Find A Woman Freaky As Yourself

[RazeByFire]

How does one do this? Actually I already found one. Alas, she is taken. Because I didn't move fast enough. And that really sucks. So I thought I would ask a board of (mostly) intelligent and sexually literate people how to find a woman who's into the the same nasty deeds that I am.

Let me say that I know the previous object of my desire was because of unbelievabe good luck and a blunt and honest nature. Not something that is found often.

So I guess the real question is- How do you find out-quickly? I guess I'm spoiled by the experience.

Where can I find a guide book or manual? Some wisdom that may tell me the hows' and whys' of dating and relationships. Thanks for listening, or not listening as the case may be. Nothing like shouting your cares and frustrations onto a bulletin board.

 

[temp256]

"Whisper the dirtiest thing you can think of into her ear. If she doesn't slap your face and walk away, she's yours for sure."
--News Radio

Maybe the freaky one you know isn't monogomous. If she's as freaky as you want, maybe she's open to threesomes.

 

[RazeByFire]

"Whisper the dirtiest thing you can think of into her ear. If she doesn't slap your face and walk away, she's yours for sure."
--News Radio

Maybe the freaky one you know isn't monogomous. If she's as freaky as you want, maybe she's open to threesomes.

Unfortunately, she's in love. Perhaps for the first time in her life. So I don't think so. And I really just want her for myself. I do not play well with others.

 

[M's girl]

Unfortunately, she's in love. Perhaps for the first time in her life. So I don't think so. And I really just want her for myself. I do not play well with others.

Good attitude in my book.

But on the other hand.... You want a girl all for yourself. So you want commitment I assume. Maybe you also want a relationship. If you are lucky you will find someone you can have both the feaky/kinky/wild sex ánd build a healthy relationship with. Somehow I wonder which one is higher on your wishlist.

If sex is all you are after, well.... put an ad somewhere on this board, in the personals or something. Go to other sex-sites and just advertise what you are looking for. I am not sure, though, you will find someone that way who will be interested in YOU rather than the sex you have to offer, but I may be wrong.

It's certainly not the way I would want to find someone to connect with.

 

[TBKahuna123]

How's your patience? Another route as opposed to finding a "freaky" girl, is to find someone who is maybe not freaky but openminded. Build a relationship based on trust, and you may find this openminded female begins to trust you enough to explore some of those freaky things.

It takes longer, but it's very exciting.

 

[senseeker]

How does one do this? Actually I already found one. Alas, she is taken. Because I didn't move fast enough. And that really sucks. So I thought I would ask a board of (mostly) intelligent and sexually literate people how to find a woman who's into the the same nasty deeds that I am.

Let me say that I know the previous object of my desire was because of unbelievabe good luck and a blunt and honest nature. Not something that is found often.

So I guess the real question is- How do you find out-quickly? I guess I'm spoiled by the experience.

Where can I find a guide book or manual? Some wisdom that may tell me the hows' and whys' of dating and relationships. Thanks for listening, or not listening as the case may be. Nothing like shouting your cares and frustrations onto a bulletin board.

.........Try ashley madison.com !!!....there are a lot of attached women...but also some more sexual open women on there !

 

[RazeByFire]

I think that I am just 'addicted' to having her around. Available to talk to about anything. And now she isn't and it's driving me crazy.

It's my fault really, I wasn't aggressive enough. Just let things be what they were instead of trying to make someting more.

THe guy sounds very much like me, so that hurts as well. She says he's nice and respectful of her, loyal and trustworthy. Doesn't get jealous easily. All things I think I have and yet- she's not with me. So- ouch.

 

[bisexplicit]

So, actually, you're not looking for someone.

You're hurting because you were left by someone - who happened to be "freaky."

Perhaps you are actually looking for advice on how to get over the pain?




(Shes a very freaky girl, kind you can't take home to mother...)

 

[RazeByFire]

It hurts

So, actually, you're not looking for someone.

You're hurting because you were left by someone - who happened to be "freaky."


Perhaps you are actually looking for advice on how to get over the pain?



(Shes a very freaky girl, kind you can't take home to mother...)

How can she have left me, if there was nothing between us other than 'friends'. I wanted it to be more but I waited too long. I was actually waiting till I got a car- it's hard to be 'with someone' if you can't be 'with' them. And now she's happy with someone else.


Do you have any advice about that? Anything more than the usual 'It'll get better over time.'? Specific things I can think instead? Ways to get my thoughts off that track? I could use some.

 

[SweetErika]

Do you have any advice about that? Anything more than the usual 'It'll get better over time.'? Specific things I can think instead? Ways to get my thoughts off that track? I could use some.

Sometimes writing down what I've learned to use in the future is helpful for me. Writing a "goodbye" letter (to the opportunity, your guilt, pain) and then burning or throwing it away, thereby physically and symbolically letting it go, can work as well. Think about how this is just a lesson, and put it in perspective (it's not the worst that could happen, and you're still friends, right?). Start a new activity, take a class, put more time into something you enjoy and make a big effort to meet new friends. Take action to make yourself happy, rather than remaining stagnant or dwelling on this.

As for finding someone who's open, I've done pretty well just talking to people, asking about their beliefs, and even telling them about Lit (their reaction, one of disgust, delight, interest, etc. can be a clue). This is no guarantee, but I'll usually just have a feeling that a person's as open as I am by how our conversations go. If they're embarrassed, try to end the conversation, or seem disinterested, we're probably not a match in this area because I enjoy partners who share my desire to communicate about sexuality.

