FemDom Rituals that enhance FLR

[NancyPan]

Another ritual that we have that very much reinforces the FLR dynamic is that it is my job to hand wash Her bras and shapewear. I find this both arousing and humiliating (especially if She is around to observe me doing it). I know no “traditional” man would ever consider doing such a task.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I haven't got them as I'm not in a D/s relationship, but I'd love to have some.

I've talked about it with some Trans Dommes who'd have me service their friends, drink their pee, crawl around in a leash and collar, keep my clitty caged, spank me, have me clean their house and car naked or in a bikini, lick their pussies, arseholes, or their cocks and cum, etc.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Does it count if we're both female?

To a large degree, we're just a mostly vanilla - if same gender - couple. I even had to 'teach' her to be dominant. But as time has shown, either she had it inside her all along, or she really took to it with vigor.

Like I said, on any regular wednesday (or whatever), we might as well be totally vanilla. But for special occasions, she'll ride me hard, mostly figuratively. Like, let's say we're visiting my family. They're still vaguely surprised I'm with a woman, but not as such super aware of the power distribution among us. And she doesn't require me to tell them, but she does demand that I show her proper respect. So, say someone asks about how we're doing financially, I'll answer something like 'thank god Ms. Secher takes care of that, she's much better at that sort of thing than I am.' I use the Ms. Secher as a term of endearment - or occasional taunt - so that in itself doesn't raise any eyebrows.

Also, I'll certainly be wearing a buttplug, and propably something symbolic of some sort. Like, I have a tiny gold key pendant I wear around my neck.

Oh, and she texts me my 'score'. Plus points for being a good girl, minus for being bad - so any negative score is taken out on my backside. A positive score usually results in something I really enjoy, even if that could still look like a punishment. Like .. drinking her urine. Or licking her feet.

It sounds like she treats you very well.

 

[artslut86]

I haven't got them as I'm not in a D/s relationship, but I'd love to have some.

I've talked about it with some Trans Dommes who'd have me service their friends, drink their pee, crawl around in a leash and collar, keep my clitty caged, spank me, have me clean their house and car naked or in a bikini, lick their pussies, arseholes, or their cocks and cum, etc.

What's the general fascination in drinking another person's piss?

 

[pumperguy191]

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This is slowly becoming a morning routine in our relationship.

Ok, are you wearing them or are you picking them out for the Mrs

 

[Baddad2004]

Ok, are you wearing them or are you picking them out for the Mrs

Wearing just about every day…

 

[pumperguy191]

Wearing just about every day…

Good for you,

 

[Mike302]

What's the general fascination in drinking another person's piss?

Answered well at post #22.

 

[Baddad2004]

Good for you,

She got me a bunch of my own for Christmas. All the stuff I want her to wear… karma I guess

 

[cocktaildress21]

It sounds like she treats you very well.

She does. But then, I occasionally suck her toes, so I guess it goes both ways? =)

 

[oneguy4fun]

We have a weekly review ritual. Although we call it the weekly review it is much more than that. It occurs on a day where I have chores to do and am not permitted speak to my Goddess wife unless she asks me a direct question. By the time the ritual starts I have already spent the day in silence and serving Goddess. It starts with me drawing her bath and then shaving her legs and bathing her. I am in nothing but a collar, cuffs, and crotch less sissy panties. I dry her off afterwards. I love how she makes little effort to accommodate me when I dry her off. I must scurry around her body with a towel, drying each body part. Then it’s review time. I stand quietly while she hold my cock and reviews my performance for the past week and sets expectations for the upcoming week. With my cock in her hands I am hyper focused on her.

Next I massage her body, kissing every body part before massaging it. I finish by kissing her ass and then kneeling by the side of the bed. I then ask if she would like me to pleasure her body. If yes (I always hope for yes!) I will wait for her instructions on how she wants me to please her. There is never orgasms allowed for me on review nights so the pleasure will be 100% focused on her. If her answer is no, I will remain kneeling quietly until she releases me. The ritual ends with me kneeling in the corner, reflecting on what was discussed in the review and preparing to be a good submissive husband in the upcoming week. Standard corner time is 15 minutes but if there were negative items in my review

 

[FantasySharer1]

Posted this in a similar thread before but it's useful here. Any of these can become a daily or regular ritual.

