Find Older Women That Want to Chat

[hereforyou83]

Just looking for some advice on how to find fun, adventurous, older women to chat with. I'm 36M and have always had a thing for older women, but don't really know where to start. Any advice? Thanks so much.

 

[EdEc]

You can wait for them to come to you or you can start looking at various posts that will attract women and go there to look for them.

 

[SisterJezabel]

Most guys just send a dick pic...

Seriously though, I'm not into chatting, but go through the amateur pic thread and send some messages asking if people want to chat.

 

[bailadora]

Seriously though, I'm not into chatting, but go through the amateur pic thread and send some messages asking if people want to chat.

That's one approach, but given the multitude of unsolicited messages women on these boards receive, I doubt it's an effective one.

OP, you are, unfortunately, one of many men who seem to be seeking the same thing. What makes you different? What makes you stand out from all the rest? What do you bring to the table that would compel a more mature woman to want to chat with you?

You don't specify what you consider an "older" woman, but given my age, I suspect I might qualify. I can't speak for every woman in my demographic, but I, personally, am selective regarding the folks with whom I choose to communicate. Although I'm not currently, nor have I ever been on the prowl for a hookup, I did make some wonderful friends when I was more active here on Lit. Those relationships always began as a PM in response to a conversation in open forum.

No offense to SisterJez, but I recommend you take the opposite approach. Participate in threads where there's an actual conversation, not just those devoted to pics, amateur or otherwise. Take the time to establish yourself as someone interesting enough to compel people to want to speak with you.

 

[NightL]

Just looking for some advice on how to find fun, adventurous, older women to chat with. I'm 36M and have always had a thing for older women, but don't really know where to start. Any advice? Thanks so much.

It is just the same as the world out there in your day to day life. People tend to mostly hook up with those they trust, respect, find interesting and attractive.

Stating "I'm 36M and have always had a thing for older women" is about as attractive and interesting as a steaming dog dump.

 

[Jada59]

That's one approach, but given the multitude of unsolicited messages women on these boards receive, I doubt it's an effective one.

OP, you are, unfortunately, one of many men who seem to be seeking the same thing. What makes you different? What makes you stand out from all the rest? What do you bring to the table that would compel a more mature woman to want to chat with you?

You don't specify what you consider an "older" woman, but given my age, I suspect I might qualify. I can't speak for every woman in my demographic, but I, personally, am selective regarding the folks with whom I choose to communicate. Although I'm not currently, nor have I ever been on the prowl for a hookup, I did make some wonderful friends when I was more active here on Lit. Those relationships always began as a PM in response to a conversation in open forum.

No offense to SisterJez, but I recommend you take the opposite approach. Participate in threads where there's an actual conversation, not just those devoted to pics, amateur or otherwise. Take the time to establish yourself as someone interesting enough to compel people to want to speak with you.

Yep. I agree with you.

 

[pplwatching]

No offense to SisterJez, but I recommend you take the opposite approach. Participate in threads where there's an actual conversation, not just those devoted to pics, amateur or otherwise. Take the time to establish yourself as someone interesting enough to compel people to want to speak with you.

I agree with you, except to say that I've made gal friends on here from critiques and snarky comments that I made in pic/video threads. I don't post all that much, but try to say something that adds to the conversation when I do. I have boundaries for where I'll let a PM conversation go, but keeping it going and steering it where you want it to go is pretty easy if you show that you're listening and paying attention. It's no different than real life. Communication is an art form to be mastered.

And of course I get email all the time telling me there's older ladies in my area who want to hook up, so there's always that .

 

[bailadora]

I agree with you, except to say that I've made gal friends on here from critiques and snarky comments that I made in pic/video threads. I don't post all that much, but try to say something that adds to the conversation when I do. I have boundaries for where I'll let a PM conversation go, but keeping it going and steering it where you want it to go is pretty easy if you show that you're listening and paying attention. It's no different than real life. Communication is an art form to be mastered.

And of course I get email all the time telling me there's older ladies in my area who want to hook up, so there's always that .

I once struck up a random conversation with someone from a pic thread based upon a comment regarding Guinness beer. The point is to make a comment that compels someone to WANT to speak with you. Given what I know of you, I can't imagine you'd be the type to comment "nice legs" in a pic thread, and then immediately PM with a request for sex chat. I think there are many who believe the law of averages will eventually work in their favor, but if the number of entries to the asshat threads is anything to go by, somehow I don't think that's working out quite so well.

Perhaps you can point the OP to those ads?

 

[pplwatching]

Given what I know of you, I can't imagine you'd be the type to comment "nice legs" in a pic thread, and then immediately PM with a request for sex chat.

That's another subject. I would hate to thread-jack this discussion. How about you PM me and we'll chat?

 

[ElizaBennet33]

Post a personal ad that stands out

I have responded to a couple of very well written personal ads from younger guys. They seemed mature, respectful and talked about their likes/dislikes as well as describing themselves and what they were looking for.

I personally do not go through the forums searching for connections, but being active on them might make you stand out for other women.

 

[youngmilfhunter]

Make a nice sincere write up, clearly describe what are you looking for ans what you’re to offer. I believe you’d definitely get a response for your genuine posts and pick it up from there. Tip: Older women like Smart & Articulative mind, p.s., your size matters only when you able to break the ice and move forward.