Find a Third?

[negentleman]

So I have this friend who is a very cute girl. We met on an online dating site and she recently expressed interest in finding another girl for us to play with together. Now this being my first time diving into this as anything more than a fantasy, I was wondering if anyone had some advice on how to pick up that other girl. Anything would be appreciated. Thanks!

 

[satindesire]

So I have this friend who is a very cute girl. We met on an online dating site and she recently expressed interest in finding another girl for us to play with together. Now this being my first time diving into this as anything more than a fantasy, I was wondering if anyone had some advice on how to pick up that other girl. Anything would be appreciated. Thanks!

1. Use recent clear photos of yourselves. Preferably together. You don't have to show your face if you're afraid of being outed, but if you don't show pictures of yourselves, you won't get a third of the replies you would if you DID have pictures.

2. Be willing to do the legwork. Finding a person that BOTH of you are attracted to, who's attracted to both of YOU, is going to be difficult. You'll talk to a lot of people, and most of them you won't like enough to have sex with or they'll just vanish without telling you why. If you give up easily, you won't find her.

3. Be polite. I know I shouldn't have to put this down, but honestly, too many adults lose the manners our parents made us have before we grow up. If you act like a respectable and friendly person, you'll have a lot more luck finding a third.

4. COMMUNICATE to your partner about this. Every permutation of this situation needs to be discussed. Boundaries, what's okay and what's not, who gets to do what. If you don't talk to your mate about this, there could be hurt feelings and crossed lines, which might possibly ruin your relationship.

5. Make sure you are fully aware of safety precautions you need to take to make sure no STDs are transmitted and there's no unwanted pregnancy. I know this might seem a bit of a buzz kill, but sex has consequences, and sex can be dangerous. Make sure you use condoms and dental dams, because oral sex CAN and has passed STDs for other people before. Also, if the third isn't on some form of hormonal birth control, you might want to think about skipping intercourse with her (if you planned on it) all together. Yes, condoms are good at preventing unwanted pregnancy, but they're NOT PERFECT. Doubling up on your methods of protecting yourself is preferable to just relying on condoms.

6. And most importantly, understand that your fantasy is going to be much better than the reality of this situation. People are human, fantasies are perfect. People have stray hair, cellulite, smells, noises, and awkwardness is common in sexual situations between new people. If you come into the threesome with a level head and don't expect perfection, you'll have a much better time.

 

[gemaussieslut]

having been this third person
I agree with EVERYTHING satindesire has said above and would like to restate BE POLITE!

don't jump to conclusions that I want sex straight away, offer coffee or dinner as a get to know you. (BOTH attend this - if I think you are a guy pretending to be a couple... then I will dissapear or not show up. I need to know you are both real!)

make sure you are all on the same page about do's and don'ts. Ie kissing and sex all round (during one of my experiences it was okay for me to kiss HER but not HIM. Sex was okay all around, but protection necessary. Anal for them was a private thing and was completely off the table.) SO check you are all on the same page about what is going to happen or what could happen