Finally, someone who knows how to raise a child!

[SweetCherry]

I'm starting to feel that maybe there IS someone out there who knows not to let a child get away with bloody murder, after all the incidents with bullies I've seen the past year and beyond.

This afternoon, my daughter got home from school and informed me that a little girl who walked partway home with her was throwing rocks at her and her little friend who has since joined her and my nephew as they walk to school. I wasn't overly impressed with this, so I took a walk down the street with her to have a word with what I assumed to be her parents. It turned out that it was her daycare providers and I told them of the blond child's accusations

The man turned and said to the girl, "Is this true?"

The girl responded, "No, I didn't so it."

My response was "My daughter doesn't lie about things like this. I'm not accusing anyone, but if it DID happen, I don't want it to happen again. Throwing rocks is a good way for someone to get hurt and I don't want to see that." I then left and came home.

Later, I had walked to the store with my son, leaving my daughter at home with my ex who happened to be over on an unrelated chore. While I was gone, the girl came over with her mother who was none too happy with her child. She had gotten a confession out of the girl and had made her write an apology letter to the blond girl. I was quite impressed by this.

I am finally starting to have faith in the parents of the world. Just maybe there's someone out there in my area who's willing to put their foot down and make the child be accountable for his ot her actions. I'm planning on picking my children up from school on Monday and informing the girl that I'm not angry with her and that I understand she made a mistake. I intend on making sure the blond girl does the same.

Maybe there IS hope for the future generations yet.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I like to hear stories like that. Many people say that I'm too strict on my kids, but my belief is that if I'm responsible for raising someone decent and law-abiding, then it needs to start at home.

I haven't done anything like you described, but it certainly does give me some ideas. Luckily, I seldom have to resort to tactics like that, but thanks for the ideas anyways.

 

[SweetCherry]

Bob, last year my nephew was bullied all year long and I was fuming about it, but because he wasn't my child, I could do nothing until they actually involved MY child. I went off at the kids and also took it to the school. I have a very bright and happy child and I'm not going to let anyone change that. Hence, I tend to stamp out all possible threats immediately. The thing that might have made the othre girl's parents a bit more angry was that my daughter is only in 1st grade and she was 3rd or 4th grade. She also stood there and lied to both me and her daycare providers, and in essence accused another child (MY child) of lying. I'm glad to see tho that her mother took this seriously and cracked down on it right away.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I'm glad that you took care of the problem, and her parents did the right thing. Kids learn by example, and I think her parents gave her an example to reflect on for a long time.

My oldest daughter has problems with bullies in school also. Even though she is more than capable of handling them physically, she chooses not to do so. They pick on her because she is "smart"....and no matter how many times I tell her that being picked on by someone who is jealous of her being smart just shows their true colors, and that she should be proud of being smart, she still gets upset. Eventually she will understand.