Find a book on sexual psychology

[catimann]

Looking for books, or for that matter anything you have read that opened your mind about sex.

 

[sunandshadow]

http://www.amazon.com/Body-Hot-Spot...qid=1362888936&sr=8-1&keywords=body+hot+spots

 

[EmaEsmerelda]

What every woman should know about Men- Dr. Joyce Brothers

The science is fascinating given the social context is a little out dated. She wrote it in the 80's.

 

[NightL]

This was posted here last year
Archives of Sexual Behaviour, published by Springer, is available free-of-cost online for a limited period, until the 30th of November 2012
http://link.springer.com/journal/volumesAndIssues/10508

Obviously 30th of November 2012 has past

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I find such books to be crap. I'm a retired psychologist. I say 'crap,' because I see no evidence that one size fits all when it comes to attraction and responses, most of what goes on is conditional, and transient.

If people were rational theyd make liaisons based on assets, common values, and common cause, and get their sex outside the relationship.

 

[chocolatecookie3]

I've heard Sex at Dawn is good, but I have never read it.

I read Skipping Toward Gomorrah by Dan Savage when I was a conservative virgin, and it blew my mind that people actually like sinning! It covers more than just sex, though.

 

[MatthewVett]

Psychopathia Sexualis, by Richard von Kraft-Ebbing. People are fucking nuts...

 

[njlauren]

A book written nearly 40 years ago (I think it is way out of print) called Sexual Landscapes.....some of what is in it is dated, but it also has some interesting insights into explaining weird things, like why do many women get turned on by gay porn, or reading adult gay romances? Why can we be attracted to something erotically yet it isn't us? It was interesting, not claiming it has all the answers, but it gave me a lot of food for thought. I didn't like Sex at Dawn, that whole evolutionary psychology stuff drives me up the wall, it is just too simple and easy an explanation for complex things, the whole nature versus nurture debate has taught me that people that promote such simple ideas, like for example that sexual monogamy is somehow against evolutionary requirements, is more about people with an agenda, like promoting sexual freedom and such (it isn't that being poly or monogamous or whatever is right or wrong, it is their claim that evolutionary psychology controls things, or that their conclusions are the absolute truth)......

 

[catimann]

I find such books to be crap. I'm a retired psychologist. I say 'crap,' because I see no evidence that one size fits all when it comes to attraction and responses, most of what goes on is conditional, and transient.

If people were rational theyd make liaisons based on assets, common values, and common cause, and get their sex outside the relationship.

Perhaps that is why there are so many books, only a small portion of the population will like any given one.

I love the last part. I think many people are starting to do just what you say, except they still expect that the sex will be good if all the rest matches up.

 

[kittykatx]

try some of the works of the Marquis de sade .........interesting reading!

 

[Kim_Burly]

I did some research into the possible roots of my proclivities and what I found was either flat-out wrong, my father never molested me, or disconcerting. How can anyone explain why a woman desires to be sexually used and degraded by a man in a flattering way? The bottom line is that it doesn't matter, I am who I am and i have accepted that.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I did some research into the possible roots of my proclivities and what I found was either flat-out wrong, my father never molested me, or disconcerting. How can anyone explain why a woman desires to be sexually used and degraded by a man in a flattering way? The bottom line is that it doesn't matter, I am who I am and i have accepted that.

Yeah, there are a lot of very bad "explanations" for BDSM out there. I know some people do use it as a vehicle for processing RL experiences of abuse, but there are plenty who don't.