Fifty ways to leave your lovers..

[Guest]

The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer is easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

She said it's really not my habit to intrude
For the more, I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
So I repeat myself, at the risk of being cruel
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover.

How do you let go? How do you tell someone or something that's become a part of your existence, maybe even a part of you 'goodbye'?
For me it's far better to burn your bridges than to keep them standing. Or it should be.
I'm always looking back. I like to cling to the past while reaching for the future; inevitably, I flounder in the present.
I'm not only talking about the relationship between two people, there are the companies and beliefs and habits that seem too strong to change. You'd think at nineteen I wouldn't be so attached to any one set of thoughts, patterns but here I am, rolling my brain around in the same circle it's explored time after time. I'm making the same mistakes I always make and not because I don't know what I should be doing but I can't get up the courage, resolve, or common sense to make a change.

Has anyone else had this problem? What was happening? What did you do? How did things change?

How do you let go?

 

[fgarvb1]

My god chill out.!! Don't be so hard on yourself you are only nineteen.!! Sounds like your about where you should be.
You are just now starting to really grow up. One of the hardest things in life is learning that we do not have to get everything right the first time or even the second for that matter.

 

[*Jennifer-In-Flares*]

its even harder to think of 1 way to leave fifty lovers!!!!! i'm only joking. i'm not that big of a slut. *jenny*

 

[Never]

fgarvb1:
"My god chill out.!! Don't be so hard on yourself you are only nineteen.!! Sounds like your about where you should be.
You are just now starting to really grow up. One of the hardest things in life is learning that we do not have to get everything right the first time or even the second for that matter."

Only nineteen?
Please sir, tell me at what age I should consider making something of my life. Perhaps when I'm only twenty-nine? Thirty-nine? Forty-nine?

I'm surrounded by people who are miserable with their life because they didn't do what they should have when they could have. I want to make something of my life because, in truth, I look back at the last nineteen years of my life and see only wasted time.
For your information, I spent my first two decades 'chilling out' and have nothing to show for it but a worthless job, 'friendship' with a group of anal-retentive, mindless bigots and the dawning realization that everything I've ever thought I could do or be is a fucking pipedream.
I don't want to chill. I'm sick of chilling. I'm sick of my life, I'm sick of this board, I'm sick of waking up everyday knowing it's as worthless as the day before and the day after. But most of all I'm sick of myself because everything changes but me.

... Okay, maybe I need to chill a bit.
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Just think some happy thoughts.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I am in the process of missing your brilliance, dear.

To partially answer your question, I don't really know how I let go except with a firm resolve and well schooled avoidance techniques.

The worst thing is the pain associated with the non-contact when it would be easier to give in and be in a 'comfortable' zone...

 

[April]

Move. Seriously, just pack up some of your stuff and leave. It's the bravest thing you can do. Scary as hell, but you never know what you can do until you have no choice.