Find the magic again....

[jcallny]

So its exaclty what I want to do, I want to find the magic.

We met and it was all sex. Oral male and female, anal and vaginal. We were single no kids so it was wake up sex, after work sex, pre dinner sex, after dinner sex, and before going to bed sex. Next day repeat. In fact we did it so much and so often we had an accident, and not learning from that we had two more.

Now where has the magic gone? When we can fight sleep long enough we do it but it's just plain. It's a I make you come and then I come. Almost always a quicky since we could be interrupted. No more oral plus body issues that don't matter a stich to me but she has them.

So how can i get that pre-family sex back. At least to make it livly and incredible again. I was wondering if I could get some advice from those who have been through it. Maybe some advice from ladies so that she could conquer her body issues.

How do others out there deal with it and still make it happen?

Advice wanted male and female alike but from those who are in the same situation or have been theough it.

 

[subwannabe]

If you want better advice you are going to have to provide better details. It sounds like you just met someone, moved in together, had a lifetime of sex in a short amount of time, and are now wondering how to keep the "magic" going. Meant as constructive criticism from reading this and some of your other posts I find you to be quite self centered and very obsessed with the sexual aspect of life. She apparently didn't have any "body issues" during your incredible run, so I doubt that that has changed now. It may be more of an excuse because she has grown tired of you. Maybe it is you who has the body issues with her and don't want to go out in public with her. Maybe she was hoping for more out of the relationship than just constant incredible sex and only being thought of as a sex object. It's easier to keep the magic in the bedroom going if you have magic with each other outside of the bedroom as well. If you don't then your magic may have run out. Maybe she craves holding your hand while watching a sunset. Maybe she graves getting a dozen roses from you. Maybe she's just wondering how the hell to get out.

 

[tishadomina]

That is called the honeymoon period ending. While sex does not necessarily always 'taper off', there is that transition from rampant 'new person, new desire' sex into something closer to a routine as your lives became more regular, meshed together and entangled. This isn't a bad thing, and does not mean that you have to cheat to get that 'zing' back. Try going on date nights. Try holding off on sex for a couple of days (or whatever is longer than average) then go at it like rabbits. Try discussing new fantasies, new things to try in the bedroom. Or maybe even just try not focussing on it, and letting it happen when it happens.

 

[pfflyerhot]

Read this great story submission...

How to Have Good Sex After Marriage

Can't hurt.
Also, be nice, don't assume, don't predict, ask, listen, talk, play, don't expect telepathy, ... there's more, but I'll stop now. I'm driving myself nuts already.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[subwannabe]

Oops. I may have misunderstood the OP. For some reason I got the impression that all of this took place over a relatively short period of time but after re-reading I may have been mistaken. In fact, now it reads a little bit like something I could have written myself. Apologies for my over-reaction apparently jumping to a too quick of a conclusion without all the facts.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

The accidents were the real target. Accidents are like a lottery with good odds for winning or losing. Play it with a new guy and the thrill will come back, guaranteed.

 

[jcallny]

Can't figure out

[If your full of rage or your just a jerk.


QUOTE=subwannabe;71536424]If you want better advice you are going to have to provide better details. It sounds like you just met someone, moved in together, had a lifetime of sex in a short amount of time, and are now wondering how to keep the "magic" going. Meant as constructive criticism from reading this and some of your other posts I find you to be quite self centered and very obsessed with the sexual aspect of life. She apparently didn't have any "body issues" during your incredible run, so I doubt that that has changed now. It may be more of an excuse because she has grown tired of you. Maybe it is you who has the body issues with her and don't want to go out in public with her. Maybe she was hoping for more out of the relationship than just constant incredible sex and only being thought of as a sex object. It's easier to keep the magic in the bedroom going if you have magic with each other outside of the bedroom as well. If you don't then your magic may have run out. Maybe she craves holding your hand while watching a sunset. Maybe she graves getting a dozen roses from you. Maybe she's just wondering how the hell to get out.[/QUOTE]