I love the idea of bodily worship, and it would involve a near TOTAL acceptance of your lover's body. Some of the ideas I've had, and have only done a few at home involve:

• Swallowing her saliva or having her spit in your mouth.
• Licking her body clean after a run.
• Drinking her breastmilk
• Get a wedding band and get it inscribed: "I am the property of <name>".
• You can get two rings, one with the inscription inside where its dangerous or inappropriate to have it on the outside (in front of your boss, etc), and another one where you can have it on the outside of the ring (at Whole Foods, etc)
• Every time she pisses, your job is to lick her clean.
• Give her manicures and pedicures. Learn how to do it.
• Be naked around her as much as possible. As property, you dont wear clothes.
• Make a ritual - every time she comes home or you come home, you must kneel and kiss her pussy. Non-negotiable as a ritual.
• Iron her clothes, laundry them, and you are not allowed to wash her panties till you've licked the gusset clean.
• She never showers until you've licked her clean from head to toe first.
• You don't eat until she has spit into your food. Just saliva is good. Everything you eat has her essence in it. Pussy juice also acceptable if available.
• Rub her feet, all the time. Get amazing at it. The default when you sit together on a couch is that you're rubbing her feet.
• Use her pussy juice as hair gel. And face lotion. Smell like her. Carry the scent of her pussy anywhere it doesn't inconvenience others.
• Use her used towels. Never a fresh one.
• Sleep with her used panties on your pillow so her scent is what you sleep to
• She should never piss in a toilet ever again at home. Always into a cup, which you drink or into your mouth. (Make sure you both drink plenty of water. And be aware of medications. If she's on meds this is a bad idea as it will affect you.)
• Punishments are through body worship-related punishments. If you are being punished, perhaps you don't get to eat regular food that day/week. Instead, she chews everything and spits it out onto your plate, coated in her saliva. That's what you eat. Pre-masticated food soaked in her essence. You lose couch privileges and have to sit at her feet when hanging out. If she enjoys edible things in her vagina like grapes (uncut) or anything else that doesn't leave sugar behind inside her that can cause an infection, that's how you eat fruit from now on. You don't just wash an apple and eat it. It has to be soaked in her pussy juices.
• Her dirt and byproducts are a sacred thing for you. Her earwax? You use it like an ointment or cream on your own ears (on the outside, don't put it in you'll block up your own hearing)
• Clean her bellybutton lint with your own hands. Throw it away because it's all bacteria that is not really *her* body. Just random microorganisms. But the cleaning is still your job.
• Go on vacation or a place you don't know and role play to everyone that you are her assistant. Call her Ms. MaidanName even if she carries your last name. Make it clear you are her assistant/secretary. Serve her publicly since no one knows you there. Let her scold you in front of everyone about some made up work stuff. Rub her feet, bring her drinks, serve her in front of everyone.
• When she cleans her nose, it's your job to get a napkin for her, clean her finger up.
• Eat your creampies out of her. If you cum inside her it's YOUR JOB to clean her up. Clean up your own mess.
• You don't just drink water from the tap. You drink water that she has gargled or swished around in her mouth.
• After you shower and get all cleaned up and dry, the first thing she does is rub her pussy juice all over your face and hair, marking you. You BELONG to her pussy. You exist to serve it.
  
  
• Sexy Laundry Duty: Washing her dirty panties in a small clean bucket of water by hand. Drinking the water to show subservience to her pussy.
• She spends a full day in her panties and then works out. They are drenched in sweat and pussy juice. She pisses into a jar, takes off her panties and dips them into the jar. Your job? To drink her piss out of the jar, grab her panties, and suck her piss off of every inch of fabric till it is only slightly damp. Wear the panties around neck and go to sleep with your tongue in her pussy.
• Not allowed to use towels to wipe your face. Her used panties only. Even if you smell like her pussy, it is fitting. Your job is to serve her pussy anyways

 

[NancyPan]

The last post to this thread was nearly a year ago, and was complete fantasy (which seemed to kill the thread), rather than from one of us actually in a female-led relationship.

I’d like to see if there is any interest in reviving the thread with Real Life Examples of simple daily or weekly rituals that keep FLRs alive.

I’ll start: When She prepares for bed at night, She drops Her panties on the closet floor. I am allowed to pick them up and put them in Her special lingerie hamper. Once a week I am allowed the privilege of hand-washing Her panties and bras. Sniffing is forbidden unless I first ask permission which I find particularly humiliating, but often will ask for because the desire is overwhelming, especially if in a period of prolonged denial.

 

[Dearelliot]

With my professional 60 yr old Domme, When she arrives, I ask if she wants tea and of course she does. I bring the tea and two cups and pour her cup, but She pours mine from between her legs. and I must drink it all down. She often spits in my cup of "women's tea"...I see her seldom as we can only play when my wife is away...3 times a year maybe. $300 for the session

 

[NancyPan]

With my professional 60 yr old Domme, When she arrives, I ask if she wants tea and of course she does. I bring the tea and two cups and pour her cup, but She pours mine from between her legs. and I must drink it all down. She often spits in my cup of "women's tea"...I see her seldom as we can only play when my wife is away...3 times a year maybe. $300 for the session

I do understand this and have no judgement because I have a tremendously powerful need to serve. I might well be in your situation if my Wife did not understand my need to submit to her. Yet, I can’t help but feel sad for you that you are not able to experience the joy of a FLR lifestyle. That being said, drinking Her tea as you do (as She watches) is an incredible act of submission and something I would love to be required to do by my Wife (but that is not her style).

