Finally!!! A reason to be glad I'm not single!!!

[Calamity Jane]

Our septic tank backed up today, and needed pumped. I was soooo glad I could sit by the swingset and smoke while my husband had to dig through the mud and stand there while the pumper truck did it's thing!

Apparently, husbands do serve a purpose.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Okay. But that is only 1 so far.

 

[April]

They sometimes fix things.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Fixing things...I think that falls back into #1.

 

[freakygirl]

Do boyfriends turn into jerks when they become husbands?

Because.. we are discussing this marriage thing. I jumped into marriage quickly the first time. Didn't really know the man I married.

This time, I've taken 6 years to get to know the man. And he does alot.. takes the garbage out.. mows the lawn... takes care of my daughter if I want to sleep in... helps out around the house alot.. blah blah blah.. (All of this without being asked).

If things are going to change.. I won't get married. I'm kinda spoiled. Why ruin a good thing?

 

[Calamity Jane]

Yeah, I think fixing things and dealing with the septic tank fall into number one... I'm not feeling very generous.

 

[estevie]

Fixing things...I think that falls back into #1.

Well then, that about sums it up, eh?

 

[Calamity Jane]

My boyfriend changed -literally- the day after we got married. According to him "It was time to stop screweing around, and act like a grown-up". He still doesn't get it when I tell him that I married the boyfriend not the future husband type person.

Ok, I just realized that makes mostly no sense. But yeah, Freaks, they change. They change a lot.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Well then, that about sums it up, eh?

Yep.

In my 6 years of marriage and 11 years of being together. I think Mr. La Fay has only taken care of the above mentioned. That's only after I have tried and failed or end up scraming like a crazy woman.

He pretty much takes care of the shit.

 

[April]

Yeah, they do change. And not for the better generally. Marriage is over rated.

 

[estevie]

Ya know...my hubby didn't change. In fact, he hasn't changed one freakin' bit.


But I did.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Marriage is over rated.

Yup, I finally understand why they refer to it as 'The Institution of Marriage'

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Mr. La Fay changed, a lot. It wasn't what I signed up for.

I changed as well. This I hear from friends. I became softer. The thruth is I stopped arguing back, I pretty much gave up. I pick my battles now, after all the man is an over grown 5 year old.

 

[freakygirl]

Ok

so...


I shouldn't get married right?

The tax thing was buggin me too. I get more back filing single (head of household) than I would if I was married.

Only pro I can see about getting married is... I could be on his insurance.. Other than that.. I don't see reason for marriage.

I think I'll stay single.. if he wants to get married, he can find someone else

 

[estevie]

I pick my battles now, after all the man is an over grown 5 year old.

I hear ya, sister!

We shall prevail!

 

[juicygirl]

I bow to your superior knowledge ladies. Regular faithful fixing things sex partners that are monogamous so you don't get a nasty prick critter is all anyone really needs -- but does that mean you also have to be married?

 

[Calamity Jane]

Only pro I can see about getting married is... I could be on his insurance.. Other than that.. I don't see reason for marriage.

Doesn't your state have a domestic partnership clause? Here, all you have to do is own property together (a car works) and share an address for a 12 consecutive months, and you're considered domestic partners, and employers have to cover you (and any children you may have) on insurance. I don't know if it's set up that way because Missouri doesn't recognize common law marriage, but check into it.

All the benefits with none of the crap.

 

[Rubyfruit]

... my husband had to dig through the mud and stand there while the pumper truck did it's thing!

I bet you could pay somebody to do that.

 

[freakygirl]

Doesn't your state have a domestic partnership clause? Here, all you have to do is own property together (a car works) and share an address for a 12 consecutive months, and you're considered domestic partners, and employers have to cover you (and any children you may have) on insurance. I don't know if it's set up that way because Missouri doesn't recognize common law marriage, but check into it.

All the benefits with none of the crap.

No I don't think anything like that is available. Unless we were gay. I think (don't quote me on that).

But I'll check into it..

 

[ksmybuttons]

I am married.

My husband took out the dead mouse that the cat brought into the house the other day. He also catches the birds that the cat brings into the house.

He cooks dinner every night and also cleans up. I empty the dishwasher rarely.

He takes care of our son during the day on the days that I work and he is a very good father.

He cleans the toilet. (I only pee in it, not on it, so I think that is fair.)

He does his own laundry, takes out the garbage.

He cannot see anything below his balls, so if it is on the floor, it is my job.

He calls the people for which I leave him a list to deal with the things that are broken around the house.

He makes me happy in bed when we do play.

I won't list the things that irritate the hell out of me because I know he has his list of the things that irritate him about me...

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Finally!!! A reason to be glad I'm not single!!!

I bet you could pay somebody to do that.

______

Or better yet... find someone else... who would gladly do it...

for FREE!

 

[ScarlettRose]

I won't list the things that irritate the hell out of me because I know he has his list of the things that irritate him about me...

funny, that's exactly what i tell people about my guy

He's pretty much Mr. Mom right now since he has flexible work hours and mine are fixed. We've both changed since we got married ten years ago, thank goodness. Wouldn't life be awfully dull otherwise?

 

[ksmybuttons]

He's pretty much Mr. Mom right now since he has flexible work hours and mine are fixed. We've both changed since we got married ten years ago, thank goodness. Wouldn't life be awfully dull otherwise?

Same here. I love him. We are good together. And, yes, life would be dull without "us." Better than just "me."

 

[markb325]

I won't list the things that irritate the hell out of me because I know he has his list of the things that irritate him about me...

I think that is a fact in any long term relationship. I know I do thing that irritate the hell out of my SO.

 

[calypso_21]

Ya know...my hubby didn't change. In fact, he hasn't changed one freakin' bit.


But I did.

Ditto estevie! Big time!