Finding a 2nd male for a MFm

[alwayshorny2020]

Hi, The wife and I have spoken about having a threesome with another male, we are in our early 50's
The wife is quite striking with a very sexy figure.
The question is what would be the best way to meet the other player

Options we have considered were
Going to a swingers event at a house, although not interested in another couple just another male
Trying to randomly pick up in a pub or club.
Advertise on adult sites like fetlife
Going to a sex club, watch for a bit and play if we feel like it

We would not play with anyone we personally know.

Looking for to your advice

 

[ppd1107]

I’m having the same questions. Following

 

[PacerLJ35]

I’m having the same questions. Following

Ditto

 

[hulmule]

Sign me up ! Seriously. Meet for coffee, not drinks first. See if chemistry is there, see if you get along and both are comfortable with the third person. Pm me

 

[PacerLJ35]

Sign me up ! Seriously. Meet for coffee, not drinks first. See if chemistry is there, see if you get along and both are comfortable with the third person. Pm me

Man I was in Cleveland just a month ago

 

[Love2Spurt]

Lots of swingers clubs will organise to have a few select single guys there for people just like yourselves.
As far as not wanting to play with other couples while there, most are very respectful when you say no thanks as its typically a rule that no means no.

 

[dannyboy1958]

I suspect there are a few men here, having the same thoughts, im signed up also.

Id start with any friends of yours that dont know her as a friend.
for example we had a builder working for us and my wife was very friendly and chatty with him. I chatted to him separately and got onto where hed worked in the past and hed often be working in a house where hubbies at work and the wife is there. After a bit more chat hes been more than friendly with a few lady customers, so i knew heed be up for some fun with mine if we wanted.
I then made a few comments about him to my wife suggesting that he might a friend we can share things with.
Sadly it never came to anything as he moved overseas, but it was close.

 

[phil1955]

Let the wife meet some men and see if there might be one that is acceptable and willing. My wife has met two men through hiking groups. She would get to know him and decide if she might be interested and then I would add my two cents. Most women are not going to have trouble finding a willing man and then she just needs to see if he would be up for the mrm.

 

[dannyboy1958]

Let the wife meet some men and see if there might be one that is acceptable and willing. My wife has met two men through hiking groups. She would get to know him and decide if she might be interested and then I would add my two cents. Most women are not going to have trouble finding a willing man and then she just needs to see if he would be up for the mrm.

good call - wife doing something she enjoys should attract like minded men.

 

[freakyguy41]

Hi, The wife and I have spoken about having a threesome with another male, we are in our early 50's
The wife is quite striking with a very sexy figure.
The question is what would be the best way to meet the other player

Options we have considered were
Going to a swingers event at a house, although not interested in another couple just another male
Trying to randomly pick up in a pub or club.
Advertise on adult sites like fetlife
Going to a sex club, watch for a bit and play if we feel like it

We would not play with anyone we personally know.

Looking for to your advice

My wife chose an ex work colleague of mine... a guy from a place where i used to work but no longer work there... I introduced them years ago at the company holiday party... he's friends with somewhat other friends of ours, not close friends so we ran into him at a large party we were surprised to be invited to... he lives close enough yet far enough...

 

[phil1955]

good call - wife doing something she enjoys should attract like minded men.

Probably easier to arrange if the wife can go out with him and even fuck him before asking about the 3some. I think many women would find it easier to do the first time with him alone.

 

[phil1955]

Hi, The wife and I have spoken about having a threesome with another male, we are in our early 50's
The wife is quite striking with a very sexy figure.
The question is what would be the best way to meet the other player

Options we have considered were
Going to a swingers event at a house, although not interested in another couple just another male
Trying to randomly pick up in a pub or club.
Advertise on adult sites like fetlife
Going to a sex club, watch for a bit and play if we feel like it

We would not play with anyone we personally know.

Looking for to your advice

Will there be any bi play here?

 

[blazingsaddles69]

Such a fun and sexy question

A glass of wine or sharing a bottle have your wife wear a nice skirt showing off her legs in a bar you like flirt a bit with a guy she likes and see what happens it may take some time I wish I could convince my wife to try I love the idea pleasing both hmmmm Norhtwest here

 

[Candicreme]

Threesomes can be so tricky given the fact that you're looking for that single person to be good with playing with you as a couple. I'd honesty recommend first having it outside of where you live on a vacation or trip. This will help to make sure there is no personal connection and generally it is going to be about having a good time and moving on. You could always travel to a place such as Vegas and use an escort service to guarantee that neutral third party. Bars can be hit and miss. You can find someone into it but there is the risk of them lacking or just being a goofball. Like you said swingers are often couple based but occasionally you can find a couple that also plays alone.

 

[BBWhunter989]

A few years ago I was playing on a softball team at a complex that also had a sports bar . After a game a couple bought me a drink and after a bit the husband went to the restroom giving the wife a chance to talk with me alone .. she blatantly asked if I was bi and would I care to enjoy their company . That led to a 6 month relationship that was mutually fulfilling. An unexpected pregnancy ended our relationship. I never did find out for sure who the father was. Since we shared most characteristics I think they left well enough alone. I often wonder what has become of them , I moved 100 miles away shortly after

 

[Missthefriz]

When we first started (also around age 50!), we didn't know where to start either. We have had excellent success meeting men our age at casinos, especially on evening there is live entertainment at the bar

 

[LTSPLAY]

Join any number of lifestyle sites. Yes, they can be very discrete.
Set up a profile, there are many single men experienced in threesomes. There are couples that that play separately, couples that hall-pass, etc.

We are in the same age range with an attractive misses, you can search easily but if the misses is attractive, they will contact you, regularly.

Converse on the sites, meet at a local meet and greet, or a public bar/restaurant.

 

[NC_Coastal]

Bring her to the beach, take her to a gay bar and let the men come to you. They most certainly will.

 

[alwayshorny2020]

Will there be any bi play here?

No would be straight play

 

[alwayshorny2020]

Join any number of lifestyle sites. Yes, they can be very discrete.
Set up a profile, there are many single men experienced in threesomes. There are couples that that play separately, couples that hall-pass, etc.

We are in the same age range with an attractive misses, you can search easily but if the misses is attractive, they will contact you, regularly.

Converse on the sites, meet at a local meet and greet, or a public bar/restaurant.

I like this option. We live in a small town so we wouldn't play locally. So online would be good initially and allow us to be selective and set some ground rules

 

[bill3901]

although there is a risk if there were strong feelings involved, an ex-boyfriend worked great for us...it wasn't as big a leap since she had slept with him before and it was less awkward ...just an idea../

 

[Rockwell12]

We are not in the lifestyle but this is of interest to me and I've listen to a lot of podcasts.
Making a profile of a swingers site (SDC, SLS, etc) or on hook up site like Tinder will get you a lot of options, or so I've heard. You can choose to play outside of your home area for discretion sake. In your profile tell people what you're into, your style of play, etc
Advice above is good. Meet at a cafe for coffee to see if there is any chemistry, interest, but low pressure.

 

[alwayshorny2020]

I like a lot of the suggestions, I love the fantasy of being in a bar in another city and letting her pick , although there would be some ground rules on our play so that would be harder to communicate than an arranged play on the internet

 

[falkor207]

While I've never had a 3some of any variety, I'm finding myself more open to the idea of being the 3rd in mfm.

 

[Islander55]

If there is no bi play involved then simple let the woman pick a man. Most women have male friends of varying degrees. I have found hiking groups to be a great place to meet men. You have a chance to chat and get to know them and if there is mutual interest, just let it head to a natural conclusion. Now she might need to do a few men before she finds one that would be willing to join a couple.