 

[Cardinal]

It will never happen!
I take no pleasure in what I am about to share with you. What you are about to read is usually a closely held secret by us once young fun loving now married soccer dads. Be careful, be very careful, as what you are about to read will allow you to see your future.

• You will find the freak that you are looking for and the sex will be great! She will try any thing that you suggest and even have some great ideas of her own.
• You will soon learn that freaky women are low self esteem psychos that want nothing but the very air that you breathe
• However, the sex is really good so you stick it out for as long as you can, six months tops.
• You will meet and marry an intellegent, respectable woman because you can actually stand to go out to dinner with her and introduce her to family and friends without worrying about what she is going to say or do.
• About ten years later you will wake up and find that you have a nice wife who is a wonderful mother to your children and the sex is okay or even good but you will still be masturbating like you did when you were 16.
• You will never forget the freak, and everytime you are alone drinking Jack Daniels reading Penthouse or looking up "Hot Teen First-Timers" on the web you will think of the freak. The bad part is that you will only remember the freaky sex and not the psycho who threw the frying pan at your head in the morning because you used the wrong tooth paste or didn't clean the cat box how she likes it. ah but the sex was AWESOME!!

That's it, but at least you will have the memories. Please do all of us married guys a favor and when you find the freak...come back here often and tell us about it.
Good luck and God's speed my friend.

 

[bisexplicit]

Um, Cardinal, you lie.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Um, Cardinal, you lie.

BI's right dude, it don't work that way. Freaky women are psychos? Hmm... I'll be sure to tell my wife that.

 

[Cardinal]

No, sorry that is the truth. It's still a good life, I'm not complaining.

Although interesting side note; the longer that we are married and the kids getting older we are getting a little freakier and the sex is much better than it was a few years ago. I think we have gotten to a point where we know that after this many years why not?

 

[Cardinal]

"BI's right dude, it don't work that way. Freaky women are psychos? Hmm... I'll be sure to tell my wife that. "

Actually I said low self esteem psychos.

 

[SweetErika]

It will never happen!
I take no pleasure in what I am about to share with you. What you are about to read is usually a closely held secret by us once young fun loving now married soccer dads. Be careful, be very careful, as what you are about to read will allow you to see your future.

• You will find the freak that you are looking for and the sex will be great! She will try any thing that you suggest and even have some great ideas of her own.
• You will soon learn that freaky women are low self esteem psychos that want nothing but the very air that you breathe
• However, the sex is really good so you stick it out for as long as you can, six months tops.
• You will meet and marry an intellegent, respectable woman because you can actually stand to go out to dinner with her and introduce her to family and friends without worrying about what she is going to say or do.
• About ten years later you will wake up and find that you have a nice wife who is a wonderful mother to your children and the sex is okay or even good but you will still be masturbating like you did when you were 16.
• You will never forget the freak, and everytime you are alone drinking Jack Daniels reading Penthouse or looking up "Hot Teen First-Timers" on the web you will think of the freak. The bad part is that you will only remember the freaky sex and not the psycho who threw the frying pan at your head in the morning because you used the wrong tooth paste or didn't clean the cat box how she likes it. ah but the sex was AWESOME!!

That's it, but at least you will have the memories. Please do all of us married guys a favor and when you find the freak...come back here often and tell us about it.
Good luck and God's speed my friend.

So, what you're saying is all of the women right here at lit who have healthy and open attitudes about sex are either:
a) Emotionally crippled and terribly needy
b) Stupid and not respectable
c) Liars (we say we have great, regular, freaky sex, but we actually don't)
d) Still in the early stages of tricking our husbands
Right?

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

What I'm now saying is you're either:
a) A guy who thinks posting generalizations is funny
b) Some guy who resents he's not getting any and has lost touch with reality
c) A complete idiot
d) All of the above

 

[Cardinal]

a) I didn't call anyone else name no need to attack me for something that I wrote (you aren't wearing a brown shirt are you?)
2) I am funny, damn funny
c) You don't have a frying pan do you?
d) And I think your are respectable and smrt.

 

[RazeByFire]

Thanks Bi and Erika. You're both full of good advice, some of which I already know-(Isn't that what we really ask advice for anyay?) The good bye letter is something I do a bit of, more like a journal of what I am feeling. Though I don't destroy them, I like finding them a few years later and reading them. And I now understand why Sweet Erika is a household name on Lit.

I would suggest that there be created a sticky post in the Blank Manual- 'How to deal with Heartbreak'. With specifics as to how you can help yourself understand why you feel so awful, ways you can get through the bad times, tricks one might use to avoid overanalyzing things, etc. I'm sure many people would benefit.

And mentioning Literotica- that's how I found out so many of the dirty details that she shared with me that now only serve to drive me crazy. And I wrote her a few ummm letters. Which confused things for me. One would think that giving someone a handwritten piece of smut would clearly signal intent....

As for my situation, hopefully tomorrow I will be speaking to her and will be able to learn some important lessons. We are still friends so I hope she can tell me how to avoid making some of the mistakes I must have made.

It would be much easier if I could hate the guy, but she says he's a nice guy-'like me'. Is that maddening or what? Better than the previous guys she went out with, that's for sure. Immature, jealous and disrespectful assholes. I knew I should have moved faster but I can't see how I could have. Can you hear the teeth grinding in frustration here?

Thanks for listening.