Fidelity in an on line relationship

[MissTaken]

When you are involved with someone on line, what parameters do you follow?


How do you know when the time is right to make a commitment to your on line, long distance lover?

I am looking for responses in both arenas.

Those involved in an online relationship with the intent of meeting and those who are not going to meet.

I am in the mood for a discussion...anybody with me?

 

[intrigued]

When you are involved with someone on line, what parameters do you follow?


How do you know when the time is right to make a commitment to your on line, long distance lover?

I am looking for responses in both arenas.

Those involved in an online relationship with the intent of meeting and those who are not going to meet.

I am in the mood for a discussion...anybody with me?

Yeah...I'm with you, but let me finish up dinner and I'll be back!

 

[SweetCherry]

*peeks in and waves*

Hi MissT. I just had to look in here.



I think you know where I stand on this topic.

 

[I'mVan]

IMHO, don't make a commitment to an on-line lover. Make a commitment to a real lover. Cherry is been a delightful 'prove-me-wrong' here, but I wouldn't suggest it. Having made a commitment, be commited to it.

 

[MissTaken]

*peeks in and waves*

Hi MissT. I just had to look in here.



I think you know where I stand on this topic.

You bet!

It is good to see you.

<hugs>

 

[scrymettet]

I am in the mood for a discussion...anybody with me?

I am always in mood for a discussion with you but I know nothing on the topic, So how are you to day ?

 

[MissTaken]

IMHO, don't make a commitment to an on-line lover. Make a commitment to a real lover. Cherry is been a delightful 'prove-me-wrong' here, but I wouldn't suggest it. Having made a commitment, be commited to it.

Well, if you are talking with someone for purposes of meeting and their is evidence of trust and affection, when do you stop searching, talking to other ladies who think you are available.

One of my beliefs is that many relationships that start on line don't make it because returning to the "Candy store" is easy.

The internet has made the world a much smaller place and there are millions of single people out there looking for just what you got!

 

[MissTaken]

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I am always in mood for a discussion with you but I know nothing on the topic, So how are you to day ?

Doing okay, my sweet friend!

How are you?

 

[MissTaken]

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Yeah...I'm with you, but let me finish up dinner and I'll be back!

Looking forward to it!

 

[LordLucan74]

When you are involved with someone on line, what parameters do you follow?


How do you know when the time is right to make a commitment to your on line, long distance lover?

I am looking for responses in both arenas.

Those involved in an online relationship with the intent of meeting and those who are not going to meet.

I am in the mood for a discussion...anybody with me?

THERE ARE NO REAL RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE

GET A LIFE!!!!

 

[MissTaken]

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THERE ARE NO REAL RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE

GET A LIFE!!!!

They are simply different relationships.

You have a "relationship" with your grocer, your mechanic, your child's teacher and your lover.

They are all different.

For me, "relationships" on line are highlighted by friendship more than love, lust and fireworks.

However, I appreciate your different opinion.

 

[LordLucan74]

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Yeah...I'm with you, but let me finish up dinner and I'll be back!

[personal info removed]

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!

GOD SAVE THE QUEEN!!!

 

[scrymettet]

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Doing okay, my sweet friend!

How are you?

great as usual. Snowing near you ?

 

[MissTaken]

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great as usual. Snowing near you ?

A bit!

We are expecting much more later.

*sigh*

 

[QuickDuck]

hmmm why did that seem like lunky is posting someone else's personal information, something that time and time again is stated to be a breaking of the few rules the boards have?

 

[LordLucan74]

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They are simply different relationships.

You have a "relationship" with your grocer, your mechanic, your child's teacher and your lover.

They are all different.

For me, "relationships" on line are highlighted by friendship more than love, lust and fireworks.

However, I appreciate your different opinion.

I got involved with a person on LIT once. She proved to be a child abusing nut-case!!! With issues besides!!! Hated the word LOVE!!! Acted as if it were "impale me on a long pike!!!" Nut Cases!!

Meet real people in real LIFE!!!

 

[I'mVan]

One of my beliefs is that many relationships that start on line don't make it because returning to the "Candy store" is easy.

Then, again, in my opinion, that relationship wasn't meant to be. And would have simply been more hurtful if it had ended later. I say, never give your love away on-line. You just don't know enough about a person, no matter how deeply you think yu talk, and how honest you both are.