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

I start off each morning waking up and putting a pot a coffee on. Then I return to our room kneel on my wife's side of the bed. I raise the blanket off her while she still sleeps or lays there reading. I kiss her ass cheeks for however long she sees fit. Sometimes it ends with just that. Others I am told to lick her asshole or her pussy. Once she is satisfied I straighten up still on my knees with my hands behind my back as she pulls on my cock cage and pulls and squeezes my balls. Sometimes she'll like my balls and inside the wholes of my cage. Then I'm told to get her a cup of coffee and head to work. Head is usually spinning the first hour or two of my day.

 

[NancyPan]

Rituals and protocols are an important part of keeping a FLR vibrant. One of myfavorites is handwashing her intimates.

 

[Belong2Her]

Kissing my Wife's feet when She returns home from work.

 

[switchersm]

My wife and I have a ritual every morning.
If my wife wakes up, I say good morning princess, did you sleep well?
You too? is your answer then.
Then we cuddle up, stroke each other, scratch the back and butt very slightly and I tell my wife how good she looks, how wonderful her soft big tits and her round butt feel.
She purrs like a kitten.
Then her hand glides between my legs, strokes the cage and then knead my balls with a firm grip. In between, she stimulates my cock between the cage rings, which swells through this and the balls massage.
Oh, someone is horny, wants to get out. But he is not allowed. not allowed to fuck and not to spurt. Your useless cock remains nicely closed. So and now I want to wake you up properly.
With the flat hand, she strikes my balls 30-40 times, which then burn really nicely.
Then she presses my head between her thighs and I start licking her pussy slowly and intensively to her first orgasm of the day.
Then I shower and make breakfast while my wife is showering.
So we celebrate the start of the day every morning. And this also on all weekends, when my wife's lover, stayed with us in bed.

 

[NancyPan]

Something we started recently that I like and is helping me: Each week I stand in front of her, she is fully clothed and seated. I wear only panties. I report on my behavior, chore completion, listening, obedience, respect, and any difficulty I have had with urges to masturbate over the last week (I am not locked, my orgasm management is on the honor system). She likes it that I show honesty and humility in admitting when I have been inadequate in pleasing her, and also when I admit my struggles to be a good boy and not masturbate. It helps me to know that I will be reporting to her. I give her the count of how many days since her last orgasm, and mine. Today her count is 5 days, mine 22 days. She’s been busy. She’s due! I am in a heightened state of arousal!

 

[LinusLattimore]

Something we started recently that I like and is helping me: Each week I stand in front of her, she is fully clothed and seated. I wear only panties. I report on my behavior, chore completion, listening, obedience, respect, and any difficulty I have had with urges to masturbate over the last week (I am not locked, my orgasm management is on the honor system). She likes it that I show honesty and humility in admitting when I have been inadequate in pleasing her, and also when I admit my struggles to be a good boy and not masturbate. It helps me to know that I will be reporting to her. I give her the count of how many days since her last orgasm, and mine. Today her count is 5 days, mine 22 days. She’s been busy. She’s due! I am in a heightened state of arousal!

Beautiful. This description of yours is so loving. My Missus and I do not have a continuous FLR. It happens in what we call a mode. A mode session usually lasts about a week. Once, years ago, we held one for almost two months. We both get a little numb after a while, which is why we use the mode technique. We both have to be in the mood, but once it starts, its continuation is up to her. I love this thread. I'll show it to her next time we seem to be approaching another mode session.

 

[NancyPan]

Beautiful. This description of yours is so loving. My Missus and I do not have a continuous FLR. It happens in what we call a mode. A mode session usually lasts about a week. Once, years ago, we held one for almost two months. We both get a little numb after a while, which is why we use the mode technique. We both have to be in the mood, but once it starts, its continuation is up to her. I love this thread. I'll show it to her next time we seem to be approaching another mode session.

Thank you. I don’t want to let it lapse or fade. I truly am a better person with her leadership, and I love staying aroused for her. I know we have friends (couples) who are no longer sexually active in their marriages. Our FLR keeps the flame burning!

 

[SPARTAN047]

Kissing my Wife's feet when She returns home from work.

Good one, very sexy.

 

[LinusLattimore]

Thank you. I don’t want to let it lapse or fade. I truly am a better person with her leadership, and I love staying aroused for her. I know we have friends (couples) who are no longer sexually active in their marriages. Our FLR keeps the flame burning!

Understandable. We have a variety of modes. Variety is the key word for us.