as others have stated before, children are better off talking to their parents about sex and sexual questions, or (as I remember I didn't like talking to my parents about sex) going to a HEALTH/nurse site to get their questions answered and NOT an ADULT "porn story" site.

 

[lissalynn]

ok, sorry!

you apparently don't remember how it is to be a kid. or know how most of them feel nowdays. there are other ways to tell them to leave without getting anyone in trouble or making them feel totally worthless.

 

[Puppi]

you apparently don't remember how it is to be a kid...

I most certainly do! As I stated in my above post, I didn't go to my parents about sex either. But, my sex ed was school (them telling us what a period was, basically) and HANDS-ON...with a girl more so than boys/men. Though I waited until I was "in love" to give it up, I was sexually active from a young age. Probably "too young".

I am looking at things from an adult's point of view now. I like Lit. I like writing stories, mainly erotica. I like having a place where I can post stories if/when I finish them. I like Lit better than any of the other adult story sites I visit. I don't want to lose Lit because a child, or adult getting their kicks by "acting" like a naive child, comes to an adult sex board.

As a responsible adult, and knowing what the net can offer a child/adolecent in the ways of advice and help, I know some health oriented site is better for a child than an adult erotica/sex STORY site.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: ok, sorry!

you apparently don't remember how it is to be a kid. or know how most of them feel nowdays. there are other ways to tell them to leave without getting anyone in trouble or making them feel totally worthless.

I remember being a kid.

And if I wanted to pull something off that was restricted to adults (such as buying beer or porn), I did everything I could toportray an adult at least. Whether it was the grow facial hair, use a fake ID or whatever, I never made it a point to stand out AS a minor when I knowingly knew I wasn't supposed to be there.

There's a bit of a difference between being a SMART kid and being a being stupid.

While I'm sure there are minors who sneak onto this site & check out things, the ones who are successful keep mum about their age. They don't get into any trouble and we adults don't get into trouble.