 

[MissTaken]

hmmm why did that seem like lunky is posting someone else's personal information, something that time and time again is stated to be a breaking of the few rules the boards have?

I reported the post....

 

[scrymettet]

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A bit!

We are expecting much more later.

*sigh*

You can have mine.

 

[MissTaken]

. I say, never give your love away on-line. You just don't know enough about a person, no matter how deeply you think yu talk, and how honest you both are.

So, for you, it takes love to lead to exclusivity?

Or no?

 

[patient1]

Well, if you are talking with someone for purposes of meeting and their is evidence of trust and affection, when do you stop searching, talking to other ladies who think you are available.

One of my beliefs is that many relationships that start on line don't make it because returning to the "Candy store" is easy.

The internet has made the world a much smaller place and there are millions of single people out there looking for just what you got!

That sounds pretty snappy, but I'm looking for Cinderella, not a Whitman's sampler. When the shoe fits , the search is over. Nothing like the net for doing a search.

I don't stop talking to other ladies who think I'm available, but I explain I'm not. They'll fade away unless they're interested in freindship.

 

[Ishmael]

hmmm why did that seem like lunky is posting someone else's personal information, something that time and time again is stated to be a breaking of the few rules the boards have?

I reported it QD. Not to worry.

Ishmael

 

[His_kitty]

I'm going to discuss this as something more than just a cyber fuck situation, or someone who you play with and the strongest emotion you both have is friendship or hell even mutually respect.

When you are involved with someone on line, what parameters do you follow?

I tell men up front that I'm not exclusive, which of course means they don't need to be with me either. But that doesn't mean that I care to hear about who they've cybered lately and what they did. Nor will they hear the reverse from me. I consider that personal and private not to mention respectful of everyone involved.

There have been cases where it was discussed up front that it would be an exclusive relationship. That while we might flirt and tease with others, we wouldn't cyber anyone else.

How do you know when the time is right to make a commitment to your on line, long distance lover?

In the past I've slid into being exclusive with them no matter my intentions to the contrary. Sometimes these things just happen, you gravitate to each other. Sometimes it just hits you how you feel about someone then you analyze your feelings for them and you realize that you've not wanted anyone else but that person.

I don't think its one thing. I think its just something you know. When you stop thinking about anyone other than that person you're hooked up with sexually. When you naturally gravitate to each other. When they are the primary reason you even bother logging on. When you've had a shitty day and you need a caring ear to hear your whining, or when something wonderful happens its that person that you rush to tell first.


I hope that some sense can be made out of this, I know I've butchered my thoughts all to pieces.

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks, kitty.

I do believe in being up front.

And yes, for me the issue goes way beyond cyber sex (somethign I don't do) or phone sex.

There is an emotional attachment that might make me consider or become exclusively involved with one person.

I do realize others chose a different path, if it works for them, it is cool.

 

[LordLucan74]

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I'm going to discuss this as something more than just a cyber fuck situation, or someone who you play with and the strongest emotion you both have is friendship or hell even mutually respect.



I tell men up front that I'm not exclusive, which of course means they don't need to be with me either. But that doesn't mean that I care to hear about who they've cybered lately and what they did. Nor will they hear the reverse from me. I consider that personal and private not to mention respectful of everyone involved.

There have been cases where it was discussed up front that it would be an exclusive relationship. That while we might flirt and tease with others, we wouldn't cyber anyone else.

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In the past I've slid into being exclusive with them no matter my intentions to the contrary. Sometimes these things just happen, you gravitate to each other. Sometimes it just hits you how you feel about someone then you analyze your feelings for them and you realize that you've not wanted anyone else but that person.

I don't think its one thing. I think its just something you know. When you stop thinking about anyone other than that person you're hooked up with sexually. When you naturally gravitate to each other. When they are the primary reason you even bother logging on. When you've had a shitty day and you need a caring ear to hear your whining, or when something wonderful happens its that person that you rush to tell first.


I hope that some sense can be made out of this, I know I've butchered my thoughts all to pieces. [/B]

Anyone in an "exclusive" online relationship is crying out for a REAL LIFE!!!!