Female Voyeurs...any clue?

[Cyndeveaux]

My b/f lives in a small mountain community. A older female neighbor of his, who has lived there alone for the last 26 yrs in her current home, has some patterns for finding her subjects. One is my b/f. And we know it's for sexual reasons..not by accident, as it happens when my b/f is taking care of himself when I'm not there. His house is blocked by bushes, but she sits in the bushes hidden from the street view so no one can see her.

We are curious about her tendencies and what exactly she is getting from watching over a long period of time? In my b/f's case, we found out she had been watching him for over a year before we actually found out. My b/f has been able to figure out that she has a route she follows late at night (good excuse is walking her dogs) and that there are others she has worked out a time frame and routine for.

We have no interest in exposing her. Just curious about what her real wants and needs are and how they are being fulfilled. What drives her to watch the same person over and over and over?

Any insights would be much appreciated.

 

[awet14u]

Well she is an older lady, who lives alone.....

She may have a cougar tendancy where she likes younger men. Perhaps fantasizing about him being her boyfriend..... but she has been watching for a while now and hasn't attempted to groom him to be her boyfriend.

Or perhaps she is old enough to be his mother. And maybe she didn't have a son of her own and always fantasized about "watching" her "son" pleasure himself.

I wouldn't be too worried about it, unless she is making advances at your boyfriend. If it makes you uncomfortable, I would suggest to my boyfriend that he needs to take care of his need in an area where she cannot see him.

 

[amofiga]

I have this notion that if women weren't conditioned as young girls by their parents, teachers, church to be so inhibited about sex, they would in many ways be just like men when it came to being interested and aroused by seeing naked men just as men are aroused to see naked women. However, boys and men are often given "permission" to look and touch their own bodies a lot more than girles and women who are taught to be modest and controlled with their sexual desires. Boys and men see a naked woman and look. Women see a naked man and (at least in public) are taught to be horrified and hide their eyes. It's silly, stupid, probably against true human nature, and goes back to a lot of "Victorian" ideas. Other female animals in nature don't seem to display the same aversion and "horror" at the presence of a naked male animal. I'd say we don't see more female "peepine Toms" because girls are conditioned from the time they are toddlers to be "ladies" and "nice". Just my two cents worth.

As far as the original post, if the woman is just looking, then your BF just has to keep his shades drawn and not let himself be seen if he doesn't want to be seen. Just as there are a lot of peeing Tom's around, there are also a lot of people who like being peeped at.

 

[dougsan]

Unless you enjoy being the object of a peeping tom you should call the police. The woman is not OK and could use some counceling. Help is not a hindurance.

 

[FistedSister]

Unless you enjoy being the object of a peeping tom you should call the police. The woman is not OK and could use some counceling. Help is not a hindurance.

Spelling could be a hindrance. And yes, counseling can help.

 

[HussarVanburen]

I have this notion that if women weren't conditioned as young girls by their parents, teachers, church to be so inhibited about sex, they would in many ways be just like men when it came to being interested and aroused by seeing naked men just as men are aroused to see naked women.

Anthropologically speaking, your theory doesn't hold water. Women really are less sexually attracted to visual stimuli than men. This has been shown across cultures.

However, boys and men are often given "permission" to look and touch their own bodies a lot more than girles and women who are taught to be modest and controlled with their sexual desires. Boys and men see a naked woman and look. Women see a naked man and (at least in public) are taught to be horrified and hide their eyes. It's silly, stupid, probably against true human nature, and goes back to a lot of "Victorian" ideas. Other female animals in nature don't seem to display the same aversion and "horror" at the presence of a naked male animal. I'd say we don't see more female "peepine Toms" because girls are conditioned from the time they are toddlers to be "ladies" and "nice". Just my two cents worth

Yes, animals don't have clothes. There is no horror over nudity when...there are no clothes.

There is no horror over nudity in savage societies, either. But it doesn't make women obsessed with looking at penises.