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[chong112193]

My wife and I have swapped with other couples and we want to try a MFM and FFM. The problem is we are having a hard time finding singles. Really if im going to let another guy fuck my wife i want to like him. Does that seem odd? How can we find the singles we seek?

 

[silverwhisper]

there's two schools of thought on this:

1. only do this with someone you know, like a friend. this reduces the likelihood of a problem arising afterwards of someone being a jerk, but can increase the possibility of awkwardness or complications in your respective relationships.

2. only do this with someone you aren't already friends with. this reduces the likelihood of the awkwardness or complications, but can increase the possiblilty of the other party being a psycho. and if discretion is preferred, you know a lot less about this kind of person.

which makes more sense for you and your wife ultimately is up to you: there's no silver bullet, one-size-fits-all answer here.

as someone who's been in threesomes in the past, i personally favor the former. i have trouble being intimate with someone i don't know well and that's doubly true of my wife. what has worked for us may not suit you and there's nothing wrong with that. i'm sure that for others' experiences, the latter approach works better.

ed

 

[middlesex]

My wife and I started out swinging with couples,but then decided that threesomes (MMF) might be more exciting.We always met the men socially first,to be at ease with our choice.We found that,with two exceptions,married men were the most suitable because they were discreet.Good luck,you won't regret it.

 

[ElectricGinger]

Good thread! Nestle and I are trying to figure out the same thing. We've been interested in having threesomes, but we didn't realize it would be so difficult to find takers!

 

[SweetErika]

You could try a site like OKCupid (which is free and has quite a few openminded members, BTW). Make it clear that you're seeking friendship first and primarily, then, if everyone just happens to click on multiple levels, you're open to a threesome with another male or female.

IMO, that'd be the best of both worlds. You get the friendship/trust/whatever you need to feel comfortable without risking your relationships with current friends.

You should have no trouble finding single guys for a MFM if you're willing to put some effort into meeting people. It might be tough to find quality single guys you both click with on many levels, but there are many more of them than there are single women who are willing to join couples. If you're having trouble meeting MFM-open single guys, you may need to reevaluate your search methods (e.g. if you're using online personals, are you posting on the right sites, is your profile detailed and clear enough, do you provide or offer good pics, are you insisting on a coffee/drink date within a reasonable amount of time to weed out time-wasters, etc.?).